Catalin:
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

BiafranBushBoy:


I don't even understand you...!!!

Don't tell me of your progress because I don't need it!!

MsLady39:
Hi Loyallove,
You have my prayers...transparency is what God can work with. You have a lot of feedback here, buy I suggest you move through some of these comments wisely.
Nonetheless, I totally understand what you are saying. Your flesh is warring against the Spirit. Oftentimes, the flesh wins out. Trust me, I know.
Let me encourage you on one thing you said. You were wondering if you've reached your grace period from God...cause you keep having a "roller-coaster" spiritual experience. As long as you can acknowledge the sin, have a desire to be delivered from it, & put forth some effort to make wise choices to help steer you away from temptations, then God is still there. The Holy Spirit hasn't left you....but you need to seriously fast & prayer. Be determined to gain victory through Christ Jesus! Sincere, fervent prayer works...especially for things that one knows is God's will. You know it is God's will that you be delivered from sexual sin (in whatever form it comes).

nmreports:


You seem experiened. Really wish you can say one or two things to help this fellow or that can open his eyes if you have.

loyallove:
Totally agree, just that I keep asking myself how many times will I keep suffering one relapse after another. Sometimes I fear I might have tested God to the limit. I knew that what I am doing is totally wrong but just that I am helpless may God wash me off my sins

Franky826:


As far as am concerned God is ever merciful to a heart genuinely desiring repentance. Our minds are powerful tools why not replace them with godly thoughts through diligent study and practice of God's words than with lewd thoughts?.
Am not saying you should abuse grace but I've learnt a thing 'when you transgress against God run to him, don't flee from him'
Brother trusting God is a process doesn't happen instantaneously. You need to stop judging yourself and embrace God wholly. Don't assume you know, come to him empty and with a kid's mindset.
See you on the other side if victory

yvelchstores:
D reason I posted that was to let u knw ur problem is spiritual n not hormonal like ppl are telling u here.....pls note the love God has for u can never change. Trust him to help u. We hv Christ embassy church in owerri. Try visiting. U will learn how to overcome this.all d best

ElsonMorali:


On the surface it sounds good but that's a terrible reason to get married.

Guitarlife:
Infact Sex is the main reason why God created marriage.

The bible says "and for this reason shall a man leave his father and his mother and CLING to his wife and they shall become ONE flesh".

If you dont know, that passage was reffering to sex.

As long as OP is not married no amount of prayer or deliverance can stop him from having an erection early in the morning except he is impotent.

Its as simple as that.

Guitarlife:
Infact Sex is the main reason why God created marriage.

The bible says "and for this reason shall a man leave his father and his mother and CLING to his wife and they shall become ONE flesh".

If you dont know, that passage was reffering to sex.

As long as OP is not married no amount of prayer or deliverance can stop him from having an erection early in the morning except he is impotent.

Its as simple as that.

Ujoan:
Konji na bad thing. . .

Oga OP please stop being a 'Jew man' and get yourself a girlfriend. If you have a gf and understand that s3x is constantly available when you want it, you may not be so desperate anymore.

Meanwhile on a totally unrelated matter . . . I remember growing up my parents never let me have sugar with anything. My dad was diabetic and the fear of sugar was real meen. Fast forward to my University when I finally summoned up courage to add sugar to my pap. . . I swear it was the best 'virginity' I ever lost.

To this day I still over use sugar. . . .

ElsonMorali:


I disagree with you. Sex is not the MAIN reason why God created marriage and that passage you quoted is not referring to SEX per she.

The first and foremost reason why God created the union of man and woman is companionship.

Remember that Genesis passage? And God said it was not good that man should be alone...

That they become one flesh doesn't necessarily mean sex. Sure it does imply sexual intercourse, but it goes way deeper than that. Surely Christ didn't mean by that passage that once the act of sexual intercourse is no longer possible between the two maybe due to sickness of one of the partners, then the other must seek for divorce or start committing adultery.

That men have early morning attention doesn't mean they are animals incapable of self-control.

Addiction to anything is bad. Even sex. Too much of anything is eventually detrimental.

If he doesn't overcome his sex addiction before marriage, he won't be able to keep a stable home.

Quote me anywhere.




Hi,
I was gonna say most of what you said, but you took the words right out of my mouth! Beautifully written & absolutely true....

ElsonMorali:


1--- I disagree with you. Sex is not the MAIN reason why God created marriage and that passage you quoted is not referring to SEX per she.

2---The first and foremost reason why God created the union of man and woman is companionship.

3---Remember that Genesis passage? And God said it was not good that man should be alone...

4---That they become one flesh doesn't necessarily mean sex. Sure it does imply sexual intercourse, but it goes way deeper than that. Surely Christ didn't mean by that passage that once the act of sexual intercourse is no longer possible between the two maybe due to sickness of one of the partners, then the other must seek for divorce or start committing adultery.

5---That men have early morning attention doesn't mean they are animals incapable of self-control.

6---Addiction to anything is bad. Even sex. Too much of anything is eventually detrimental.

7---If he doesn't overcome his sex addiction before marriage, he won't be able to keep a stable home.

Quote me anywhere.

Guitarlife:


Now let me address ur response on a per line basis and please lets both reason together.

1---You said the passage was not refferring to sex per se ?

So pls answer these questions, what was it reffering to ?

2---What do you mean by companionship ?

Note that the bible was not written in english so you must address its words rather contextually and deeply therefore "companionship" here was not referring to talking or someone to gist with alone, biblical definition of companionship can be found in Ecclesiastes 4: 9 - 12. And notice it was not complete without the inclusion of lie together (which means sex).

3---Ofcourse , this sentence confirms my advise that he should go and marry, note the word "Man" and not "boy". If OP is a "Man" and not a "boy" then the bible itself just like you quoted has also advised him not to be alone saying it is not good.

Do you understand that passage at all ? The passage ended with "cling to his wife and become one flesh".

4---Re-read this sentence of yours and you will see that you are contracditing yourself. YOU first said that "it doesnt necessarily mean sex and then you said it means sex but its deeper : What should we believe?

5,6,7----- Are emotional statements aimed at appealing to sentiments. We all no that and getting married does not mean he is making it possible for himself to learn self control rather, he is positioning himself to be able to deal with all forms of sexual temptation.

Finally, recall that Peter also admonished every man to marry as a solution to sexual immorality (1st Corinthians 7:2)

"But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband"

Its important for you to acknowledge the power of sexual drive and stop spiritualising everything its like politicians who will always advise the masses to pray rather than stealing the money.

With all the prayers being said in Nigeria why is Germany a largely athiest country 200 times better than us in all forms of human indices ?

Its because we always attach deep spiritual meanings to things that require simple common sense.

A man is over 30years and is complaining of a strong sexual drive and you are advising him to be praying ?

So what will be the prayer point ? For God to take away his libido ?

Damnit Nigerians.

Pica:
@loyallove

I will like to speak to you privately. Are you on whatsapp?

Catalin:
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

Ujoan:
Konji na bad thing. . .

Oga OP please stop being a 'Jew man' and get yourself a girlfriend. If you have a gf and understand that s3x is constantly available when you want it, you may not be so desperate anymore.

Meanwhile on a totally unrelated matter . . . I remember growing up my parents never let me have sugar with anything. My dad was diabetic and the fear of sugar was real meen. Fast forward to my University when I finally summoned up courage to add sugar to my pap. . . I swear it was the best 'virginity' I ever lost.

To this day I still over use sugar. . . .

sisisioge:


Abi o. Do the deed with mutual consent before you get the license from the state to do it anyhow. All this paparazzi on top mating na wash! Get yourself a Bonita cikita.

By the way babes, may I please beg you to stop romancing sugar so hard? That thing is devil's cousin...but I love it too

thorpido:
Diabetes has a familial history.Take it easy with the sugar,biko.

FortuneTeller:
Get a porn blocking app for your phone. Find a single girl you can sponsor. Cut back on masturbating as you would a drug, every other day, every 2 days, every 3 days, continue on. You are facing a problem many men face now. This problem leads to inability to have normal sex with women and will lead to a failed marriage, unless you marry a lesbian.

loyallove:
For the first time in recent time I woke up today and spent over 30 minutes meditating on some scriptural thoughts that has uplifted my spirits

Psalms139:23, 24 Search through me, O God, and know my heart. Examine me, and know my anxious thoughts.24See whether there is in me any harmful way, And lead me in the way of eternity.

I think it all boils down to being genuinely repentant and making sincere effort to ensure that I don't go back to it again.
One thing is certain, Gods standard can never be changed to accommodate our weaknesses. Rather we need to change our standard to fit to Gods own standard. Having resolved to involve God in this battle, I just want to honestly ensure that I do my own part and watch God handle the rest. Thanks everyone for your advice. I have taken time to read them all and have taken the ones that best apply. I know a lot of people are passing through this same issues without knowing what else to do.
Thanks to everyone and lets stop the fight.

MsLady39:
A-men..that's beautiful! Persevere..even when the enemy tries to bring the temptations even heavier than before...that's his job. But remember to look to your Creator for strength to not yield & to be an overcomer!

Guitarlife:


Now let me address ur response on a per line basis and please lets both reason together.

1---You said the passage was not refferring to sex per se ?

So pls answer these questions, what was it reffering to ?

2---What do you mean by companionship ?

Note that the bible was not written in english so you must address its words rather contextually and deeply therefore "companionship" here was not referring to talking or someone to gist with alone, biblical definition of companionship can be found in Ecclesiastes 4: 9 - 12. And notice it was not complete without the inclusion of lie together (which means sex).

3---Ofcourse , this sentence confirms my advise that he should go and marry, note the word "Man" and not "boy". If OP is a "Man" and not a "boy" then the bible itself just like you quoted has also advised him not to be alone saying it is not good.

Do you understand that passage at all ? The passage ended with "cling to his wife and become one flesh".

4---Re-read this sentence of yours and you will see that you are contracditing yourself. YOU first said that "it doesnt necessarily mean sex and then you said it means sex but its deeper : What should we believe?

5,6,7----- Are emotional statements aimed at appealing to sentiments. We all no that and getting married does not mean he is making it possible for himself to learn self control rather, he is positioning himself to be able to deal with all forms of sexual temptation.

Finally, recall that Peter also admonished every man to marry as a solution to sexual immorality (1st Corinthians 7:2)

"But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband"

Its important for you to acknowledge the power of sexual drive and stop spiritualising everything its like politicians who will always advise the masses to pray rather than stealing the money.

With all the prayers being said in Nigeria why is Germany a largely athiest country 200 times better than us in all forms of human indices ?

Its because we always attach deep spiritual meanings to things that require simple common sense.

A man is over 30years and is complaining of a strong sexual drive and you are advising him to be praying ?

So what will be the prayer point ? For God to take away his libido ?

Damnit Nigerians.