Some months ago, Nkiruka Cara Okoro, a domestic violence survivor shared her inspiring story about being a survivor of an abusive marriage

Nkiruka, the bold and strong young woman took to Instagram hours ago to share words of wisdom on how she survived.
She also gave an update about her ex.

“The cane they use to flog first wife is always at the back of the door waiting for the 2nd wife. Ladies learn to ask questions before you become his next ….. Am happy she is feeling my pain and even worse,” she wrote on her wall.

Below is Nkiruka’s survivor story…

“Yes that is my ex husband and I, I was just 19 years on that photo. you can see the innocence in my eyes. We were perfect, very perfect, outside but we fought inside .
You see that smile on that picture was plastic. I was beaten to the alter on my wedding day. What happened because I was tired and refused to pack plate. I swallowed it and matched to the alter. With tears In my eyes the pastor asked will you take him as your husband for better for worse , till death do you part?? Tears rolled down my eyes but the crowd clapped, screaming tears of joy.
I embarked on the journey of marriage. At the age of 19 years I endured like a lion. This fine young man here is an animal. He beat me up and even beat up my younger once. The day he beat me to coma, he was beating my lifeless body before he was stopped and I was rushed to the hospital.
Do you know what my mother in law told me as I gained consciousness, she said (Nkiru, lucky will beat you again o, get ready cause the father beat me too). I went back into coma. He begged and I went back home .
This continued until I decided to face reality. But the truth is, do you know why we women endure domestic violence
1) Financial security. Yes I was scared to leave because I did not know how to begin financially.
2) Society. Yes after bragging to my friends and society see you as a lucky perfect girl you will want to keep it that way.
3) Loneliness… Yes you are scared if u will find someone better. I was saying who will marry me again, with my boobs like this, stretch marks, milk was still coming out of my boobs as of then, my big tummy, etc, I was insecure, so I stayed. Until one day, I woke and took a strong decision to walk away. And when I left, I left with nothing.
I left empty handed and embarked on the journey.
I kept repeating my name, Nkiruka, Nkiruka, Nkiruka (my future is bigger ) until I reached my destination. Now I can hit my chest and tell myself I took the right step, even though I never knew where I was going.”

All becos of getting married
wen d person joining them together they ask if you don'T want this people to be joined together in holy matrimony why she no raise up her hand. Oh i get rice must not waste i guess

observing jejely

I think nairaland seun should add a caution like this...'if you must drink/smoke/sniff/get high by any means,..don't post and if you must post..don't get high..'..

what kind of post is this?..