^^^^ Kool!

@OP; Dont let him deceive you, he is trying to secretly stage a come-back!

Ujujoan:

Honestly, I dont give a damn about you do 'personally' with your exes. I have my reasons why I need to remain friends with him and I think my BF should understand that. If he dosen't want to, then I dont think I want to be with him! Yes, it's serious!

He decided to buy me a gift, for a very good reason . .  I accepted it not because I am gift-hungry . . but because it was from him!

If your BF was reading these lines wat would he think? Cos to me this holding on to an ex u have doesn't seem healthy, too many holes for exploitation.

Wat reasons if I may venture to inquire?

Lord_Reed:

If your BF was reading these lines wat would he think? Cos to me this holding on to an ex u have doesn't seem healthy, too many holes for exploitation.

Wat reasons if I may venture to inquire?

I know it appears that way, but it's not!

I'm sorry, but my reasons are kind of . . . personal!

Lord_Reed:

If your BF was reading these lines wat would he think? Cos to me this holding on to an ex u have doesn't seem healthy, too many holes for exploitation.

Wat reasons if I may venture to inquire?

well i am reading it and believe me i dont give a F**k. its just a gift, besides she gets to wear the sexy lingerins to my bed not HIS!

Lmao @ "accepting gifts like their lives depend on it."

Guess when you date money hungry girls and/or know the only way to get a girl to look your way is buying her things, you start to think every female under the sun is a glutton.

Where in the rule book does it say you always have to be mortal enemies with an ex? Some people are better friends than lovers and it takes maturity to understand this.

Now I know that there are bad break ups where any hope for a simple hi-hello relationship is impossible. . .that's understandable but if that's not the case, then why make enemies when you can be friends?

smooooooth:

well i am reading it and believe me i dont give a F**k. its just a gift, besides she gets to wear the sexy lingerins to my bed not HIS!

Huh? Ujujoan is smooooooth the BF?

smooooooth:

well i am reading it and believe me i dont give a F**k. its just a gift, besides she gets to wear the sexy lingerins to my bed not HIS!

Lord_Reed:

Huh? Ujujoan is smooooooth the BF?

I was wondering the same thing myself

Well, he's not . . at least as far as I know!

Sisi_Kill:

Lmao @ "accepting gifts like their lives depend on it."

Guess when you date money hungry girls and/or know the only way to get a girl to look your way is buying her things, you start to think every female under the sun is a glutton.

Where in the rule book does it say you always have to be mortal enemies with an ex? Some people are better friends than lovers and it takes maturity to understand this.

Now I know that there are bad break ups where any hope for a simple hi-hello relationship is impossible. . .that's understandable but if that's not the case, then why make enemies when you can be friends?

Thanks sisi!

I think there are some basic things that some of these NL guys just dont know!

Lord_Reed:

Huh? Ujujoan is smooooooth the BF?

Amebo, wetin concern u.

Ujujoan:



I was wondering the same thing myself

Well, he's not . . at least as far as I know!

u need to look farther than u know, then maybe u will know, and careful b4 u shoot ur eyes outta their socket.

smooooooth:

Amebo, wetin concern u.

Ashewo wetin no consign me?!

Lord_Reed:

Ashewo wetin no consign me?!

i dey suspect u o. be like say u get eye for the uju sef

I tot this was about me taking gifts from my ex

smooooooth:

i dey suspect u o. be like say u get eye for the uju sef

Ujujoan I guess ur BF has to beat people like smoooooth off with a big stick!

Ujujoan:

I tot this was about me taking gifts from my ex

Sorry to derail ur thread just couldn't resist.

Ujujoan:

OK first of all, I wasnt 'yapping'. I think I stated it in clear and precisie words. I am friends with my ex and seriously, I dont see why that should be an issue. Like you said, not all relationships are meant to work . . not all romances lead to marriage. I beleive that what we shared was beyond romance and just because it cant go on dosen't mean I have to become strangers with him.

Honestly, I dont give a damn about you do 'personally' with your exes. I have my reasons why I need to remain friends with him and I think my BF should understand that. If he dosen't want to, then I dont think I want to be with him! Yes, it's serious!

He decided to buy me a gift, for a very good reason . . I accepted it not because I am gift-hungry . . but because it was from him! I've turned down a number of gifts, but I can't turn down one from him! And if I decide to buy him one too, I wont even hesitate about it!

I opened this thread because I started wondering if I did right. But after thinking about it, now more than ever, I have no regerets!

Yes, people value gifts (not just women) not because their lives depended on it, but because it's good to know that someone cared enough to bother.

I'm not surprised u decided to take sides with Lexi on this but I think I deserve a little credit to know when my relationships, friendships and associations is likely to put me into trouble. Despite what you guys think, people are not always as scheming and inconsiderate as you imagined them to be. If my BF knows me well enough then he would trust me. If he dosent, well . . . I dont need to overstress the fact that I dont need to be with such a person!

My word means a lot to me and yours should too. If I'm dating you and you have a r/ship with your ex and you tell me I dont have to worry about it . . . I'll beleive you. Because I'd expect the same trust if the tables were turned. If you lied about it, then dont you think you are the one with the problem We are all adults and we have a right to decide who to make friends with, if it means that much to me, I expect my so-called BF to understand!

All of a sudden you're making this seem like I attacked your personality. I was just stating my personal opinion on the issue and what you accept or do doesn't in any way affect me, so why would I want to bother that much to slur your decision? When I said 'yapping' I talked about the general things I've seen, not on NL but outside of it.

This isn't a matter of taking sides with Lexi. Whatever it comes down to, it is what it is. Simply because another man accepts it from his girlfriend doesn't mean I should accept it, in fact, it's best if she keeps it to herself than tell me about it, and if I did see it and ask her and she tells me, it won't bother me an inch. See, there are lots of headaches men give themselves in a relationship. I have learned in the course of the month and some few weeks back that some things aren't really worth it, seriously, you look back into things you do and some issues and you ask yourself if you're sane at all.

If your boyfriend understands why you're still friends with your ex, sure why not, go ahead and do what you gotta do. But if he doesn't support it, then what happens? You break up because you think he doesn't 'trust' you enough to believe you? Well, in my case, most times it doesn't have to do with trust because you know what, I choose to go by what she tells me, I don't dig, it's not my thing to do. Tell me and I'll believe you but when I start to see otherwise I'll be patient enough to see it through and make my decision at the end of the day.

A man that watches out his woman in suspicion, in my opinion, doesn't have anything tangible to do with his time. If she wants to go on a date with her ex, sure let her go; if she wants to hang out with him, let her; if she chooses to even sleep over at his house, let her - only when a man learns how to allow a woman have her freedom can he know peace and if I get the last category where Lexi mentioned that he doesn't give himself headache, I think that's the best category for every man. However, all these I've mentioned should be based on trust and nothing more. . . but there's no denying the fact that men are possessive and not like most women think it's insecurity which was why I said we should draw a fine line between possessiveness and insecurity.

It can also be deduced that when a man is possessive of his woman, either he's a freak, jerk, abuser or he truly loves his woman to that point and women shouldn't misconstrue that with distrust, disbelief or insecurity. That said, as much as I may want to contradict your opinions, I agree with you that we are all adults and should make friends with whoever we choose to and not be chosen friends for.

Then u are close being Bleep by him again

Neyosin:

Then u are close being Bleep by him again

Everything's not about sex dummy!

TheSeeker:

All of a sudden you're making this seem like I attacked your personality. I was just stating my personal opinion on the issue and what you accept or do doesn't in any way affect me, so why would I want to bother that much to slur your decision? When I said 'yapping' I talked about the general things I've seen, not on NL but outside of it.

This isn't a matter of taking sides with Lexi. Whatever it comes down to, it is what it is. Simply because another man accepts it from his girlfriend doesn't mean I should accept it, in fact, it's best if she keeps it to herself than tell me about it, and if I did see it and ask her and she tells me, it won't bother me an inch. See, there are lots of headaches men give themselves in a relationship. I have learned in the course of the month and some few weeks back that some things aren't really worth it, seriously, you look back into things you do and some issues and you ask yourself if you're sane at all.

If your boyfriend understands why you're still friends with your ex, sure why not, go ahead and do what you gotta do. But if he doesn't support it, then what happens? You break up because you think he doesn't 'trust' you enough to believe you? Well, in my case, most times it doesn't have to do with trust because you know what, I choose to go by what she tells me, I don't dig, it's not my thing to do. Tell me and I'll believe you but when I start to see otherwise I'll be patient enough to see it through and make my decision at the end of the day.

A man that watches out his woman in suspicion, in my opinion, doesn't have anything tangible to do with his time. If she wants to go on a date with her ex, sure let her go; if she wants to hang out with him, let her; if she chooses to even sleep over at his house, let her - only when a man learns how to allow a woman have her freedom can he know peace and if I get the last category where Lexi mentioned that he doesn't give himself headache, I think that's the best category for every man. However, all these I've mentioned should be based on trust and nothing more. . . but there's no denying the fact that men are possessive and not like most women think it's insecurity which was why I said we should draw a fine line between possessiveness and insecurity.

It can also be deduced that when a man is possessive of his woman, either he's a freak, jerk, abuser or he truly loves his woman to that point and women shouldn't misconstrue that with distrust, disbelief or insecurity. That said, as much as I may want to contradict your opinions, I agree with you that we are all adults and should make friends with whoever we choose to and not be chosen friends for.

Me I dont see why we are speaking all this grammar sef. I've collected the thing and I've even worn them sef. LOL

You forgot to add that you enjooooooyed wearing it too.

Hmmmmmm ^{Smacks lips}

Sisi_Kill:

You forgot to add that you enjooooooyed wearing it too.

Hmmmmmm ^{Smacks lips}

Oh yeah, that too! LOL

come on sis, i will accept, nothing bad at all, na dat type dey sweet to collect, paying back for the time spent with him.

lol don't mind them! its the same 'possesiveness' that they men also want to posses every other woman, yet you are castizied for being cool with your ex *eye roll*

Ujujoan:

Me I dont see why we are speaking all this grammar sef. I've collected the thing and I've even worn them sef. LOL

Blast on sister, it's all good

if the gift was a rolls royce, hell to d yeah.lol

Well it depends on what led to the brake - up

anyway, my ex girlfriend bought me some shirts after i broke up with her but finaly she got me back with that same gift so what am trying to say is that something will definately come up after some times it may not be now but in a short time the person will ask for reconsideration :d, I'm not a type of guy you can trick with some shitty stuffs but i found my selg going out with her again.

^^^
No, what you are trying to say is that you are an FFF or in this case BFS (Boyfriend for shirt)

na you knowwwwwwwwwww oooooooooooooh

kellorah: Even if na motor, I won't accept.

hahahaha,it seems the dude hurts you wella.