Kondomatic:
A very baseless assertion there.

Now lemme educate your a little.

Men want from their woman what they can't get from their friends and business associates. Things like warmth, affection, nurturing, thoughtfulnes etc. Men want women that will support and encourage them not challenge them.

Don't listen to the people that say that men feel intimidated by successful women, it's false.

Women who think that the reason they're still single is because their wealth intimidate men are simply looking for any available excuse to give.

The real reason is that many successful women don't know the difference between what makes one successful in his or her career and what makes a successful marriage.

Men love successful women but problem arises when the qualities that make a woman such a big success cross over into the relationship.

In a woman’s career, she may rise to the top by being very opinionated, aggressive and decisive. But when these same qualities cross too far into the relationship, we don’t like it.


We appreciate an accomplished, successful woman but we don’t want to have to come home to a stressful, competitive environment after spending all day in a similar type of work environment.

It's not baseless though, in fact it applies to most men regardless of country to be honest. Places like Nigeria especially though because misogyny is very much deep rooted in our system.

Lmao, I've not only listened but observed for myself and come to the conclusion that it's a very solid assertion.

Most Nigerian mens' qualms with women who are successful are the traits that tend to come with it. Successful women tend to be more self confident, self assured, independent, assertive, emotionally stable, self sufficient etc than average and they can find this intimidating because she's less likely to be as easily controlled as someone who is more easily subjugated. So whilst they may not mind someone with a good career on paper (although I still maintain that this sef can still be an issue because of ego and the whole 'man of the house provider' thing) and smart enough to not be considered stupid, they want that to be as far as it goes as the other traits give her more leverage to be able to challenge him (as you've actually confirmed lmao).

Lmao, what's wrong with being opinionated and decisive? (in other words, actually being able to challenge him like I said). I don't doubt that there are some instances of some women being overly aggressive, disputatious, confrontational etc but at times it's just a case of a genuinely assertive woman being misbranded and confused as 'bossy' and 'abrasive' because we've been socialised to see it as 'masculine' trait and 'unladylike' so people are more shocked when they are and view it more negatively even though a guy is doing exactly the same thing.

You can be assertive, bold, challenging etc and still be 'warm', 'affectionate', 'nurturing' and 'thoughtful', they aren't mutually exclusive characteristics. Call a spade a space, most Nigerian men just want doormats else are intimated.

Ezionye:


Is d essence of marriage to have children u can send on errands when old? What of childless marriages? Bsides she can alwayd adopt kids. There are many of them out there. Any landlord will accommodate an old lonely woman who pays her rent.

If she doesn't want marriage, her life. Every1 must not get married.

YES YES YES, the fruit of a good marriage is children and plenty children those who dont want children are gays -lesbians or homosexuals simple and short.

I thought this woman destroyed Segun Odegbamis marriage and married him in the late 1980s. If I am not mistaken she had a child for him before things fell apart and they divorced.

Ask4Info:
NOW LET ME EDUCATE YOU ALL THAT WANT TO INSULT HER AND ALSO REALITY ABOUT MARRIAGE.

* Marriage isn't for everyone. Yes! you read right. Not everyone is meant to marry. So many people want to be FREE, So many people have low level of tolerance, so many people are damn scared and impatient to be tied down by a partner or child. Not everyone want to be responsible for someone else. So many people prefer to be as FREE as birds in the sky.

* Not everyone who desires marriage will have the opportunity to get married. Don't get confused i will explain what i mean. There are approximately 7.4billion people now on Earth. In the real sense of people between age 1- age 40, we now have a ratio of 7 women to 1 man. Meaning for every single guy of that age range there are 7 women to a guy. Now aside Islam that ssupports polygamy, the almost other 4,300 religions on Earth are against it. Also polygamy is going extinct from most Africa traditions. The question now is, if a man marries one lady, who will marry the remaining 6?


* The Economy today all over the world Favours the females. As an HR Consultant, for every guy that gets a job, we allocate same job to 3 or more females (onces the job of work is not gender sensitive). You all know why? Quote me if you want to know the reason and i will tell you. Look at all the Telecoms company, Banks, Insurance, and other top companies you will see females dorminate them. Men only handle technical and heavy duty workload. Now when a woman gets and retains a job over 5years or more, and a guy can barely have or even retain a job for 2years, who financially now becomes more ready for marriage?




The society has painted a wrong notion into the minds of many that once you aren't married either being a man or a woman you are a failure. Whereas most married couples today are more miserable than single folks and regret every day they made that decision to get married.

This post just mastubated my brain.

You're very correct, I've had similar observations too. Telecoms stores, Media agencies, banks, fine looking females whether young or older. My question is, which guy go fit go dey toast them if they're single? I've seen some cute girls at teaching hospitals & banks & I'm wondering if women are getting all the hot jobs what will be left for ordinary guys?

Really?

Ariel20:


Are you aware she was formerly married to Segun Odegbami?

opribo:


YES YES YES, the fruit of a good marriage is children and plenty children those who dont want children are gays -lesbians or homosexuals simple and short.

Your opinion, but you must realize not everyone is capable at maintaining relationships let alone starting one. If people don't like me & don't see me as a potential partner or whatever, will I put gun at their head? Guy tink abeg!

Newsroom NG
“I still chat with ex-wife Funmi Iyanda” – Segun Odegbami says
Rotimi Akinola 10 months ago Categories: General News Tags: football, funmi iyanda, new dawn at 10, news, nigeria, NTA, segun odegbami, sports
Segun Odegbami on TVC, Friday. Photo: Your View TVC.
Segun Odegbami on TVC, Friday. Photo: Your View TVC.
Nigerian football legend Segun Odegbami’s marriage to TV star Funmi Iyanda may have hit the rocks.

But the ex-footballer says he still “enjoys a good relationship” with the former New Dawn at 10 presenter.

Odegami appeared on TVC’s talk show Your View on Friday morning.

The all-female host crew asked the 63-year-old some questions.

Funmi Iyanda and Odegbami have a daughter, Morenike.
He was asked about his failed marriage to Nigerian TV star Funmi Iyanda.

“That’s a hard one and I can’t really talk about it”, Odegbami said.

“But we’re still good friends and we still communicate. We have a daughter between us.”

Odegbami already had three children from another marriage before going for Iyanda. Their marriage produced Morenike, their daughter.

However, Odegbami later married Oyindamola Adeyemi in 2010.

“We had irreconcilable differences and had to part ways”, Odegbami said about his love story with Iyanda..




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Jammiiee:
Really?

Yes

fluxmind:


Your opinion, but you must realize not everyone is capable at maintaining relationships let alone starting one. If people don't like me & don't see me as a potential partner or whatever, will I put gun at their head? Guy tink abeg!

Thats a white lie, theres someone for everyone only if we let go our ego and let God.

I believe every one's entitled to his/her opinion.

All that matters is to be Successful and Happy.

pressplay411:
Nigerians on twitter have been trolling popular Tv Host Funmi Iyanda for this tweet.

"I have never wanted to be married. I like it for others who like it for themselves but as for me ms funmi iyanda, no, thank you."

https://mobile.twitter.com/Funmilola/status/821698946473017344

As for me, it's within your human right to choose whether to get married and give birth to a human being like you or die single. Your marital status has no effects as seed and harvest time remain the same. Make sure you truly don't want to marry, and not keep crying in your closet.

opribo:


Thats a white lie, theres someone for everyone only if we let go our ego and let God.

Oga forget religion, if a babe doesn't even acknowledge my existence because she's financially more buoyant than I am, will I lower my standards to go date hood ratchets? Apparently money is a huge factor & determinant for future relationships. If I haven't gotten a job now, how do you expect me, like everyone else, to see a future where I'm in a relationship with someone? No money? Forget it, it's not happening. Granted there are women who only date guys cos well they have the money, & won't look at guys who don't. There are also women who might entertain the thought if they see something in you but because you're not ballin, why would they bother?

opribo:


YES YES YES, the fruit of a good marriage is children and plenty children those who dont want children are gays -lesbians or homosexuals simple and short.

Blind statement. Nobody asked u about fruit of marriage. Besides one can have kids without being married.

U can go on ahead and have 20 kids if u want so ull have enough for errand sake.

1bkaye:

Successful women tend to be more self confident, self assured, independent, assertive, emotionally stable, self sufficient etc

You know the problem I have with people like you? The mentality that they have already figured out what men is and want.

Calm down sister. Saying most men is a baseless assertion like I stated earlier, reason being that you have not met up to 5% men so how did you come to that lousy premature conclusion?

It's pathetic that you seem to confuse preference with intimation. It was initially believed that beauty intimidate men but beautiful girls that are "good" get married when they're of age.

Men know what they want in a woman and they go for it the moment they spot it, wealth or no wealth.

The part of your quoted comment contains exactly what we want in a woman but unfortunately most successful women find balancing work and relationship very challenging. Men are less likely to come for you if you can't get your shits together.
A mistake that lots of them make is assuming that the same skills that have created success in their professional life translate to their romantic life. No man will marry a woman who often brings the office home with her. It will definitely have have a negative impact on their love life.

Now talking about Nigerian men, let me tell you a little why they're less likely to marry a successful Nigerian woman. Yes, it's different with Nigerian women because we often see young boys getting married to aged successful white women without feeling inferior or intimidated.

Let's make Linda Ikeji the case study here.


To marry Linda Ikeji, you must own at least N500,0000,000 in your account.

You must do your possible best to convince her that you're not after her money.

Immediately you propose, each member of her family will get a pair of laser sharp binoculars to zoom your heart to confirm whether you're after her money or not.

You must also deal with her lousy siblings.

It will take you at least a year of hardwork to earn a kobo of respect from their family uncles.

Now, why will you subject yourself to this torture when there's a homely girl out there already that you can marry and support her to achieve her dream business or work?

You're seem smart, may be traveled, educated and wise too but you don't know jack about how men reason.


Lots of these women who are successful, secretly believe that their success should change how men act around them. Linda doesn't have a stable relationship yet but she has already onlined her conditions for divorce. Such thoughts carry negative vibes.

If a woman doesn't UNDERSTAND how to attract a man and create a great relationship, becoming successful isn't going to change that.

Even a broke girl who doesn't understand how to attract and keep a man will spend a lot time in prayer houses.

Because they have money, they feel on top of the world, they try to control every aspect of their relationship, this directly prevents the natural patterns that lead to love from taking place and the end story is.


He felt intimidated and left.


Ekiti.


Consolation statement.

Ezionye:


Wow

U made a lot of sense up there.

Tho I dnt think that assertion is entirely baseless. Many men generally prefer to be more successful than their partners. That's d way our society has been made to think.

It isn't the society that made it so. Money brings out the demon in many women. Have you been to a home where the wife is the bread winner?

Kondomatic:
It isn't the society that made it so. Money brings out the demon in many women. Have you been to a home where the wife is the bread winner?

Lol
Well u just succeeded in confirming my point. Men generally prefer to be more successful than their partners because they think money brings out the demon in women generally.

Right?

No I haven't. But I grew up in one where the bread winning was in equal proportion. Many men would still be uncomfortable with that too.

1bkaye:
Not everyone wants to get married, on top of that she's very successful and most Nigerian men can't stand it when a woman is more successful than them so you can imagine the added hassle. As long as she's happy.

Funmi Iyanda lives in the UK. Are you trying to say only Nigerian men can't handle her success? That's thrash.
She was linked to many men in her prime, including VP Atiku Abubakar. The truth is that she lost out because she was unlucky and arrogant. Most of people like her say this when they have reached menopause and lost hope.
If you are looking for someone to champion "not everyone wants to get married", let it someone like Linda Ikeji, Genevieve or Agbani Darego, then I will listen. But they won't. They will only when they are Funmi Iyanda's age. Nonsense.

Kondomatic:
A very baseless assertion there.

Now lemme educate your a little.

Men want from their woman what they can't get from their friends and business associates. Things like warmth, affection, nurturing, thoughtfulnes etc. Men want women that will support and encourage them not challenge them.

Don't listen to the people that say that men feel intimidated by successful women, it's false.

Women who think that the reason they're still single is because their wealth intimidate men are simply looking for any available excuse to give.

The real reason is that many successful women don't know the difference between what makes one successful in his or her career and what makes a successful marriage.

Men love successful women but problem arises when the qualities that make a woman such a big success cross over into the relationship.

In a woman’s career, she may rise to the top by being very opinionated, aggressive and decisive. But when these same qualities cross too far into the relationship, we don’t like it.

We appreciate an accomplished, successful woman but we don’t want to have to come home to a stressful, competitive environment after spending all day in a similar type of work environment.

Bros, what did you just say here? "Don't listen to the people that say that men feel intimidated by successful women, it's false." Haba!! You just fall my hand, big time!! Instead of you to just speak for yourself, you are here trying to speak for all the malefolk including those that have serious self-esteem issues. I know many men, who are intimidated by the success of their wives or the success of women around them!

My former boss was a classic example. He refused to promote any of the women in my dept., despite the fact that they were skilled, knowledgeable & hardworking. His wife had one of the best results in her ICAN final exams, and actually got job offers from two multinational firms immediately the results were released that year. They got married rather quickly after her results came out, only for him to forbid her from taking up any of those offers, and he even made her resign from where she was working, at that time.

His excuse? The firm was not paying her much anyway, and it would be a waste of time for her to work! Bros, that is just one small example out of many. You need to see the way he talks down to her in public. He does so in a highly condescending tone. And each time he sees a picture of a successful woman in the papers or on TV, his next comment would be: "Only God knows what these ones are looking for, sef!"

Another of my friends dumped a lady he was dating, simply because she got promoted and her new position came with a car! Meanwhile, he was still using his leggedez-benz, to trek all over the place! The lady in question was quiet, prayerful, humble and hardworking, but he just couldn't see all that.

1bkaye:
It's not baseless though, in fact it applies to most men regardless of country to be honest. Places like Nigeria especially though because misogyny is very much deep rooted in our system.

Lmao, I've not only listened but observed for myself and come to the conclusion that it's a very solid assertion.

Most Nigerian mens' qualms with women who are successful are the traits that tend to come with it. Successful women tend to be more self confident, self assured, independent, assertive, emotionally stable, self sufficient etc than average and they can find this intimidating because she's less likely to be as easily controlled as someone who is more easily subjugated. So whilst they may not mind someone with a good career on paper (although I still maintain that this sef can still be an issue because of ego and the whole 'man of the house provider' thing) and smart enough to not be considered stupid, they want that to be as far as it goes as the other traits give her more leverage to be able to challenge him (as you've actually confirmed lmao).

Lmao, what's wrong with being opinionated and decisive? (in other words, actually being able to challenge him like I said). I don't doubt that there are some instances of some women being overly aggressive, disputatious, confrontational etc but at times it's just a case of a genuinely assertive woman being misbranded and confused as 'bossy' and 'abrasive' because we've been socialised to see it as 'masculine' trait and 'unladylike' so people are more shocked when they are and view it more negatively even though a guy is doing exactly the same thing.

You can be assertive, bold, challenging etc and still be 'warm', 'affectionate', 'nurturing' and 'thoughtful', they aren't mutually exclusive characteristics. Call a spade a space, most Nigerian men just want doormats else are intimated.

Babe!! You don research this matter, well-well!

Funmi when u lie finish make u lemme know
As time don pass she come dey encourage herself in d Lord

but u have a child,?... slottttt

Kobicove:
Bloody hypocrites!

Why is it so hard for Nigerians to mind their own fuck1ng business?

It's her life and her choice...deal with it!

if she wasn't seeking attention and reactions she wouldn't have posted such

Ask4Info:
NOW LET ME EDUCATE YOU ALL THAT WANT TO INSULT HER AND ALSO REALITY ABOUT MARRIAGE.

* Marriage isn't for everyone. Yes! you read right. Not everyone is meant to marry. So many people want to be FREE, So many people have low level of tolerance, so many people are damn scared and impatient to be tied down by a partner or child. Not everyone want to be responsible for someone else. So many people prefer to be as FREE as birds in the sky.

* Not everyone who desires marriage will have the opportunity to get married. Don't get confused i will explain what i mean. There are approximately 7.4billion people now on Earth. In the real sense of people between age 1- age 40, we now have a ratio of 7 women to 1 man. Meaning for every single guy of that age range there are 7 women to a guy. Now aside Islam that ssupports polygamy, the almost other 4,300 religions on Earth are against it. Also polygamy is going extinct from most Africa traditions. The question now is, if a man marries one lady, who will marry the remaining 6?


* The Economy today all over the world Favours the females. As an HR Consultant, for every guy that gets a job, we allocate same job to 3 or more females (onces the job of work is not gender sensitive). You all know why? Quote me if you want to know the reason and i will tell you. Look at all the Telecoms company, Banks, Insurance, and other top companies you will see females dorminate them. Men only handle technical and heavy duty workload. Now when a woman gets and retains a job over 5years or more, and a guy can barely have or even retain a job for 2years, who financially now becomes more ready for marriage?




The society has painted a wrong notion into the minds of many that once you aren't married either being a man or a woman you are a failure. Whereas most married couples today are more miserable than single folks and regret every day they made that decision to get married.

Thank you!

She has alwz said she wants to be single.....I used to watch New dawn back then in 2005.

sammydirectly:


Funmi Iyanda lives in the UK. Are you trying to say only Nigerian men can't handle her success? That's thrash.
She was linked to many men in her prime, including VP Atiku Abubakar. The truth is that she lost out because she was unlucky and arrogant. Most of people like her say this when they have reached menopause and lost hope.
If you are looking for someone to champion "not everyone wants to get married", let it someone like Linda Ikeji, Genevieve or Agbani Darego, then I will listen. But they won't. They will only when they are Funmi Iyanda's age. Nonsense.

She has alwz said she wants to remain single as far back as 2005 while hosting new dawn. so, it is not a new decision to Funmi iyanda. And between I like her cos she believes in women empowerments.

fola001:


Your statement shows you are senseless,read ur bible very well even Jesus didn't support marriage ,read thru Romans Paul said those who marry will face many troubles, but ur pastors won't tell u gullible ones....if marriage is holy and sweet ad u pple claim,why over 90% of married women sleeps outside thier husband

Jesus didn't support marriage? Are you just trying to make a point or you're just naturally deranged? If you want to prove your point, please use another theory but not the bible as an excuse for a choice of a stupid lifestyle. You don't know funmi iyanda. She did everything to marry Segun Odegbami who didn't want her no more. Now after a failed attempt she comes and defends her loneliness.

Kog45:
U are on point,this is d same Funmi that had a child for Segun Odegbami and destroyed Segun first marriage.She wanted to marry big Seg but unable to tie him down but coming out to tell us she wasn't interested in marriage from d onset is a big lie.

100% true.

You do not want to marry but you want to straff young boys till your old age. #sugarmummy#

1bkaye:
Well lazy could be a reason, but it's essentially linked to being insecure. And a man who is not lazy and possibly quite successful himself can also be insecure and still resent the fact that a woman is as/more successful as/than him. That's why the word feminism alone is triggering enough to send most of them into cardiac arrest lol

well, diff folks diff strokes.
we men also have perception that most ladies are gold diggers who almost have nothing to offer in marriages, except open legs and produce babies.

laudate:


Babe!! You don research this matter, well-well!

Lool don't even need to research it when it's thrusted in your face on the regular tbh

Ask4Info:
NOW LET ME EDUCATE YOU ALL THAT WANT TO INSULT HER AND ALSO REALITY ABOUT MARRIAGE.

* Marriage isn't for everyone. Yes! you read right. Not everyone is meant to marry. So many people want to be FREE, So many people have low level of tolerance, so many people are damn scared and impatient to be tied down by a partner or child. Not everyone want to be responsible for someone else. So many people prefer to be as FREE as birds in the sky.

* Not everyone who desires marriage will have the opportunity to get married. Don't get confused i will explain what i mean. There are approximately 7.4billion people now on Earth. In the real sense of people between age 1- age 40, we now have a ratio of 7 women to 1 man. Meaning for every single guy of that age range there are 7 women to a guy. Now aside Islam that ssupports polygamy, the almost other 4,300 religions on Earth are against it. Also polygamy is going extinct from most Africa traditions. The question now is, if a man marries one lady, who will marry the remaining 6?


* The Economy today all over the world Favours the females. As an HR Consultant, for every guy that gets a job, we allocate same job to 3 or more females (onces the job of work is not gender sensitive). You all know why? Quote me if you want to know the reason and i will tell you. Look at all the Telecoms company, Banks, Insurance, and other top companies you will see females dorminate them. Men only handle technical and heavy duty workload. Now when a woman gets and retains a job over 5years or more, and a guy can barely have or even retain a job for 2years, who financially now becomes more ready for marriage?




The society has painted a wrong notion into the minds of many that once you aren't married either being a man or a woman you are a failure. Whereas most married couples today are more miserable than single folks and regret every day they made that decision to get married.

A very reasonable comment.

For some ladies, the peak of their ambition is marriage.

A pity really. There's nothing wrong with being married, but when it becomes a do-or-die thing and you think you have to do it because everyone else is, because you think you're supposed to, not because you want to, it makes one really sad for them.

1bkaye:

It's not baseless though, in fact it applies to most men regardless of country to be honest. Places like Nigeria especially though because misogyny is very much deep rooted in our system.

Lmao, I've not only listened but observed for myself and come to the conclusion that it's a very solid assertion.

Most Nigerian mens' qualms with women who are successful are the traits that tend to come with it. Successful women tend to be more self confident, self assured, independent, assertive, emotionally stable, self sufficient etc than average and they can find this intimidating because she's less likely to be as easily controlled as someone who is more easily subjugated. So whilst they may not mind someone with a good career on paper (although I still maintain that this sef can still be an issue because of ego and the whole 'man of the house provider' thing) and smart enough to not be considered stupid, they want that to be as far as it goes as the other traits give her more leverage to be able to challenge him (as you've actually confirmed lmao).

Lmao, what's wrong with being opinionated and decisive? (in other words, actually being able to challenge him like I said). I don't doubt that there are some instances of some women being overly aggressive, disputatious, confrontational etc but at times it's just a case of a genuinely assertive woman being misbranded and confused as 'bossy' and 'abrasive' because we've been socialised to see it as 'masculine' trait and 'unladylike' so people are more shocked when they are and view it more negatively even though a guy is doing exactly the same thing.

You can be assertive, bold, challenging etc and still be 'warm', 'affectionate', 'nurturing' and 'thoughtful', they aren't mutually exclusive characteristics. Call a spade a space, most Nigerian men just want doormats else are intimated.

You have said it all. It is only those who are guilty of this that will have a problem with what you said. Otherwise, the misogyny of Nigerian men is even visible to the blind