sisisioge:


See question! You should ask where it's a rule for a man to pay the children's school fees, house rent, food and supplies , etc. Abi you heard from our papas and their papas before them say Na women dey pay am?

airminem:


I think it should be OUR money regardless if both parties are working or not. I totally understand where you're coming from and am also looking to the answers people respond with.

airminem:


Sometimes Men Just Don't Get The Fact We Are Workin At Home... We Just Don't Get A Paycheck For It, Okay.

airminem:


Sometimes Men Just Don't Get The Fact We Are Workin At Home... We Just Don't Get A Paycheck For It, Okay.

airminem:


Abusive Man. Hmmm

airminem:


I think it should be OUR money regardless if both parties are working or not. I totally understand where you're coming from and am also looking to the answers people respond with.

PaperLace:
My sister, 1yr and half? it's Buhari's economy.
Everyone is getting worked up, we're not getting value for our money and hardwork.

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We should be more bothered 'bout how you can make some money, while still having time for you baby.

Modified: it seems you really want us to blame the man, and we have refused...lols. Okay, his money is una money, but you have a better idea of what he earns_ less the incessant hike in prices of recurrent expenditure from it and you'll understand why he is angry.
Have you bothered to ask what he thinks he should have achieved? Maybe he planned buying a land in 2016, this is 2017, no land-no savings. Men naturally get angry when they are not meeting their target.

I didn't advise you to jump back into teaching because the average teaching jobs doesn't pay that much. It may not give your family's financial condition the required boost. There are so many things you can do from home to earn better than the average teacher. If you really want a career in teaching, you can do certification(s) while at home, that way...you'll be relevant upon your return.

nwabobo:


I live in a 'civilised' world and it's a joint effort.


In the days of our grand father's where the man was sole provider, the women were stay at home mum's and never worked nor earned income.

Joavid:


Why are you seeing this from "his money, our money" thing?
its just talk from a tired man.

The issue you should focus on is the family eating deep into his finances and he can barely save.

Have you taken into consideration how much he earns?

Do you know how frustrating it is working and having little to zero savings

airminem:
I am a stay at home mom, for now. I was laid off from a teaching job while pregnant and decided to use this time to care for our 8months son. In the beginning there was never an issue with one persons money being his or hers it was always ours.

Now after a year and a half anything I spend becomes an issue. When we talk about money he talks about working his a.s.s off, having nothing to show for it, because I'm spending HIS money.

Surprisingly, I don't even shop. Every once in a while I may purchase something for the home or something our kid need. I'm almost tempted to go on back to work, but I would like to stay out one more year until our son is of preschool age. I don't know if I will be able to make it that long.

It just seems like when you become a stay at home mom and don't earn an income you become less than, not equal, and nothing is truly yours because you didn't earn it. Just because we are at home doesn't mean we don't work, we just don't get paid for it.

peacemara54:
Am in ekiti state but we supply from adamawa from cameroun. check my thread on agriculture, business, family and more. we supply nothing but raw honey directly from the bees we deliver to states in nigeria.. See a lot of nairalander that have ordered. They keep coming because our honey passed the quality test in flying colours,
I think you can check my signature for whatsapp chat. Any information you need pls contact me tru whatsapp or this forum better still. Try to reach me on sun if you have interest buying because we have few jericans left. Original honey is scarce now. we will sell the last honey available to buyers on mon, after, we wont be having honey till march. Contact me 2mrw if you need honey.

PaperLace:
My sister, 1yr and half? it's Buhari's economy.
Everyone is getting worked up, we're not getting value for our money and hardwork.

---

We should be more bothered 'bout how you can make some money, while still having time for you baby.

Modified: it seems you really want us to blame the man, and we have refused...lols. Okay, his money is una money, but you have a better idea of what he earns_ less the incessant hike in prices of recurrent expenditure from it and you'll understand why he is angry.
Have you bothered to ask what he thinks he should have achieved? Maybe he planned buying a land in 2016, this is 2017, no land-no savings. Men naturally get angry when they are not meeting their target.

I didn't advise you to jump back into teaching because the average teaching jobs doesn't pay that much. It may not give your family's financial condition the required boost. There are so many things you can do from home to earn better than the average teacher. If you really want a career in teaching, you can do certification(s) while at home, that way...you'll be relevant upon your return.

pcguru1:


There's this stuff called Prepclass where you can create course material and people can pay to subscribe for it. You can look it up. If I have more information I will share. I think your husband is just getting cranky about work and the economy.

airminem:


Sometimes Men Just Don't Get The Fact We Are Workin At Home... We Just Don't Get A Paycheck For It, Okay.

mayoor15:
Answer the question now, when you were single and in your papa house, you no dey work and do house duties, why you no ask for paycheck. Now you got married and all of a sudden the things you ought to do for free are things you want pay for... hahaha..... I don't blame the man that is the price of marrying a lazy woman, I don't see a hard working woman that will complain about house duties and sit down at home for months. Get a job and have your own money and contribute to things in the home then you will know how it feels.

dingbang:
u call taking care of ur own children "work"... Look nobody will pity u in this thread trust me...

dingbang:
the worst parr is that u are still arguing its ur money.. Continue

1kinggy:
How long do you think it takes to become a liability? Site, go find a work or do some business. Make some money then observe the change.


You'd be happier.

Ssthorm:
U cn imagne...now dese men want a woman to work wia she gets paid?? Stayn @home takin care of a bby is work as wel,its jst an unpaid job. Its d responsibility of d man to take care of d home,wedr she has money or not. U all shudnt make it sound like its an obligatn upon d woman to work fo money wen she has a husbnd. N im nt sayn she shudnt hustle fo money bt idealy...its a mans troble to do dat in d fam. N his money shud b diers....
Dont switch d roles,funy enuf d same men wud begn to rant bout "not being a woman" wen dey r axd to help wt chores @home

Joavid:


No one begged you to be a mum.

No one said being a mum would be easy.

We have working mum's everywhere.

If you're waiting for your hubby to give you credit for being a mum, you might not get i

ok, maybe you're not feeling appreciated, I'm sorry about that. you can discuss your feelings with him.

YourWife:


How much does it cost to employ a house help that would do all those work u do at home? 20k? 30k??
Well... How much would u earn monthly if u were to go get a job? Do your calculations and come to a conclussion. Don't go looking for money in ur husband's pocket, it doesn't make d family any better. Source for d money from another persons pocket, and ur family has an extra income, no matter how little d money might be.

airminem:


Because You Are Not Seeing The Point Of View I Am Coming Okay.

airminem:


Sometimes Men Just Don't Get The Fact We Are Workin At Home... We Just Don't Get A Paycheck For It, Okay.