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Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by majorbravo: 8:45pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
bignero: CHEATERS, good idea, but then what happens afterwards, it wont stop her from cheating with some new guy in the future. OP needs to step up his game and then make her realize without being insecure, that he is comfortable with who he is, she should be the one ashamed to cheat. On the other hand, I think OP is much older than her, imagine training a lady through school, she probably feels like she was bought and doesn't have any chemistry with him at all. That's why I aint gonna marry no village girl or raising no body from rags to riches that don't deserve me or cant see what I have done to earn their love, done it in the past (relationship not marriage) and it ended like the OP's case. If you buy a piece of cloth no one wants, adorn it with diamond accessories and hang it out on your porch, do not expect thieves to not come around to try steal it. If you buy a worthless woman's love with your money, when you upgrade her, you are actually placing her up for auction and the highest bidder would always take her away. Love earned can never be broken. 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bobolizim(m): 8:47pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
brasilia:hmmmm , God will lead you |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Charly68: 8:53pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
brasilia:You don't need to ban her from the church but rather follow her there by so doing you will give her a covering against the sexual predators ..Show her your love and talk things out together..it isn't easy suspecting ones love .With God on your side all will be well. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by hahn(m): 9:04pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
frank317: Obviously the op is soft tempered and seems like those kind of people who will rather come home and see his wife banging someone else before he makes his move 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by NaijaBlend: 9:07pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
Can you contact me on naija_soul@yahoo.com I need to brief you confidentially. Let me know the email address you used so I don't respond to the wring person. Walls have ears. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Saintsquare(m): 9:10pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
op might be pulling our legs tho |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by bignero: 9:15pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
majorbravo: ur right tho...on the village girl talk...so many stories ofmostly village girls taken to yankee or sponsored and they later revolt he needs not step up his game..(for her)if shes found cheating...though am not married yet....i cant take back a wife who has the balls to sleep with another man..., he has enough eveidence to dump, her and has bliblical backing too..shes probably capable of murder too if she a cheat,beacuse she will see the man as a hinderance to her happiness, especially in the us...well unless they have kids which i belive they may have, this will make it more complex for brasila 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by 1kinggy(m): 9:52pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
brasilia: Leave the guy out for now. Talk to your wife. Let her know you are not comfortable with her movement with the guy. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by adellam16(f): 10:00pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
brasilia:who r u asking? Ask her |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by MarieSucre(f): 10:11pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
NotOfThis: Exactly. The man is not the issue. You are not married to him but to your wife. She is the one that took marriage vows so she is the one that you must settle this issue with. You will address this issue with her, not with gragra fight but respectfully. Ask her why she is doing things to hurt you. Then you too look at yourself, if there is anything that you're doing that is hurting her, then change your ways./s I'm being sarcastic. Or not. 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by AngelicBeing: 10:33pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
@ Op, read this thread & link, you will likely gain something useful from it. https://www.nairaland.com/3629513/man-discovers-32-year-old-son-isnt#53718241 |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Jayjey(m): 10:48pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
Let call a spade a spade, you need to secretly investigate her, she might be cheating on you. The questions the guy was asking tells there is something happening that is very unusual. When you finally know the truth, don't be in a rush to take drastic decision. Ponder on what might have caused her to indulge in this act and if eventually you find out that there is no connection between them, I will advice you to stay clear from the guy and tell your wife you are not comfortable with the guy around you guys. Don't bother asking him, he will deny it. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Ayanfeoluwaoba(f): 11:29pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
My point is, from all indication, it shows the man in question doesn't understand the wife enough on how to approach her on issues as heavy as cheating. Just like she said, she does not have control over what anybody sends to her. #myopinionthough MrMcJay: |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 11:34pm On Feb 14, 2017 |
dealslip: Maybe he is lacking in za-zo-za room |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by chibzykeys(m): 12:05am On Feb 15, 2017 |
one way you can get quick answers is knowing the guy, look for a friend of his and ask the said friend to get all the answers you need from him or you arrange a lady friend and ask her to become friend with your wife and you still get same answers. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by brasilia: 12:22am On Feb 15, 2017 |
jomonic:she already she doesn't give a damn on whatever I feel |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by brasilia: 12:37am On Feb 15, 2017 |
majorbravo:we are five years apart. Never lacked anything in the uni. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nofuckgiven: 2:05am On Feb 15, 2017 |
OP,if you really love your wife I advice you just sit her down and talk maturely. Do the things you used to do when you guys were dating,romantic stuff,just forget the past,that is if you yourself have cheated on her before. But if you have been faithful, go ahead and separate yourself from her in every possible way. Life is too short for drama and unhappiness. 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by isnovic(m): 5:05am On Feb 15, 2017 |
Dude your wife is obviously cheating with the guy. Infidelity is not only when there is sexual knowledge. The emotional investment is a cheat. Confront her with the evidence and read her the riot act, she either abandon such relationship or ship out. 3 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 5:50am On Feb 15, 2017 |
brasilia: With this reaction and attitude from a supposed wife bro, start counting your losses. 2 Likes |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 5:56am On Feb 15, 2017 |
majorbravo: Very apt buddy. You killed this one. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by chachanga: 7:11am On Feb 15, 2017 |
AngelicBeing: It's obvious you are not in control of your end of your marital relationship the anger is an act, a smokescreen dont wait for her to destroy your life secondly, don't you or her have family members? |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by brasilia: 8:08am On Feb 15, 2017 |
checkengine:hmmmmmn |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Psoul(m): 8:20am On Feb 15, 2017 |
segzie2012: Please i expect you to respect my wife and never mention her here until i bring up her issues. There is no rule here that says that u must quote me. U can get out of my post without insulting me. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Psoul(m): 8:26am On Feb 15, 2017 |
SPIRIT001: Yeah...for a man with a weak heart. Bro, if u read my post very well, the advise is conditional and also with warning. It says "If you are really DESPERATE to ........." and the warning says that the action is illegal even to a law court. In my post i also assumed that the guys wife might be somehow stronger than the guy and that makes the woman feel she controls the man rather than the other way round. So your statement about "4 a man with a weak heart" is correct and it was also mentions indirectly in my post. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Psoul(m): 8:27am On Feb 15, 2017 |
brasilia: Send msg to me through my mailbox |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by kliq(m): 8:40am On Feb 15, 2017 |
brasilia: He is right! Take it like a man |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Nobody: 8:43am On Feb 15, 2017 |
brasilia: Brother you will learn from experience. Nobody can really advice you because human circumstances are not always the same. The only advise I will give is this. Do not ever get violent even if you are pushed to do so. You might out of frustration be tempted to become violent depending on your personality. Take a walk instead and let her be. You will not regret it, trust me. |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by brasilia: 8:48am On Feb 15, 2017 |
jomonic:i cant help but keep reading your comment you captured it all, |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by brasilia: 8:49am On Feb 15, 2017 |
Psoul:I have |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by DukeNija(m): 8:52am On Feb 15, 2017 |
brasilia: Marriages can be very complicated and it takes patience to handle even trivial matters. I can imagine how you feel, but it is important that you do whatever you can to keep your marriage and that excludes the use of force. You cant win a woman over using force. I am naturally an aggressive person, but ive learnt that aggression, power, and confrontations can be very detrimental to relationships as women are naturally tender and need nurturing to get the very best out of them. Your wife is not a bad person from what ive read. She is not necessarily doing the right thing but she is not what a lot of men are calling her. I strongly believe that you can do better in terms of creating a more intimate relationship with her by engaging her mind and heart constantly. When a woman has the complete focus and attention of her husband, she will not have the time to accommodate strangers. I strongly believe there is an emotional vacuum you are not filling hence the need for someone else. Believe me it is easy to blame her, but i can succinctly tell you that you wont get any positive result until you take full responsibility for the situation in your marriage. Remember that you can never force a woman to do what she doesn't want to do, you can only influence her to take that decision by herself. Forget about that guy, infact dont even ask about him again. Focus on communicating and creating an environment of love not because of what you want but because its the right thing to do as her husband. Verbally and materially apologise to her for the wrong you have done her as its obvious shes angry with you for something you didnt mention. Let your home and presence bring her peace and happiness, be her clown and gossip partner. Make ridiculous jokes about people even yourself, show genuine interest in her work, family and life. Ask all sorts of questions about whats happening to her and also share yours too. Cook, clean and support her whenever you can and buy her gifts too. Take her to some not too expensive restaurants and occasionally surprise her. All you need to turn around the situation in your marriage is an attitudinal and behavioural change and believe me, your wife will gradually but surely come around. Dont allow this situation to linger for too long. Its very easy to be complacent and forget that women are emotional beings and completely different from men. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by Psoul(m): 8:53am On Feb 15, 2017 |
brasilia: Ok |
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