As a woman grows older, her chances to get pregnant lessen. I have found that more and more women I know are not married and have no children well past the age of 35.

What advice would you give these ladies that would help increase there chances of conceiving? Are there any herbs, or special diets you would advise? For the sake of collecting this information lets assume that the lady or ladies in question are healthy and not currently taking any medications.

Please be serious in your replies. Thanks.

wrong section but oh well. . .

some women have no problem getting pregnant after 30 and some do it easily as those in their 20s but if you( the person) have been trying for a complete year without any luck then there might be a problem. since the person is question is little bit advanced in age especially if this is the first time(pregnancy), you and your partner(they) should first consult with a gyn. to run some needed test and see if there is any internal problem. esp. with ovulation the gyn can put u on u effective fertility  meds to help and if not then the person should wait and being patient.  becox the patient dog always eat the fattest bone.

also the lady in question should not to stress(though its hard not to but just learn how to manage it) too much because stress affects many womens menstrual cycles which in turn affects ovulation and in turn affect the chances of conceiving.

I see that it should be in health section. I am moving it there. As far as you comment, the gyn and other doctors were already made use of. They found absolutely nothing wrong with either party. That is why i am seeking knowledge of alternative treatments.

I am not sure if that is true, but i know so many many ladies that have got belle past that age and gave birth to cute babies, the professional jobs is making people marry late and making babies late these days.

Things to do ;
Be patient,relax and dont spend all ur energy thinking abt pregnancy.
Make sure ur BMI is OK.Eat healthy,exercise and drop some harmful habits like smoking,drinking.
Take lots of vitamins esp Folic acid.
Track and know ur fertile days,know ur Ovulating days and ur general body cycle.
Dont forget that late pregnancies increases ur risk of ;
Miscarriage
having twins.
having children with downs syndrome

ifyalways:

Things to do ;
Be patient,relax and dont spend all your energy thinking abt pregnancy.
Make sure your BMI is OK.Eat healthy,exercise and drop some harmful habits like smoking,drinking.
Take lots of vitamins esp Folic acid.
Track and know your fertile days,know your Ovulating days and your general body cycle.
Dont forget that late pregnancies increases your risk of ;
Miscarriage
having twins.
having children with downs syndrome

I never know say u be Medical Dr. oh
Nice one there.

Guys I see women well beyond 30, 35 and at 40 pregnant everyday. Is the poster's statement or question real? I dont know but I may have to differ,

Out of curiousity please allow me to ask this, being married and childless is it really a desparate situation?

SA Lady:

Out of curiousity please allow me to ask this, being married and childless is it really a desparate situation?

Great question, also, there are so many kids to be adopted.

SA Lady:

Out of curiousity please allow me to ask this, being married and childless is it really a desparate situation?

It should not be a desperate situation. I think it is an African thing. Like Fhemmy said, couples can adopt.

Women get pregnant and have children at well over 40yrs!

Guys thanks for your word of reason. I often cant stand people who carry on through life with self inflicted misery (this may be harsh, sorry). You know those people I am talking about, their world is made of "I who have nothing, I who have no one". I cant understand them because in my world there's a solution to every problem, and I have also learned to live well enough without, and accept things I cannot change. Yes some days are harder, but for each one of those days there's faith. Oh! by the way "Be careful what you ask for, cos you might just get it" Life has taught me that too,

Sorry for getting all heavy over such candid talk guys,

May all the women/men of earth that yearn for children be blessed with plenty children, this will be my prayer tonight,

@ SA lady. the post was made seeking advice to increase the possibility of pregnancy. It is a real post.

To all the other replies, Thank you very much for your input. However this is not about adoption or desperation. Please don't read anything more into this.

SA Lady:

Guys thanks for your word of reason. I often cant stand people who carry on through life with self inflicted misery (this may be harsh, sorry). You know those people I am talking about, their world is made of "I who have nothing, I who have no one". I cant understand them because in my world there's a solution to every problem, and I have also learned to live well enough without, and accept things I cannot change. Yes some days are harder, but for each one of those days there's faith. Oh! by the way "Be careful what you ask for, cos you might just get it" Life has taught me that too,

Sorry for getting all heavy over such candid talk guys,

May all the women/men of earth that yearn for children be blessed with plenty children, this will be my prayer tonight,

I am not sure how many will say amen to that oh, cos many children might be more than they bargain for, but i wld rather pray that they have reliable kids and blessed fruit of the womb

Hmm, Interesting post! Is this why my wife says she wants to have all her children before she is 35?

jerryland:

Hmm, Interesting post! Is this why my wife says she wants to have all her children before she is 35?

Now u have the answers, so made dem babies jare

I laugh in Gbugudu.

Fhemmy, infact, i join mama_gee to laugh in Gbugudu, Make them babies kee!

jerryland:

Fhemmy, infact, i join mama_gee to laugh in Gbugudu, Make them babies kee!

For real now, cos time is one thing that waits for no one and respect nobody . . . .hurry, make dem babies jare, just make sure you name one Fhemmmy

Things happen my sister, just have and keep having sex in a relaxed and enjoyable mood. I had 3 tests done which proved i have not been ovulating for years, i am over 35 and i just got pregnant when i was relaxed thinking not ovulating means natural protection for me as i dont want more kids but see what happened.

dbisiback:

Things happen my sister, just have and keep having sex in a relaxed and enjoyable mood. I had 3 tests done which proved i have not been ovulating for years, i am over 35 and i just got pregnant when i was relaxed thinking not ovulating means natural protection for me as i dont want more kids but see what happened.

congratulations,wether you need it or not.

dbisiback:

Things happen my sister, just have and keep having sex in a relaxed and enjoyable mood. I had 3 tests done which proved i have not been ovulating for years, i am over 35 and i just got pregnant when i was relaxed thinking not ovulating means natural protection for me as i dont want more kids but see what happened.

Congratulations, what a great testimony

dbisiback:

Things happen my sister, just have and keep having sex in a relaxed and enjoyable mood. I had 3 tests done which proved i have not been ovulating for years, i am over 35 and i just got pregnant when i was relaxed thinking not ovulating means natural protection for me as i dont want more kids but see what happened.

Congrats. It's not over till God says its over.

i would advice women @ 35 not to take any medication cos it can limit their chances of conceiving,moreover,a 35yr old woman can still bear children.

I saw a similar posting though long nut very useful in this link:

http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/topic,33.0.html

The poster is right. About 90% of a woman's eggs are gone by age 30. You only get a certain amount of eggs. Can a woman over age 30 get pregnant? Of course but you have to be patient and don't expect to pop one out right away. If you do pop one out right away then be thankful for that one.

Outstrip:

The poster is right. About 90% of a woman's eggs are gone by age 30. You only get a certain amount of eggs. Can a woman over age 30 get pregnant? Of course but you have to be patient and don't expect to pop one out right away. If you do pop one out right away then be thankful for that one.

I believe the issue of when is best for a woman to conceive is very intricate. While it may be true that for many women the age 30 and above may be a difficult time to conceive, for most African women, it may not work like that. I had similar thoughts when I had my 3rd child at age 36 and decided to relax on the contraceptives I was using and to go au natural ie safe timing aka 'safe period' lo and behold, I took in for my 'unplanned' 4th baby 10 months after the 3rd baby that I was breastfeeding exclusively! I delivered him easily when I was 38 to my most surprise. He is also a strapping handsome and brilliant boy of 5 now! Before then, I usually space my kids 5 yrs apart so my 1st was 13 when the last was born.

The time a woman begins to menstruate and ovulate determines too when her eggs 'finish' but really my opinion is that most African women if they relax and think positively will conceive and bear normal healthy babies long after age 35!

very helpful smart mom

My mum is a nurse specilizing in OB/GYN and the advise she gave a family member that has been trying for 4 years and is now 36 is adopt and shower all your love on your new child . let things return to normal in the bedroom if a baby will come it will come , stressing out is not helping. and if it doesnt happen you have a child to share your life with and you have taken the unneccesary stress out of your relatinship. She said in almost all cases where this advise was taken a baby eventually was conceived by the couple, for some people it just takes time.

Now I know this is difficult for African people to accept , so it depends on your relationship and how commited you are to each other in taking this advise

Pittbaby:

very helpful smart mom

My mum is a nurse specilizing in OB/GYN and the advise she gave a family member that has been trying for 4 years and is now 36 is adopt and shower all your love on your new child . let things return to normal in the bedroom if a baby will come it will come , stressing out is not helping. and if it doesnt happen you have a child to share your life with and you have taken the unneccesary stress out of your relatinship. She said in almost all cases where this advise was taken a baby eventually was conceived by the couple, for some people it just takes time.

Now I know this is difficult for African people to accept , so it depends on your relationship and how commited you are to each other in taking this advise

So correct but like you said, adoption is still a touchy issue here in Africa unfortunately. Read some really helpful and interesting stuff by a doctor on this topic here:

http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/board,13.0.html

that one na grandma naw why does she even try? only if she dey uk or yanki but for naija dont know if people will look at her the same, they'll say its a family curse or sontin