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oxypress:
This is our line of duty. While we need to water down the language for all to understand we can always spot the language of the fakes.. They delve into issues far above their competence. In a book of 1000 pages they cannot exeed page one. In my years of practice I have never heard any qualified doctor using such an antiquated language.

Forgive my ignorance sir. Im still in training, few months to being in Final yr. Nice to have seasoned ones like you on this platform. Your field sir?

Bumbae1:
It is Autism
I can tell op thing his son does.and he will be amazed .

Read

Pls take time to go through my contributions on this topic,I was only trying to explain to the man I quoted to avoid labelling and he was busy preaching telemedicine. I dnt I argue once I make my point.

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homeboy33:
Hi Yemi,
I also wanted to encourage you regarding your son. It's great you are seeking all the help you can for him and he's really blessed to have a such good dad. I actually know exactly what you are going through as I have a son that yours sounds a lot like(mine is also 3 years old). He has been diagnosed with autism and is receiving therapy. He is improving and we are very hopeful that by the grace of God he will improve more with time. I would suggest you see a developmental pediatrician, they would be able to do an assessment, provide a diagnosis if any and make recommendation on the best course of action. I know how draining the situation can be emotionally, financially and in so many other ways, but hang in there. Your son will get better, you just keep fighting for him!

amen, thanks

Yeah, I have been busy reading comments, suggestions and contributions of fellow nairalanders for the past few days concerning my child. I found a lot interesting and encouraging and I want to appreciate all for that. Even though I have not been directly answering most questions directed at me, all the same I still say "thanks" to you all. Though the boy's condition is depressing but I still thank God. I will continue to do my best and hope respite comes my way someday. I have heard a lot of medical jargons from different people, at some point, got confused but the good news is that my boy will overcome the challenge. Thanks all for your concerns. I love you all

I empathise with you Yemi. I know a few people with similar problems. Your child needs speciaIcare. I think you should join the Autism club. You'll get more information, support and assistance that way. A friend is a member of the club. Her son receives wonderful care and support and is able to talk slowly now. He's improved greatly and is doing well in a special school. He's now a teenager though.

I pray that your child improves tremendously soon. God makes all things possible.

yemi1261:
Yeah, I have been busy reading comments, suggestions and contributions of fellow nairalanders for the past few days concerning my child. I found a lot interesting and encouraging and I want to appreciate all for that. Even though I have not been directly answering most questions directed at me, all the same I still say "thanks" to you all. Though the boy's condition is depressing but I still thank God. I will continue to do my best and hope respite comes my way someday. I have heard a lot of medical jargons from different people, at some point, got confused but the good news is that my boy will overcome the challenge. Thanks all for your concerns. I love you all

He will be fine. Just try to get as much help and information as you can. He's still very young. With God and the right support, he will be able to do great things. You can pm me if you want to talk.

delpee:
I empathise with you Yemi. I know a few people with similar problems. Your child needs speciaIcare. I think you should join the Autism club. You'll get more information, support and assistance that way. A friend is a member of the club. Her son receives wonderful care and support and is able to talk slowly now. He's improved greatly and is doing well in a special school. He's now a teenager though.

I pray that your child improves tremendously soon. God makes all things possible.

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yemi1261:
Yeah, I have been busy reading comments, suggestions and contributions of fellow nairalanders for the past few days concerning my child. I found a lot interesting and encouraging and I want to appreciate all for that. Even though I have not been directly answering most questions directed at me, all the same I still say "thanks" to you all. Though the boy's condition is depressing but I still thank God. I will continue to do my best and hope respite comes my way someday. I have heard a lot of medical jargons from different people, at some point, got confused but the good news is that my boy will overcome the challenge. Thanks all for your concerns. I love you all

OP dnt be distracted by some of these comments, some are right while some are not just as you rightly pointed out. Continue the good works you are doing for your son.

Yemi1261, I asked for you to send me your number so we can chat on WhatsApp. I am no medical professional, just a parent who understand the heartbreak of dealing with something like this.
Imagine your child to be vessel which you can fill with the things you want him to keep.
Keep putting the right stuff in and slowly but surely, the same things will start to emerge from him.
It may look like it is vain but trust me, you will be making a difference.

Read up on Temple Grandin. She is on the spectrum as well and the professionals even recommended institutionalisation for her. But her mum refused to give up. Together they defied the prognosis given to her. She is still on the spectrum but has found success with her passion for animals.

Everything you need is around you, you just need to be able to see it. I met a mum at the park yesterday who's son is on the spectrum(older than my boy). He didn't play on the swings as such but that boy was like a cat, he could climb and balance on stuff so well.
His mum said in this resigned voice, "he climbs everything". Instead I saw a potential Olympic gymnast. Even if it's not the Olympic level, he was showing natural aptitude for the skills gymnast possess. It is all about perspective.

shaybebaby:
Yemi1261, I asked for you to send me your number so we can chat on WhatsApp. I am no medical professional, just a parent who understand the heartbreak of dealing with something like this.
Imagine your child to be vessel which you can fill with the things you want him to keep.
Keep putting the right stuff in and slowly but surely, the same things will start to emerge from him.
It may look like it is vain but trust me, you will be making a difference.

Read up on Temple Grandin. She is on the spectrum as well and the professionals even recommended institutionalisation for her. But her mum refused to give up. Together they defied the prognosis given to her. She is still on the spectrum but has found success with her passion for animals.

Everything you need is around you, you just need to be able to see it. I met a mum at the park yesterday who's son is on the spectrum(older than my boy). He didn't play on the swings as such but that boy was like a cat, he could climb and balance on stuff so well.
His mum said in this resigned voice, "he climbs everything". Instead I saw a potential Olympic gymnast. Even if it's not the Olympic level, he was showing natural aptitude for the skills gymnast possess. It is all about perspective.

thanks, let me send you a mail

@yem1261, you can see a consultant for free at the upcoming GTBank Annual Autism Conference. Visit this link to register
http://csr.gtbank.com/autism/new/you-want-your-child-to-see-a-consultant-for-free/

All special needs parents should also try and take this survey. It will help shape the future of services in Nigeria. Please complete the survey if your child/children has Autism, ADHD, Cerebral Palsy or any other developmental condition.

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shaybebaby:
Sir, I am speaking from experience. Whether or not you get a diagnosis, it doesn't change the fact that your son has got challenges. It might provide relief to know exactly why he is the way he is but it won't answer the question, "what next?".

What you need to do is to itemise areas where you would like to see improvement, and work on them separately so you do not feel discouraged.

You have listed a lot of things he cannot do yet. Now you need to think of what he CAN do even if it's not the way you quite want it to be.

Does he seem like he is in his own world? Join him, does he enjoy jumping, running etc.. join him and then use the things he enjoys to teach him skills he needs.

Change the way you communicate. Instead of using long sentences, use key words or phrases e.g. Eat, "don't jump", "bed time".

Use lots of positive reinforcement and praise. When he gets something right, praise him.

Have you got a tablet for him? Get one and download lots of free apps for learning.

My son couldn't speak at two but he could arrange the alphabets from A-z and from z to a. The first word he spelt was hippopotamus and this was at age 3. Yet he couldn't say mummy, no or yes. He learnt this because I see the tablet to reinforce his learning visually and he could watch it as often as need to grasp the concept.

Most of all, I hate to say this but there is no miracle in the pipeline. Regardless of which church or drug, it is the effort you put in that will make the most impact.

I understand that you are grieving for the child you thought you would have. I went through the same phase. It is hard imagining that the future you want for him might not be possible.

Maybe so, but it doesn't mean he cannot grow up to be successful and happy. You simply have to redefine what both terms mean.

For me, happiness comes in so many forms. My baby saying "no", managing a trip past the supermarket without him needing to enter to buy peppers( he is obsessed with and has to walk everywhere with his peppers, red and green)

You can do this!

Please I am trying to reach out to you privately. Thank you