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6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:02pm On Apr 01, 2017
We are all pencils in the hand of our Creator. Glory be to God

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Jackeeh(m): 10:10pm On Apr 01, 2017
Wait! Wait on God! Take your mind off children and focus your attention on the Giver of children. You've done your part so allow God do His, that is if you have any faith in HIM.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:15pm On Apr 01, 2017
Depression wouldnt help u n wifey at the moment, every prob has a solution, ivf is quite expensive but still has a high success rate, just keep faith and give it a try, in time yours would come...nb please forget about pastors here n there, your faith is all u need.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:17pm On Apr 01, 2017
Jackeeh:
Wait! Wait on God! Take your mind off children and focus your attention on the Giver of children. You've done your part so allow God do His, that is if you have any faith in HIM.
Thanks bro.Been there,done that.
Not.easy taking your attention off children when everything and everyone reminds you off the absence of kids in your life.
If you have not gone through this you may never understand the pain

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by mrstheo(f): 10:19pm On Apr 01, 2017
God is the giver of children my brother, just put your mind off it and God will surprise u and your wife pretty soon. I'm in same situation as u are. Have made up my mind not to let it weigh me down. All is well smiley

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Mskrisx(f): 10:21pm On Apr 01, 2017
If God be God...
If the sun still shines at day and moon at night...

My brother, before the end of next year, u will carry ur boys... Save there is no God. Quote me when she brings them forth.
You can keep doing what u feel will help as to feel relaxed but the end point is that I wrote above.

QUOTE ME WHEN SHE BRINGS THEM FORTH.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:24pm On Apr 01, 2017
mrstheo:
God is the giver of children my brother, just put your mind off it and God will surprise u and your wife pretty soon. I'm in same situation as u are. Have made up my mind not to let it weigh me down. All is well smiley
Thanks Sis.
May God hear your prayers and ours IJN

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by mhizEvangee: 10:25pm On Apr 01, 2017
stop seeking for the miracle of God.....Go close to God of miracles. God has not stopped doing good.
my aunty married, for 15yrs, no issue and d husband died.she was left with nothing. she got married to another man ,they stayed 7yrs before they had a child "Baby Testimony"
Keep trusting God, He never fails

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:25pm On Apr 01, 2017
Mskrisx:
If God be God...
If the sun still shines at day and moon at night...

My brother, before the end of next year, u will carry ur boys... Save there is no God. Quote me when she brings them forth.
You can keep doing what u feel will help as to feel relaxed but the end point is that I wrote above.

QUOTE ME WHEN SHE BRINGS THEM FORTH.
I am screaming a loud Amen
Thanks for your time.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by eyinjuege: 10:26pm On Apr 01, 2017
Why not prep yourself up, take a deep breathe in and out, and then face IVF squarely?

Of course you need to see a fertility specialist to decide if iVF is suitable for you.

I understand the costs of IVF has come down, as there are more centers coming up.

There are threads on NL which deal squarely with IVF experiences of people on NL. You'll be able to get various recommendations of good cheap centers.

Make that a goal, and follow it through.

All the best

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:27pm On Apr 01, 2017
mhizEvangee:
stop seeking for the miracle of God.....Go close to God of miracles. God has not stopped doing good.
my aunty married, for 15yrs, no issue and d husband died.she was left with nothing. she got married to another man ,they stayed 7yrs before they had a child "Baby Testimony"
Keep trusting God, He never fails
Seriously?Amazing testimony. How did she survive?I'm in.awe.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Lexusgs430: 10:28pm On Apr 01, 2017
bonjovi12:
Got married in 2011.No children.
Doctors have diagonised medical issues with me.Wifey has got some issues too but we have had them sorted.
There are spiritual issues on wifey father's side.We have been praying.We have sowed seeds.We both love kids.We don't envy anyone but bless them when they have their kids.
Have seen almost all my friends,church members and family all have kids.Some of them got married after us but are on to their second, third issue.
Just heard that the wife of one of my guys that acted up during his marriage is preggies.Almost couple i know has kids.
Have done procedures except IVF until a couple of years back.Spent money.
We decided to use money to do other things and just trust God to come through.
I'm not a saint.I.try for God.Bless people and do service.
Prayers have revealed we would have kids.We have both had dreams about having our kids.
Today I'm just down. Depressed. Wish I had enough dough so i can risk doing enough IVF to give us our children but worried about squandering my lil savings and not get desired results.
I need help.Pastors have ripped us off.Most of them wanted or wants something in return.
Just pray God can just do it and now too.
Wifey was not handling it well before till she signed out.Now is she just trying to live her life.
Its getting to me.I am a correct Guy that people admire and some envy cos I have got some other things going on for me.
I want above every thing else to be a father.Can't stand the stigma. I need help.Is there anyone out there who can help?
Real,genuine individual prolly been in this before and knows and understands how it feels and overcame.
I don't know.Just sad but cos I have a relationship with God no matter how ffed it is sometimes cos of my sins,I am still hopeful.

I think IVF is the next solution. But be mindful that its not a cheap process and the % of failure rate too is high.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:28pm On Apr 01, 2017
[quote author=eyinjuege post=55176012]Why not prep yourself up, take a deep breathe in and out, and then face IVF squarely?

I understand the costs of IVF has come down, as there are more centers coming up.

There are threads on NL which deal squarely with IVF experiences of people on NL. You'll be able to get various recommendations of good cheap centers.

Make that a goal, and follow it through.


All the best


This option is under serious consideration.
Thanks
Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Jackeeh(m): 10:30pm On Apr 01, 2017
bonjovi12:

Thanks bro.Been there,done that.
Not.easy taking your attention off children when everything and everyone reminds you off the absence of kids in your life.
If you have not gone through this you may never understand the pain

So how has all you worrying helped the situation? If you're a true Christian, WAIT ON THE LORD! There've been testimonies from your type of situation. There still are. You are supposed to to be a source of support to your wifey. If you both are worried and desperate, how is that going to help the situation? you both need to relax your minds. Worry less. Keep doing what husband and wife do behind closed doors. Do it at every available chance you get. you both won't even know when belle go enter.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:31pm On Apr 01, 2017
Jackeeh:
Wait! Wait on God! Take your mind off children and focus your attention on the Giver of children. You've done your part so allow God do His, that is if you have any faith in HIM.
I have got faith in God still.
Thanks

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by oweniwe(m): 10:36pm On Apr 01, 2017
bonjovi12

forget all those spiritual stuffs.

if you drink beer/alcohol or smoke ... quite both pls.

I'm not saying you drink or smoke o.... But all the men I know who have difficulty getting their wives pregnant either drink beer almost every day or they are smokers.

And after they stop drinking/smoking, it takes up to a year or two before pregnancy happens.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by hungryboy(m): 10:37pm On Apr 01, 2017
bonjovi12:

Thanks bro.Been there,done that.
Not.easy taking your attention off children when everything and everyone reminds you off the absence of kids in your life.
If you have not gone through this you may never understand the pain
The Op is right ,
If you haven't experienced what he is going through,
You'll never understand the pain

A wise man was told me,
Do things that make you happy
If a child is what you need to make you feel complete ,
Please by all means get one,
Whether through adoption or surrogacy

Or just try impregnating another woman


If you love your wife enough to stick by her no matter what,
Please do.
What am basically trying to say is,
Do whatever you wish to ,




Don't be influenced by outsiders opinions

My Mum's aunty is in her sixties and she got no kids, and she is still married to her husband for over 30yrs now


I always envy the love the have for each other

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by mrstheo(f): 10:39pm On Apr 01, 2017
bonjovi12:

Thanks Sis.
May God hear your prayers and ours IJN
AMEN!
Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by ufuosman(m): 10:41pm On Apr 01, 2017
bro still believe in God, soon you will carry your own baby. God ways is not our ways. God will put joy in ur face.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:43pm On Apr 01, 2017
[quote author=oweniwe post=55176296]bonjovi12

forget all those spiritual stuffs.

if you drink beer/alcohol or smoke ... quite both pls.

I'm not saying you drink or smoke o.... But all the men I know who have difficulty getting their wives pregnant either drink beer almost every day or they are smokers.

And after they stop drinking/smoking, it takes up to a year or two before pregnancy happens. [/quote
I drink occasionally. Have never smoked
Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:44pm On Apr 01, 2017
hungryboy:
The Op is right ,
If you haven't experienced what he is going through,
You'll never understand the pain

A wise man was told me,
Do things that make you happy
If a child is what you need to make you feel complete ,
Please by all means get one,
Whether through adoption or surrogacy

Or just try impregnating another woman
Are they both in Nigeria?Cant quite reckon with this experience

If you love your wife enough to stick by her no matter what,
Please do.
What am basically trying to say is,
Do whatever you wish to ,




Don't be influenced by outsiders opinions

My Mum's aunty is in her sixties and she got no kids, and she is still married to her husband for over 30yrs now


I always envy the love the have for each other

Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by poshestmina(f): 10:55pm On Apr 01, 2017
ItsQuinn:
OP go and commit suicide! tongue
You don't joke with people's pains ...not cool!

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:56pm On Apr 01, 2017
[quote author=bonjovi12 post=55176538][/quote
How were they able to do this?
Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:56pm On Apr 01, 2017
Too bad for him! I don't give a f*ck tongue
poshestmina:
You don't joke with people's pains ...not cool!

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by poshestmina(f): 10:58pm On Apr 01, 2017
ItsQuinn:
Too bad for him! I don't give a f*ck tongue
Suite yourself!

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:58pm On Apr 01, 2017
poshestmina:
You don't joke with people's pains ...not cool!
You just gave it the attention itcraves.Ignore it

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 10:58pm On Apr 01, 2017
Oh! yes i will! kiss
poshestmina:
Suite yourself!
Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by poshestmina(f): 11:03pm On Apr 01, 2017
bonjovi12:

You just gave her the attention she craves.Ignore her.
Was just suprised a 'human being' could be so insensitive ...I pray God grants ur request ,it's well .

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by oweniwe(m): 11:05pm On Apr 01, 2017
[quote author=bonjovi12 post=55176498][/quote]

Let me tell u about an uncle.... he's quite popular ... he's the secretary of some peer associations... so any time he goes to visit people or party, they serve him beer.

7 years, the guy no fit give his wife belle... he got high blood pressure and a doctor advised him to stop drinking...

About 6 months later his wife & another gal both got pregnant at same time.

sadly, after the ladies delivered, he started drinking beer again ... he went to night party and returned early morning complaining of chest pains..

High blood pressure took him.

I stopped drinking beer cos of that.

so maybe you should abstain from drinking for some months and see if it'll work.

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Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 11:09pm On Apr 01, 2017
poshestmina:
Was just suprised a 'human being' could be so insensitive ...I pray God grants ur request ,it's well .
Amen.I appreciate your prayer. God bless you
Re: 6 Years Of Marriage No Children.i Am Getting Depressed And Sad by Nobody: 11:15pm On Apr 01, 2017
mrstheo:
God is the giver of children my brother, just put your mind off it and God will surprise u and your wife pretty soon. I'm in same situation as u are. Have made up my mind not to let it weigh me down. All is well smiley
Are you waiting on God?Are you doing anything medical?

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