lilmaydee:
I don't think it is wise but sometimes you just need second opinion. I do it with my best friend and he does same with me.

babyfaceafrica:
Yes and no...which kain friends do you have?..some friends are better than family,pastor and doctors..some are worse than the devil himself...again I ask which kind of friends do you roll with?

ikp120:
I hate it with passion. Once I find out, na breakup be that o.

Ineedinfo:
Maybe you trust your best friend wholeheartedly. Have you ever considered the advise not being well intended?

Ineedinfo:
You've got an interesting point there. If you actually test their loyalty, how would you decipher what their action meant? Especially if you can't discern actions beyond face value.

Fadamant:
I am an independent thinker. I hardly seek advice and listen to other opinions, though I speak to a few mature friends if I am in a crisis situation. So I've already decided not to marry any woman who has to discuss all relationship or marriage issues with friends, mom, siblings and even pastor. When we need to talk to someone, we would know the person or pastor it should be.

Ineedinfo:
Your view on this issue is quite similar to mine. I never really see the need but then I don't trust easily. I want to find out if my view is wrong. I'd like to know the advantages because from where I stand, I only see people using what they were told in confidence against the person maybe during a fight or just gisting with other friends.

Fadamant:


Well, for me I don't care or worry about anyone using whatever he or she is told against me.

My position is that, if my partner cannot handle our issues herself and must talk to her friends and others each time she has something about her relationship to worry about, then she is not up to scratch in the first place. Even if I have to talk to someone concerning my relationship/marriage, it should not be my friend or her friend. If you do that you will gradually destroy your relationship. Don't trust any friend completely.

Ineedinfo:
I see your point. I guess individually we're all built differently. Some probably use that means to vent their frustrations, letting out steam. It may be harsh to breakup with a girl you're dating based on something as trivial as that...instead like you said. If she must confide in someone, it should be someone older and mature. Who would never use it against her.

Ineedinfo:
I see your point. I guess individually we're all built differently. Some probably use that means to vent their frustrations, letting out steam. It may be harsh to breakup with a girl you're dating based on something as trivial as that...instead like you said. If she must confide in someone, it should be someone older and mature. Who would never use it against her.