I have been happily married for 6 years now with beautiful kids. But recently my husband started being secretive with his phone. He passworded his phone and when I asked him what he was hiding, he will not give me any tangible reason. This attitude continued for some time, so I decided to hack his phone. I downloaded an Application that enabled me have access to his WhatsApp account from my own phone. From this application, I observed that he was chatting with his ex-girlfriend who is now married too. They were expressing love for each other and how they wished they got married and all that. On this same day they were chatting, my husband was suppose to travel outside the country, so I noticed that the two of them have scheduled to meet at the airport where they planned to have sex with each other before he finally flies out. When I saw this chat, my husband was already on his way to airport, I screeshot all their chats and sent it to him, expressing my disappointment. I also sent the screeshot to the lady so that she will know I know what is happening. I also warned her to stop destroying my marriage, if not I will disgrace her. I later got in contact with the lady's husband through Facebook friend request and I started chatting with him. In the process I told him that his wife is trying to destroy my marriage. I also sent the screeshot to him. He promised me that he will make sure his wife does not destroy my marriage. Right now my husband has been calling but I have refused to pick him calls. I feel so betrayed that a man I trusted so much could do this to me. I don't want to easily forgive him and I am looking for a way to really punish him for betraying my love for him. Please help me because am so demoralised right now. Sorry for the long story.

I think you should be careful while planning on how to punish him, so you don't end up pushing him away forever

Punish your husband? U will just end up shooting urself on the leg

Okay sister,I know its hard to bear the memory of it keeps ringing in your head,but for the sake of your marriage u just have to forgive,the sooner the better,but sometimes I dont know why married man cheat,u use 5min enjoyment to destroy marriage... For real its not worthy

Just pour him Nacl

jesusbabe00:
I have been happily married for 6 years now with beautiful kids. But recently my husband started being secretive with his phone. He passworded his phone and when I asked him what he was hiding, he will not give me any tangible reason. This attitude continued for some time, so I decided to hack his phone. I downloaded an Application that enabled me have access to his WhatsApp account from my own phone. From this application, I observed that he was chatting with his ex-girlfriend who is now married too. They were expressing love for each other and how they wished they got married and all that. On this same day they were chatting, my husband was suppose to travel outside the country, so I noticed that the two of them have scheduled to meet at the airport where they planned to have sex with each other before he finally flies out. When I saw this chat, my husband was already on his way to airport, I screeshot all their chats and sent it to him, expressing my disappointment. I also sent the screeshot to the lady so that she will know I know what is happening. I also warned her to stop destroying my marriage, if not I will disgrace her. I later got in contact with the lady's husband through Facebook friend request and I started chatting with him. In the process I told him that his wife is trying to destroy my marriage. I also sent the screeshot to him. He promised me that he will make sure his wife does not destroy my marriage. Right now my husband has been calling but I have refused to pick him calls. I feel so betrayed that a man I trusted so much could do this to me. I don't want to easily forgive him and I am looking for a way to really punish him for betraying my love for him. Please help me because am so demoralised right now. Sorry for the long story.

Jesusbabe doesn't want to forgive easily so she wants us to help her find ways to punish him



Doesn't sound like what Jesus would do

Wowzerful! Wetin dey do these men biko?


Just take it easy...I'm sure by the time the babe's husband finishes with her, she won't come within a mile radius of your husband again. As for him, pick his calls, listen to him first before you make your decision. May God help you deal with this.

Tell him to kneel down raise up his hands and close his eyes

Well I can feel your pain sis, I know this might be difficult to do, just forgive your husband and move on, all is well . cheers

so sorry abt evritin!


BT if u really wanna punish him,






Just walk out of d marriage!









If u do anything oda than DAT








ul hav urself 2 blame!

show him love like never before, let him know you know, then pretend nothing happened.

To me, you have punished him enough by making him look stupid and revealing all his hidden parols to him, the girl and her husband.


That's the greatest killer punch anybody can give a man

Jesus baby fit kill her husband ooo...

OP... do you want to kill him our forgive him... women sha... you're bent on punishing him... no advice from me...

Pick his calls, but form small for him, then Let him know how disappointed you are at him. Be brief with your discussion...Tell him how broken you are, and that you are not ready to discuss the issue on phone..
But t forgive him anyways ( but don't show it soon sha) . Especially if this is his first time.
May God keep your home

From experience, one of the best way to punish a man in marriage is to behave as if nothing happened and treat him better after letting him know that you know everything, the type of imbalance he go feel hen, you sef go pity him, he will be like what's she gonna do, abi she be witch, he will do all do questioning and answering himself. At a point self he will be scared of eating your food.

if you really luv him and kia abt yr marriage then d wise thing to do is to 4give him...as per punishing him (worst yu cheat back on him) it will only hurt yu more. Thou i dont condone what he did but some men would say anything to women to taste der honey pot, so dont take the chat msg too serious

dear sister I will advice u trade with caution so that u may not end up pushing ur husband into her hands finally
i understand how you feel but u took it to far by contacting her husband

Wait for him to come back and put sniper in his food.That will really punish him.


On a more serious note,you have done justly thus far.All parties are aware of what's going on.

You can pick your husband's call and simply tell him you will talk when he gets back.
Have that deep talk with him and hopefully he will be remorseful and seek forgiveness.You can both move forward and build a healthy relationship hence.

You have done enough punishing. Either reconcile the marriage or ....? At least now madam lover girl will face her own marriage.

Kondomatic:
Jesusbabe doesn't want to forgive easily so she wants us to help her find ways to punish him



Doesn't sound like what Jesus would do

Park here pls

Just either leave him or make it work!
Stop the long ting
Picking up his calls or ignoring won't Make u hurt any less so put r big girl pants on and tell him be blunt if you want to forgive him no one will judge u but do it like a a mature lady ..
Don't be petty or stoop low its very easy to walk away if you know what you need n want..

debbyaustine:
dear sister I will advice u trade with caution so that u may not end up pushing ur husband into her hands finally
i understand how you feel but u took it to far by contacting her husband

Trade?

abdulahi001:
From experience, one of the best way to punish a man in marriage is to behave as if nothing happened and treat him better after letting him know that you know everything, the type of imbalance he go feel hen, you sef go pity him, he will be like what's she gonna do, abi she be witch, he will do all do questioning and answering himself. At a point self he will be scared of eating your food.

This will work for a man that has conscience. Some useless men will see this as a sign of approval from the wife. By the time they finish with her, high BP will be the least of her worries.

Divorce him and marry Jesus

Bumbae1:
Park here pls

Just either leave him or make it work!
Stop the long ting
Picking up his calls or ignoring won't Make u hurt any less so put r big girl pants on and tell him be blunt if you want to forgive him no one will judge u but do it like a a mature lady ..
Don't be petty or stoop low its very easy to walk away if you know what you need n want..

come nor dey give that kind advice again oo

abdulahi001:
From experience, one of the best way to punish a man in marriage is to behave as if nothing happened and treat him better after letting him know that you know everything, the type of imbalance he go feel hen, you sef go pity him, he will be like what's she gonna do, abi she be witch, he will do all do questioning and answering himself. At a point self he will be scared of eating your food.

This is the best kind of punishment

Since u caught him cheating, u no longer live in denial. Telling d lad)'s husband is supposed to be enough revenge. Next time ur husband wld not use whatsapp to cheat but he wld still attempt it much later. Just move on and forgive him. If tht is the worst thing in ur marriage, u hav tried.

It's absolutely awkward cheating on your partner.
He just broke the family chain and things can't be the same again.
Wtf! Why communicating with an ex while I'm your wife?
If you can't put your d!ck in checked then count me out.

Madam,since you've informed the other party I'll say let that be your starting point.


If you can act weird,then that would be an added value to your plans.
Ensure,you're on a different page with him totally.
Treat him like a stranger.
BUT DON'T POISON HIM O mbok!

Believe me,he would have done worst if the table was to be turned.

divorce him

Sorry for the betrayal.I know you are coming from a place of hurt and pain.


Hopefully,you understand that the other woman wasn't acting alone,your husband was also actively 'destroying' your marriage.

Can it be fixed?I don't know.many men and women are living with spouses who have cheated or are cheating,how successful they are ,I cannot say.Many live in total resentment,some forgive and go on to build a stronger marriage especially if the man is the cheat,I'm speaking of naija setting cos trust me all the responses here would be different if the case had been reversed and it was you that was planning se xcapade.

Punish him however you deem fit,you are the aggrieved.Dont let anyone tell you the way you feel is not valid or the extent of your pain,they cannot feel the same hurt you are feeling,neither should they tell you when it is enough.They will all be threatning you with losing the man bull shait.He is the one who has betrayed you and should be able to suffer the consequence and whatever you dish out till the marriage is fixed( aside torture and poison and any form of extremism)

They will try to find a way to twist it and blame you like you pushed him, meanwhile we know that a cheatwill cheat no matter what.Just listen to your heart and do what is best for you,If your marriage has been happy as you say I believe he will sacrifice all to fix things.If na one chance...

Remember to test for STDs ,you want to be alive for your kids.To rebuild trust may take forever or a few years but it is made easier when both of you are willing to work together to plug any gaps.If una nor fit..
Its up to.you two.

Good luck and sorry.

Don't be like the proverbial snail: Igbin alaseju, Baba asete... You have punished him enough with what you did.