If you know you don't understand the word marriage stay clear off the promises and the joy of marriage. Don't get married for the fun of wedding, the status offline ​as a single. Escaping the tag on you by society. I am actually begging you for your peace of mind and life.


If you ever gets married without​ knowledgeably informed about what marriage is your crashing is a fact. Don't near there I am begging you again. You will be living with another human being whom​ you are going to be doing things together with. who isn't just a friend or a family member. If you are a male you must love and care for your wife as CHRIST JESUS cares for your body the church of God Almighty. If you are a female, respect must be rooted in your thoughts and words towards this your partner or else forget it it will never work out till the end.



Now this is just a fact. There are other factors which makes marriage heaven on earth. Because you see, what the most high God Almighty is teaching married folks is based on his relationship with us. He showed us himself and the body. He gave himself for the peace and unity of the living God Almighty and the dead bodies.

Whatever groups you fall into, marriage always brings a special feeling on the day of contraction.


My point is, I want to spare you of the pains and anguish of it to the ignorant and foolish careless beasts. Don't try and stay away because you can't experiment marriage like you do your studies. You will end up breaking your emotions into unrecoverable dimensions. I will tell you the last word. Take a look from what is happening before your very eyes, how that ever since man fell from the high hill, no one is ready to go back to their husband.


Independency is the order of days. Marriage isn't for the amateurs. It's for the strong and brave warriors of God Almighty.


More to come.....

dingbang:
Someone who doesn't like stress, can she make a good wife?

Oyind17:
why u want stress her, marriage no suppose be stress

dingbang:
Someone who doesn't like stress, can she make a good wife?

dingbang:
no I wasn't looking from it at that angle...

Stress isn't caused by human factor only na.. There are other things dat causes stress..

dingbang:
no I wasn't looking from it at that angle...

Stress isn't caused by human factor only na.. There are other things dat causes stress..

Afonjashapmouth:


You cannot base your judgment on that, cos.no.woman wants.stress but some are just extremely lazy so it depends on what you meant by the word stree

Afonjashapmouth:


If this is the case try to be straight and open about it cos trust me a lazy woman cannot make a proper home, instead she naggs and gives you reasons always

Oyind17:
Why always fault the women, she is a human not a robot. Tolarate her shortcomings.

Afonjashapmouth:


If this is the case try to be straight and open about it cos trust me a lazy woman cannot make a proper home, instead she naggs and gives you reasons always

Oyind17:
I get, marriage is supposed to be enjoyed but the reverse is the case in many Nigerian homes

dingbang:
well I don't think she might be lazy.... My mum when she comes back from a long journey with my dad.. She still enters d kitchen to prepare food for him.. Ignoring d stress accrued from d journey ..


Sometimes. There might be moments when d family is hosting an occasion . which requires a lot of stress in cooking and all that..


Stress from jobs..


Stress washing a heap of clothes..well thank God for washing machine..

Afonjashapmouth:




Now you are confusing me What angle was your question.from??

dingbang:
you know initially I asked a question . can a woman who say she don't like stress make a good wife..


You pointed it depends on the definition of stress she defines hers.... So far, from what she tells me, I don't think she might be lazy .. But what confused me is the type of stress she was talking about ..

Afonjashapmouth:


And that was why I suggested you come plain and address the type of stress before it turns out making babies is the stress she meant for an example.

Afonjashapmouth:


This is not blaming, now listen in a marriage duties and obligations are there to keep up with but if the woman is lagging in her own contribution then.there lays the problem.

Oyind17:
A blissful marriage is based on the woman's ability to endure. I don't like talking about marriage but you seems cool and I want us to talk, I'm bored

There are women who performs all their duty and the man still treat them bad. My aunt's husband is very authoritative to the extend that before she uses anything at home she'll take permission from him. He will walk up to her and say pull your cloths and he will make love to her and stand up. She said there are times she'll be crying during sex, he no send. If any of their kids is sick, she dare not take that child to the clinic until he permits her. Recently he daughter fell seriously ill and he said no to treatment. I told her if that girl dies, people will not take it kindly with her and that she should fight back and break free from her husband's manipulations. That was exactly what she did, guess what the husband didn't kill an ant. She fought to an extend I started begging her to respect him.

So my brother most marriage depends on how the woman's ability to endure

Afonjashapmouth:


And do you think marriage is supposed to be enjoyed or rather a game of endurance?

Oyind17:
Marriage is supposed to be enjoyed, African's have their own definition of marriage. Last week in Church, I was so angry in Sunday school our teacher was seriously telling us it's the woman's duty to keep her marriage. My blood dey hot where I siddon that Sunday

Afonjashapmouth:



You got it twisted..... Both.genders have some level of duties in a marriage. Lets take for an example there level of negligence from a woman that can make a man instantly crawl out to sin while averagely women dont just cheat except there are missing spices note: averagely in a mentally stable home. However marriage is a very big institution that is bigger than I love her and she loves me, tolerance from the man needs to be more expanded because there will be that day of you wishing you could behead this lady. That is why it is crucial to look deeply into what.you can condone and not aim at.changing your partner after marriage cos trust me it hardly works but rather breaks the home.

Oyind17:
Are you married? You just said what I always say to people. Love will disappear at a point in marriage, sex will disappear in some cases, trust won't be there too. The only thing that keeps the marriage in such trying time is tolerance, a lot of it till you guys come back on track.

Afonjashapmouth:


Of course I am married however I have prepared my mind for the worst, however even that is.not enough. Just learn daily and never treat your woman with the same dose another man is.using for his else...... Just scold and dont let it slide to the next month.

Oyind17:
This is interesting. Don't prepare for the worst. The best is coming your way. We women hate when our men complains about everything. Tell her those things she's doing wrong jokingly atimes. Marriage no be come chop my brother

Afonjashapmouth:


You have to be honest with yourself every moment will not be rossy

Oyind17:
You are right, still hope for the best

Marriage is never a bed of roses, look for a way to make it work. I know some women are something else

Afonjashapmouth:


Its working and we know how to patch our lapses

Oyind17:
I wish I can be more open, do you also feel women are to keep the marriage? Like sacrificing all to make it work.

Can I ask you some personal questions?

Afonjashapmouth:


Hit me up on whatsapp if its personal then.

Oyind17:
thanks