Hey all,

I've heard a lot of talk about the real character of a woman never comes out until after marriage and no matter how loving/caring a woman is during the courtship period, all that gets thrown out of the window after the dotted lines are signed.

Is this true for most/all marriages? I'm asking both sexes (male and female).I need answers (especially from the married ones).I'm currently in a serious 3-year relationship with a gorgeous lady and from the look of things, it's headed towards the altar sometime in the near future.I need to know so i can know how to put my guard up when the "metamorphosis" starts setting in.

Thanks in advance.Your replies (both positive and negative are welcome).

yes many WOMEN AND MEN do change after marriage. some for better and others for worse.

People don't change. Habits do. Attitudes change but characters don't. after marriage, both partners become more themselves. and there is no pretending, all the true colours are out, and that is when true love is put the test.

Yes, that's true that women change but what do you think its appropriate things to do when this happen!!!

Both parties change and become more relaxed. I don't think it is only a woman thing. Changes that happen aren't and shouldn't only have to be bad. Nothing is guaranteed in life you just take that leap of faith and pray that whatever life throws at you. . You both will come out of it strong!

If anything you should be preparing yourself to be the best husband you can be for her.

Men and women change after marriage. Whether the change is for the better or for worse is a different matter.

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YES!!!!!!!!!

sexyleamon has said it all, when someone is married he or she relax and the true U is reviled, there is no need to pretend, and also some do change for bad which can happen in both sexes, but my advice is we should be very careful, the truth of the matter is we will change but don't let us change to the extend that people around us will no that ha, this person has change, did u grab me? I LOVE THIS TOPIC

I dey fear oooooooo! cos am about to get hooked and be hooked myself!. I pray we both don't change.

LOVE IS NOT BLIND BUT IT BLIND'S PEOPLE IN IT. WHEN TWO OPPOSITE SEX ARE IN LOVE THEY TEND NOT TO NOTICE THE ACTUAL WEAKNESS OF EACH OTHER DUE TO THEY HAVE BEING CARRIED AWAY BY PASSION EITHER BY MAN OR WOMAN. THE TRUE IS THAT YOU CAN,T HIDE YOUR ALTITUDE AND CHARACTER YOU CAN'T, IS IN YOU AND WHAT MAKES WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE BUT IT MIGHT NOT BE NOTICED DUE TO THE POOL OF LOVE WHICH YOU ARE INTO. THE CLUE IS THAT WHENEVER YOU ARE INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND THE AFFECTION IS ON YOU NEVER BE CARRIED WAY , DO NOT LOOSE YOUR SENSES , JUST BE COMPOSE YOU WILL SURELY GET THE FACT OF WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH.

@ - Poster Maybe or Maybe not

I have been married for a little over two years and i can tell u that during courtship, expectations are usually very high. Within the first few years of marriage, it would dawn on both parties that your partner is not perfect. I believe that if you can survive the first few years and readjust expectations you can live happily ever after.

Goodluck.

The most constant thing in life is change, we all change as our priorities changes day in day out,

equal number change to good and equal number change to bad, it a natural thing.
But in all patient, transparency and friendship are the answer and as you both grow older, you begin to lean many things about your self's and the more you both see your self as one the better, wish you all the best, when the time comes.

I LOVE THIS TOPIC

sexyLeamon:

People don't change. Habits do. Attitudes change but characters don't. after marriage, both partners become more themselves. and there is no pretending, all the true colours are out, and that is when true love is put the test.

Gbam!!

i don't think people change per se - but circumstances can bring out sides o their personalities that have been suppressed in the past

a lot of loving women can become unbearable if confronted with unending poverty  


a guy who hits that big doe can suddenly morph into a womanizer

a lot of us are not that religious when we are young, but become so as we get older and are hit with life's travails - enter the prayer warrior who is out all night

and so and so forth

Yes!!! Depreciation sets in at a geometric progression.

depends on the individual in question.

Worst they are, with power and authority of being married.

oyb:

i don't think people change per se - but circumstances can bring out sides o their personalities that have been suppressed in the past

a lot of loving women can become unbearable if confronted with unending poverty  


a guy who hits that big doe can suddenly morph into a womanizer

a lot of us are not that religious when we are young, but become so as we get older and are hit with life's travails - enter the prayer warrior who is out all night

and so and so forth

Hey look at that . . .  'It' has a brain!      

@ Poster:

Oyb has said it all, but I also want to add something.

It's very important to try and encourage honesty in every relationship! Let people express themselves and show who they really are. It means people should try and be a little less judgemental. The more you judge or 'select', the more the lady beside you is trying to be who you want her to be and not who she really is. In the long run, it gets hard to keep up with the 'pretense' . .

Ujujoan:

Hey look at that . . .  'It' has a brain!      

@ Poster:

Oyb has said it all, but I also want to add something.

It's very important to try and encourage honesty in every relationship! Let people express themselves and show who they really are. It means people should try and be a little less judgemental. The more you judge or 'select', the more the lady beside you is trying to be who you want her to be and not who she really is. In the long run, it gets hard to keep up with the 'pretense' . .

now if only 'it' had landed property to go with the tokubo suv. . .

Never changes, harch they becomes !

Well, maybe we do, especially after birth.

no

oyb:

now if only 'it' had landed property to go with the tokubo suv. . .

LOL      

@ Least all my 'intenders' on NL knows that about me. Nobody's gonna accuse me of 'changing' . . .      

^^^^

some fellas may think u have when u start asking for helicopter

^^^^ Hey, people do change with time ya know! So I can wait till five years from the date of 'signing of the contract' to ask for the helicopter!

They don't change AT ALL 
Welcome to the married men's club . Take a cigarette  or a whole pack if you like . You want some whisky too. Hey take a whole bottle. How about an exorcist ? 

women actually change, but every thing depends on the kind o change.
before you people were married u are the centre of attraction, but ones she delivers a baby
he time and everything she thinks of if concentrated on the baby.
not that this is done intentionally but un-intentionally.
POSTER if u want to get married dont be thinking if a woman would change because it will surely happen.
all u have to pray for is that the change is a positive one and that its very constructive  i.e develop her and make her
a better person.

So get married the sooner u can

it all depends.