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8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by khalhokage(m): 5:42am On Jun 01, 2017
For the best relationship insight and advice, turn to a divorce attorney. After all, every day they have a front-row seat to the kinds of petty drama and missteps that lead couples to split up.

With that in mind, we asked family law attorneys from across the country to share some of the most obvious signs that a couple is likely to divorce.

1. They give each other the silent treatment .

“It’s a bad sign if a couple bickers and it results in the silent treatment. Sure, fighting is healthy in a relationship but when it turns from playful to serious on a regular basis — and it
ends in stonewalling — that doesn’t bode well for long-term success.”

2. Their sex life is lackluster.

“This seems obvious and it is. People can go without sex, but the bottom line is that we are living creatures and sex is a natural desire. Yes, there are relationships that endure without sex, but as a divorce lawyer, it’s not a shock when a client tells me they have gone years without having sex with their partner.”

3. They have very little in common.

“While it’s true that opposites attract, don’t assume that the qualities you fell in love with are going to keep a marriage together. For example, if someone is an extrovert and loves going out until the wee morning hours and the other spouse likes a warm bath at 7 p.m. followed by a glass of milk and a good book, there is no way the couple can sustain this lifestyle distance.”

4. Their careers always come before the family.

“It can be a problem when a partner always puts his or her career above everything else, including the relationship. This tends to be true, regardless of the agreement the couple has come to during the marriage. For example, my firm has represented laser-focused military members, whose partners initially agreed to take a backseat and raise the family so the military member could advance. But over the years, the stay-at-home spouse begins to resent the situation. Even the strongest relationships decay over time when one person puts their career aspirations ahead of the relationship.”

5. They have contempt for one another.

“Eye-rolling, belittling and treating each other with disdain are key indicators that a relationship will eventually disintegrate. While spouses don’t have to always see eye-to-eye to have a happy marriage, they do have to respect each other and appreciate their differences, rather than viewing those differences as being signs that the other spouse is stupid or wrong.”

6. They don’t respect each other’s love language.

“Knowing your partner’s love language — being aware of how he or she feels appreciated — is crucial for long-term success in marriage. Although spouses may love each other, they may not feel loved if they have different love languages. For instance, if one spouse shows love by doing helpful things or by buying gifts, but the other receives love through verbal affirmations, loving touch or quality time together, the love may not really be received.”

7. They’re not honest about their spending.

“A marriage is a partnership and each person should be accountable to the other for their family’s finances. When the finances are split, it’s easy for both partners to overspend. A couple can keep separate or joint bank accounts, but when there is no transparency on how money is being spent and saved, it’s nearly impossible to set and reach financial goals like buying a home or planning for retirement. It becomes a growing frustration.”

8. They never fight.

“Many spouses tend to avoid awkward situations and problems by either ‘shading the truth’ or ignoring something that has been on their mind. This leads to resentment. This person is your best friend, confidante and lover. You should be able to say anything to them. You should be able to to accept one another’s comments without destroying the bonds of matrimony."
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by youngest85(m): 5:46am On Jun 01, 2017
Olekuu

I can boldly tell you that a less sex filled marriage is a lasting marriage...

Ask Joke sylva
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by binajiya(m): 5:46am On Jun 01, 2017
Nice piece
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Davash222(m): 5:49am On Jun 01, 2017
youngest85:
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Your love for G wagon
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Kondomatic(m): 5:56am On Jun 01, 2017
Marriage don't last these days because we marry for wrong reasons.
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by smardray(m): 6:02am On Jun 01, 2017
Of course, they DO fight...
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Nobody: 6:06am On Jun 01, 2017
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Royalblak007 baba read this info sha...u will see, u gonna appreciate ur babymama wink grin
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Eggcelent(m): 6:24am On Jun 01, 2017
Interesting Piece.
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Lionessza(f): 9:42am On Jun 01, 2017
This just reminded me of an old song *Take time to know her * by Percy Sledge .






I think most of the points you listed are things that you should have recognized about your potential spouse from the beginning before you put a ring on it. But somehow people just think marriage will automatically fix these issues which is absurd ofcourse . For instance if someone puts their career first, how could you have missed this during the dating period? If you saw it how did you address it ? If you ignored it and hoped it will change during the marriage , then you have no one to blame but yourself.
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by RoyalBlak007: 10:51am On Jun 01, 2017
TrapQueen77:
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Royalblak007 baba read this info sha...u will see, u gonna appreciate ur babymama wink grin

♤cheesy Why always

♤me?
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Nobody: 11:05am On Jun 01, 2017
RoyalBlak007:


♤cheesy Why always

♤me?


Coz u need this to open ya eyez...u been sleeping between her legs but u didnt ask her for marriage even tho its like buy 1 get 2 free kinda bargain grin grin


Unless u are trying to tell me that she's NOT the one for you tongue undecided
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by RoyalBlak007: 11:09am On Jun 01, 2017
TrapQueen77:



Coz u need this to open ya eyez...u been sleeping between her legs but u didnt ask her for marriage even tho its like buy 1 get 2 free kinda bargain grin grin


Unless u are trying to tell me that she's NOT the one for you tongue undecided



I don't understand what you're talking about Måmi grin
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by Nobody: 11:16am On Jun 01, 2017
RoyalBlak007:



I don't understand what you're talking about Måmi grin


Hahahaha... grin


Abeeegi, dont lemme spill the beans hia ... i will tell u in za oza room wink tongue

Juz shine ya eyez and ask her to marry u sha so u can put some oil on our lips while were eating her baked jollof rice lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by RoyalBlak007: 11:21am On Jun 01, 2017
TrapQueen77:



Hahahaha... grin


Abeeegi, dont lemme spill the beans hia ... i will tell u in za oza room wink tongue

Juz shine ya eyez and ask her to marry u sha so u can put some oil on our lips while were eating her baked jollof rice lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed


Höw is Miss KIKI btw grin

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Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by SheldonCooper: 12:45pm On Jun 01, 2017
youngest85:
Olekuu

I can boldly tell you that a less sex filled marriage is a lasting marriage...

Ask Joke sylva

How do you know? Are you the cockroach in their bedroom?



O.P . You forgot to add communication and Truthfulness. A relationship whose foundation is built on truthfulness will find it hard to crumble
Re: 8 Signs A Marriage Won’t Last, According To Divorce Lawyers by mikool007(m): 1:52pm On Jun 01, 2017
smardray:
Of course, they DO fight...
U don't get it, do u?

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