We conflate sex with love - Look I’ll never stop loving my mom or dad, but I don’t think I should be having amazing sex with them every night either. The fact that we make having good/great sex a prerequisite for love puts undo stress on the relationship, and stress can cripple your ability to feel love.

The longer you spend with someone the less attractive they will become - Sure there are people who say everyday they fall more in love with their partner, but usually, it’s the opposite. Most people aren’t as great as our imaginations made them out to be, and the reality is they are quite demanding and overwhelming.

You out grow them - There are people who are amazing for you in a particular time in your life and then you guys grow in different directions and you don’t relate to them in same way, and that’s ok.

We fall out of everything else in life, why would love be any different? - I’ve gone to bed happy and woke up sad, and later that day I was happy again. Being in love comes in waves, much like a psychedelic experience, you can be lost in another world with someone, and later that night thinking about bills. I think it’s a lot more constructive to look at being in love as a state you get access to.

Our point of view of the relationship evolves - Sometimes we are in love because we have a limited understanding of what that relationship means to us in the grander context of our life. But as we get older and get more insight into the relationship we might see that this relationship has played its role in our lives and it’s time to move.


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She just becomes dumb...

My Ex is so dumb, I ran out of ideas myself