divinehand2003:
This is against our ethnic, religious and moral upbringing. The bed must not be defiled before tying the knot. Sex isn't the main thing. Compatibility is the key word that makes marriages work.

Chylo:
It's unbelievable how some people think. You want to confirm and know how everything taste and feel like before being married, rather than just have faith? That's also why some people would not marry until the girlfriend is pregnant to confirm fertility.

This reminds me of the story of our village idiot. He gets drunk but never buys any drinks. Early in the morning, he will come out to where they sell palm wine and tell them he wants to taste. He will taste one and say I don't like it, and go and taste another. By afternoon, he has 'tasted' so many and is fully drunk.

Women are not palm wine to be tasted before buying. You taste Aisha, I don't like. You taste Ngozi, I don't like. You taste Kemi, I don't like. So oga taster which one you like na? What is even your standard for this 'good in bed' of a thing sef?

Women are sealed for a reason. When you buy, you can unwrap and enjoy. God made it that way. Everything sexual can be taught and learnt by the couple together. No need overating sex like some extraordinary thing. Something the couple will do for many years, why do we think experience won't teach the right lessons.

x240:


You aren't married to him until you say i do and you guys mount the alter.

How many relationships collapsed 2 weeks or even on the weedding day?

How many guys would you have to taste? Might not be detrimental to a guy but to a lady. We have not really gone past that psychological aspect of body count.

I guess there are ways to tedt the validity without actually engaging in sex i believe. I am just intrigued by your position not that i am against it.

x240:
Wait...wtf are you feeling like?

Quoting you puts money in my account or what? Like seriously? Pele...

Irrelevant people feeling funky online

sisisioge:


If I hadn't visited back I wouldn't have seen this.

Firstly, I wasn't fighting with you. No time to do so. My insisting on not being quoted is because I didn't wanna talk more about my opinion about how I handle my seex life. If you got offended, no vex.

Secondly, learn to read beyond attack. This is a faceless forum where nobody knows the other. Its a sheer waste of time to hang on to perceived anger. Even if them fight you, no too indulge them. Pick your fights smartly.

Thirdly, if you have a born to pick with anyone, do not be afraid to pick it oohhaaa! Face her, she no carry fire . I really wouldn't have seen this if I hadn't returned to read comments. How else would your addressee receive a message not properly addressed?

Enjoy your day dude... Its a Sunday and salah

x240:


My initial response was quite clear. I was just intrigued a lady would take upthat position given societal normsand how premarital sex is viewed. It was open ended and i don't need you to justify anything to me.

It's your life and choice. I don't wear the shoes and definitely you are above 18 and should be able to make choices without anyone questioning you. I am not your typical i holy pass my neighbour nigerian. So the caveat was suprising and unwarranted because i doubt i would have even responded back except it was way out of line.

As for picking a bone? Who get that time? I am worse at recalling real life people's names let alone carry over anger from a previous time as regards a username or something to another thread . That must be a tough job to do. However if you stated you don't want to be quoted, I would gladly oblige you with that. Life is too short to worry my head over such. I do ask people not to also quote me back sometimes.

Enjoy your day.

sisisioge:


Cool we are clearer now...enjoy too.

x240:
oh i remember you now.

The troublesome lady with light issues at gbagada.. am i right?


I am out. Sorry op for derailing.

GreatCracker:
[s]Many would say time, trend, and nature would always have a way of changing any thing in life and you might have no other choice than to agree more with the fact change is definitely the only constant thing in life. Even at the moment when you are reading this post you can’t deny the fact that your body is constantly changing, or perhaps you don’t even know that at every second millions of cells are created and destroyed. You also need to know that if there is no change our existences is questionable. Changes is what results to movement without which the universe that we see around us today would not have existed. If you look from one place to another there is certainly some level of change happening everywhere you are from macro level to micro level.

Now you would want to ask some questions like “eehy why are you now writing all these?” “what has these got to do with the topic?” etcetera. The simple truth is we as humans must know that at every point in life change is bound to happen either in the moral aspect or our economical aspect or political aspect (2015 election) or in our societal aspect, just name it. So at any point in time change will always somehow occur.

I personally feel it’s a way of trying to defy nature and control human freedom by still holding to the ancient and archaic principle of “No Sex Before Marriage” belief, which necessarily do not even meet up to what it’s expected to achieve in the first place. We all know that this laws is meant to guide against extra marital affair and adultery but you will also agree with me that the opposite is the case, in fact it has been so ineffective and grossly inefficient and yes all these principles were laws from a mere mortal, so what else do I expect it to achieve if not the interest of its custodians.

It’s about time we all try to live our lives not for anyone but for ourselves as far as it’s not infringing or dangerous to another person’s right to live, life is certainly too short to live it for someone else, please try to know your partner’s sexual ability before going into any lifetime commitment with him or her, try to know your sexual strength and weakness before coming together to become one.

I will try to list few of the advantages so you could know the merits of “Having Sex Before Marriage”

Sexual chemistry.

Sexual chemistry is something that can actually only be discovered by, well, having sex. Tell me how you want to know your partner’s sexual vibes when you’ve not had sex before you guys tie the knot.

Sexual identity.

I know too many couples in which one of the partner was so clever to cover up his or her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn’t have sex with anyone. Not having sex with the opposite sex can also mean you ignore those longings you might have for the same sex, and therefore don’t acknowledge them.

Sex itself.

We all know it’s impossible for everybody to be good in bed, and yes a lot of guys out there don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good sex is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?

Size.

Tell me you won’t love to know if your partner is endowed with a superb cucumber sized tool or a tiny little looking pencil like tool? After all, he knows how big your booobs are. I’m not saying size would be a dealbreaker, but don’t you have the right to know what he/she have got down there?

Sexual issues.

Sexual problems like premature ejaculation, inability to get an erection, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues before you’re married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them.

Let’s face it, sex plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, sex is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance.[/s]