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Pls Am I Wrong? by oilcity(op): 1:30pm On Jun 23, 2017

Hello nairalanders, pls I need ur opinion on dis issue.
I am a university graduate in my late 20s. While I was in d university, I proposed nt to reason gf till my final year for personal reasons. But I kept lots of female friends. In fact, majority of my friends where females aldoe dey were d ones coming around me. So I proposed in my mind to select from among these my female friends wen am ready for a relationship.
Wen I was finally ready, two were in my mind. dey were my course mate and we all flowed well. So I went to my first option and told her abt my feelings for her. Lo and behold she said she was nt interested in any relationship with me aldoe I felt she would give me a chance . Given d fact dat we av been friends for abt 4 years, I felt she has known me well enough to knw if I'm d kind of guy she can date or nt. So I apologized to her backed off.
So I went to d other babe who is her friend and my friend. And dat one admitted dat she has been in love with me since den and gladly accepted. But when d former one heard dat we r nw dating she took offence. Wen I later approached her, she said, I f*** up. Dat even if she said she's nt interested, shouldn't I av pressed more?. Dat she said no nd I jost gave up nd went to d other babe. I didn't knw wat to say. She and dis my babe beef started immediately. Up till today dey no longer talk o. And wen dis my babe later heard dat I had asked d other babe out before her, she no Wan use ear hear say me and dat babe dey talk o. As a guy I still try to talk and flow with d other babe, but since my babe knew I had asked her out before, she doesn't want us to talk to each other again.
So pls pple, was my approach wrong? Mature minds pls.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by VargasVee(m): 1:33pm On Jun 23, 2017

Women are their own enemies, forget how they laugh with each other and shiit. That first girl is obviously confused, so she was fronting and now saying you should've pressed more, what is she? A button?

If you apply for USA and you're rejected, there's nothing wrong in applying for UK. If you genuinely love this one, flow on.

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Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Papiikush: 1:36pm On Jun 23, 2017

If you truly love a lady, tell her about your feelings and if she declines, unto the next one.

This life is too short to waste time on irrelevant people. If the first lady is still being a pained bìtch about it, cut ties with her and focus on the one who loves you

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Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by omega25red(m): 1:38pm On Jun 23, 2017

oilcity:
Hello nairalanders, pls I need ur opinion on dis issue.
I am a university graduate in my late 20s. While I was in d university, I proposed nt to reason gf till my final year for personal reasons. But I kept lots of female friends. In fact, majority of my friends where females aldoe dey were d ones coming around me. So I proposed in my mind to select from among these my female friends wen am ready for a relationship.
Wen I was finally ready, two were in my mind. dey were my course mate and we all flowed well. So I went to my first option and told her abt my feelings for her. Lo and behold she said she was nt interested in any relationship with me aldoe I felt she would give me a chance . Given d fact dat we av been friends for abt 4 years, I felt she has known me well enough to knw if I'm d kind of guy she can date or nt. So I apologized to her backed off.
So I went to d other babe who is her friend and my friend. And dat one admitted dat she has been in love with me since den and gladly accepted. But when d former one heard dat we r nw dating she took offence. Wen I later approached her, she said, I f*** up. Dat even if she said she's nt interested, shouldn't I av pressed more?. Dat she said no nd I jost gave up nd went to d other babe. I didn't knw wat to say. She and dis my babe beef started immediately. Up till today dey no longer talk o. And wen dis my babe later heard dat I had asked d other babe out before her, she no Wan use ear hear say me and dat babe dey talk o. As a guy I still try to talk and flow with d other babe, but since my babe knew I had asked her out before, she doesn't want us to talk to each other again.
So pls pple, was my approach wrong? Mature minds pls.

i hate the way you type

anyway you are F'ed up for doing what you did. you ruined a friendship. on the other hand the first lady is crazy for expecting you to not move on after she rejected you. your fault here is the fact that you tried to date two women who are friends and now they aren't friends anymore because of your azz. Now after ruining their friendship you are still trying to chat with the first woman after your girl told you to stay away from her.

your future with these women is on a timer

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Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:41pm On Jun 23, 2017

The first girl said 'No' not because she meant it but because she was expecting you to be persistent with your relationship proposal not knowing that you had another option. Where she made a mistake since she was equally interested was to have told you to give her time to think about it since saying 'Yes' would immediately make her seem needy. Actually, you did nothing wrong, and the girls are just being girls.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Victornezzar: 1:42pm On Jun 23, 2017

Op just invite d oda gal 2 an eatery
go with ur babe.....so d tin would pain her wella grin

I love all dis stories
but on a serious note....dis isn't something u should get worried about

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Ereolamide: 1:48pm On Jun 23, 2017

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 2:01pm On Jun 23, 2017

which one of the two do you really like?
can i say u like the first girl dat's y you approached first? now that everytin has turned against u, just apply wisdom, some girls don't worth the stress just like nairaland girls, ladies or women.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by QueenSuccubus(f): 2:11pm On Jun 23, 2017

See wahala sha..

U tell #1 since she said NO & not interested to u, u have the right to move on with ur life sha..

Now, dont let this #2 feel like she was juz an "option" sha..focus ur attention with her (yes! we ladies love ATTENTION) like proper dating..not just kiss & sex.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by oilcity(op): 2:15pm On Jun 23, 2017

Na wa for women o. I didn't intend to lose a friend in dis manner.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 2:23pm On Jun 23, 2017

Benita27:
The first girl said 'No' not because she meant it but because she was expecting you to be persistent with your relationship proposal not knowing that you had another option. Where she made a mistake since she was equally interested was to have told you to give her time to think about it since saying 'Yes' would immediately make her seem needy. Actually, you did nothing wrong, and the girls are just being girls.

abeg wetin girls want make we do....d moment a girl tell me no outrightly, i move o.cus i feel if she rili has feelings for me,she won't say no but say she wld tink abt it

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jun 23, 2017

God damn it op. F#ck the two girls and run. Simple.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Bahddo(m): 2:43pm On Jun 23, 2017

If I were you, I'd forget about babe 1 and instead make a queen out of babe 2. Make her feel special, and don't give a flying_fuck what babe 1 thinks. If your babe wants you to stop talking to the other one, then stop talking to the other one (except hi, hi). Or is babe 2 still just an option? tongue

Are you the one that told her that it's a guy's duty to hang around girls that reject them and wait for them to change their minds? Who told her she's that special?

If na me, before she talk the no finish, I don waka comot. If she had said she can't decide yet, it's a different matter.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Jun 23, 2017

Life is too short
So nigga try another

#Eco99#

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 2:52pm On Jun 23, 2017

This similar thing just happened to me recently
I ask a girl out and she said no
I decided to move on with my life and she thinks I am acting like a kid
She said I should have delayed gratification
I was just totally confused

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Martin0(m): 2:55pm On Jun 23, 2017

QueenSuccubus:

See wahala sha..

U tell #1 since she said NO & not interested to u, u have the right to move on with ur life sha..

Now, dont let this #2 feel like she was juz an "option" sha..focus ur attention with her (yes! we ladies love ATTENTION) like proper dating..not just kiss & sex.

QueenSuccubus:

See wahala sha..

U tell #1 since she said NO & not interested to u, u have the right to move on with ur life sha..

Now, dont let this #2 feel like she was juz an "option" sha..focus ur attention with her (yes! we ladies love ATTENTION) like proper dating..not just kiss & sex.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by mddavid(m): 3:32pm On Jun 23, 2017

Your approach was not wrong,just stay with the second lady and forget the first lady,because the second lady was already in love with you before you approach her.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by mddavid(m): 3:42pm On Jun 23, 2017

Good talk my guy

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 3:46pm On Jun 23, 2017

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by firstking01(m): 4:35pm On Jun 23, 2017

Ok, you asked a girl who had supposedly "friendzoned" you for almost 5 years out and she turned down your proposals with all your enthusiasm and optimism that she gon respond in the affirmative oder but she came back telling you that you were at fault simply cos you didn't stoop low to stick around and asslick her because you are now dating her friend which i believe she thinks she's better than abi??....

Dude, wipe her memory off your face...the average nigerian girl believes after saying no to you, you should still keep drooling over her ass....i must be an idiot to do so.

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Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 5:27pm On Jun 23, 2017

oilcity:
Hello nairalanders, pls I need ur opinion on dis issue.
I am a university graduate in my late 20s. While I was in d university, I proposed nt to reason gf till my final year for personal reasons. But I kept lots of female friends. In fact, majority of my friends where females aldoe dey were d ones coming around me. So I proposed in my mind to select from among these my female friends wen am ready for a relationship.
Wen I was finally ready, two were in my mind. dey were my course mate and we all flowed well. So I went to my first option and told her abt my feelings for her. Lo and behold she said she was nt interested in any relationship with me aldoe I felt she would give me a chance . Given d fact dat we av been friends for abt 4 years, I felt she has known me well enough to knw if I'm d kind of guy she can date or nt. So I apologized to her backed off.
So I went to d other babe who is her friend and my friend. And dat one admitted dat she has been in love with me since den and gladly accepted. But when d former one heard dat we r nw dating she took offence. Wen I later approached her, she said, I f*** up. Dat even if she said she's nt interested, shouldn't I av pressed more?. Dat she said no nd I jost gave up nd went to d other babe. I didn't knw wat to say. She and dis my babe beef started immediately. Up till today dey no longer talk o. And wen dis my babe later heard dat I had asked d other babe out before her, she no Wan use ear hear say me and dat babe dey talk o. As a guy I still try to talk and flow with d other babe, but since my babe knew I had asked her out before, she doesn't want us to talk to each other again.
So pls pple, was my approach wrong? Mature minds pls.

Honestly you are not wrong with what you did. The first lady is the type that wants you to beg her before she accepts while the second lady is the type that knows what she wants and immediately go for it with out much drama. I love the second lady because she's my kind of person. She has been dating you subconsciously and all you needed to do was ask her out which she accepted immediately. The first lady is only being jealous and defeated. She never intended dating you.

Re: Pls Am I Wrong? by jashar(f): 7:48pm On Jun 23, 2017

Hehehe. A classic tale of how 'playing hard to get went wrong'.

If Vashti won't dance, Esther will.

Na small pikin dey worry them.

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