Amhappy:
Pressure him to establish something here and relocate or relocate to another country where he think is okay to raise children. There should be a fast plan to come together if marital fidelity will stand. Body no be firewood. Meanwhile start a business that takes a lot of your time.

mira24:
I love my husband so much,he is exactly d kind of man I hv prayed for,he is really my missing rib,but d problem now is ,he is based abroad leaving me behind three months after our wedding, I know he doesn't hv plans of taking abroad wth him at d initial time,cause he said he doesn't like d country to raise his family there,but d truth is ,am lonely. Am alone in d whole house no one to talk to nothing ,I would just roll up n down my bed,feeling him almost evrynight,n wishing he comes back very soon.pls any wth my kind of predicaments n how hv u been handling it,matured advice pls

EfemenaXY:


@ op are you trolling?

Barely 9 months ago you were desperate to get into a relationship due to your low self esteem issues. https://www.nairaland.com/3377486/eating-self-esteem-away-need

Now you say you've been married for 3 months. So when (if at all), did you date this man to understand him? Do you even know what you've gotten yourself into? And you're just 24.

What was the rush if you don't mind my asking? Or you saw "abroad" and decided to jump feet first?

Well, good luck.

goodness11:
Abroad rship is difficult but not everyone here cheats.
I know some one who has been here for 4 1/2 years and has been 100% faithful but has only visited home twice.

Mindfulness:


Special Agent EfemenaXY

EfemenaXY:


Lol! Good day to you too. How're you?

Been looking around for you

mrwonlasewonie:
efe baby.how you dey?

Long time no see.hope the ministry is getting prosperous?

Abeg buy me fine Camry when you dey come naija o.you know say rain too much and fine woman like me no fit swim Inside dirty water go work

EfemenaXY:


Lol! Good day to you too. How're you?

Been looking around for you

mira24:
hmmmm,it's 9 month not enough time to meet,date n get married to someone!I know exactly wat am doing, a rather marry an abroad based man,than marry someone u cn barely put food on d table based in dis country .....

EfemenaXY:


Lol!

Camry no go help in that flood. Na yatch you suppose ask for.

I'm good oh! You nko?

mrwonlasewonie:
lol.I'm good.

oya buy me yatch

The one that will have driver,outside space for male stripers, another place that I will be in my lounge and tearing fried chicken laps and drinking whisky then Whitney Houston will be playing at the background

Another room will have spa where I can go for body massage

That's all

Mindfulness:


I am good sis, what about you?

EfemenaXY:


Izzz dat all?

#rolls eyes#

Your standards don dey drop oh!

Since when have you become female?

mrwonlasewonie:


Yes that's all for now

Meanwhile I'm still female na.it's SAMBARRY you know

I've not changed my gender

armyofone:
Op,
The wait period will be about 5 to 10 years. You should hang in there as long as you are eating ( sending you hard earned $$)
smh
Again, it's what you get when parents have many children...they see the other person as a meal ticket.

mira24:
hmmmm,it's 9 month not enough time to meet,date n get married to someone!I know exactly wat am doing, a rather marry an abroad based man,than marry someone u cn barely put food on d table based in dis country .....

EfemenaXY:


Oh! My bad

But this your name come resemble another one

mrwonlasewonie:

mira24:
hmmm derailer countinue

FortuneTeller:


I believe this. I know 2 men who dumped their wives on their family and moved abroad. They have no plans of being with these women. It was just to have a wife and child at home. I have a friend who is planning to do the same. He is planning to go home, get married and get the women to do IVF. He has no plans of her ever living with him. He's not even planning to send much money. His idea is to set her up a shop to care for his children. I hope this is not the fate of the poster.

FortuneTeller:


I only saw one person who tried to bash you. Everyone else gave advice. If I sound discouraging, I apologize. However I truly hope you don't experience what I have seen. I'm "abroad" and I don't know any man in your husband's situation that doesn't have another woman. I hope your case is different.

lilmax:
Smh, so what's on your mind is sex? when he comes back tell him to divorce you

what nonsense

EfemenaXY:


Just kicking

And procrastinating again #wails#

ifyalways:
Sorry o.

All through the courtship, you couldn't get a visit visa to visit him and see things for yourself and know his true status "abroad" ?

Nne, just hustle a visit visa now, travel and see, then decide if he's worth waiting for, how to do the waiting or better still know if it's time to move on.

mira24:
I only came for advice to help my predicament, but all I see here is bashing,my husband isn't a bad man,he has me 100 percent at heart.D reason y he had to travel out is to get a greener pasture ,nothing is happening in this country so he just had to leave ...I am not abandoned. ..I just needed advice on wat n wat i cn be doing to kill boredom until he returns. .