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A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by valJR(m): 7:09am On Jul 14, 2017
Please I need advise on this one: what does it means when a girl is comparing you with her ex for good attributes. ok for clearer understanding she is comparing me to be much more better than her so called boyfriend. What does anybody think she is up to pls advice because I love so much and she knows that...
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by austyn0(m): 7:14am On Jul 14, 2017
I can't exactly tell what she is up to because I ain't the dude spending quality time with her, watching her body language whenever she does this comparison, the look on her face, e.t.c.... You're in a better position to answer the question, try and study her deeply and don't just give yourself false hopes.
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by ITbomb(m): 7:16am On Jul 14, 2017
Rebuke her mildly but firmly, you should never be compared to the past both good or bad
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by muller101(m): 7:38am On Jul 14, 2017
Soon . reverse will be the case
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by SirMichael1: 8:31am On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:
Please I need advise on this one: what does it means when a girl is comparing you with her ex for good attributes. ok for clearer understanding she is comparing me to be much more better than her so called boyfriend. What does anybody think she is up to pls advice because I love so much and she knows that...

This is a hunch and you should in no way walk with it. At least not until you're sure.

Your girl is starting to like her ex again, this might be caused by the ex reaching out to her, telling her how much he still loves her and even going as far as saying derogatory things about you. Telling her how bad you take care of her and whatnot.

Now on the other hand, your babe seem loyal for now, although she's starting to like the ex. Comparing you to the good things/character between you and her ex just mean that she's tryna use logic to conquer her emotional feelings for the so-called ex in question. Her brain tells her how much you love her, her brain tells her how better than her ex you were but her heart is starting to fall back in love with ex-boo and usually, the heart wins.

Just try to read her body language, when she compares you, does she look confused, like a bit worried? Does she sulk often while you guys hangout? Check these and more.

Do have a nice day smiley
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by Alero3Arubi(f): 8:46am On Jul 14, 2017
Truth be told for me an EX is an EX.
But to your queshun.
She still has feelings for her EX.
If she had a chance she would to back to him.
Her feelings can be hate or betrayal.
But the point is that bridge ain't burnt.
I hate talking about my EXs BAe knows.
It requires a lot of effort to even remember them for me.
I am out and I'm out.
Except those we became friends which I really don't just rappor with unless I need to.
But truth be told memory is an indication of our emotions.
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by pasqal09: 10:27am On Jul 14, 2017
She's saying u as a prospect. Keep u the good work and u might finally score.

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Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by valJR(m): 11:25am On Jul 14, 2017
SirMichael1:


This is a hunch and you should in no way walk with it. At least not until you're sure.

Your girl is starting to like her ex again, this might be caused by the ex reaching out to her, telling her how much he still loves her and even going as far as saying derogatory things about you. Telling her how bad you take care of her and whatnot.

Now on the other hand, your babe seem loyal for now, although she's starting to like the ex. Comparing you to the good things/character between you and her ex just mean that she's tryna use logic to conquer her emotional feelings for the so-called ex in question. Her brain tells her how much you love her, her brain tells her how better than her ex you were but her heart is starting to fall back in love with ex-boo and usually, the heart wins.

Just try to read her body language, when she compares you, does she look confused, like a bit worried? Does she sulk often while you guys hangout? Check these and more.

Do have a nice day smiley
Thanks for this piece but the answer is she looked confuse while she was saying that. she wants to be with me then on a second though she is scared that she might face the same faith of not been loved. Mean while she confessed with her mouth that I am a caring type. And as it is now she is not having anything to do with her x cos that are not together
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by SirMichael1: 12:00pm On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:

Thanks for this piece but the answer is she looked confuse while she was saying that. she wants to be with me then on a second though she is scared that she might face the same faith of not been loved. Mean while she confessed with her mouth that I am a caring type. And as it is now she is not having anything to do with her x cos that are not together

So what really is your concern as she clearly said you're caring? But wait! When a lady -your girl- says 'you're caring', dude just rethink your life because she doesn't necessary mean it like the way you take it. It's like saying you're nice but the upgraded version.

Quick question aite? Have you given her reasons to doubt your love for her? If no, then be careful as she might be looking for an excuse to breakup. Ladies are damn smart and know how to cover their tracks so you might never know if she still sees her ex.

If she's got nothing for her ex, why then does she compare you with him? If she's scared that you might not love her, when then does she compare you with her ex since the relationship was a failure? Think! There's more to this than you can fathom but you can grasp a tad bit of it.

If the memory of her ex keeps flooding in, then bro I'm really sorry because your relationship is gon' crash except you try to relief her of such memories by overwriting them with yours
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by valJR(m): 12:06pm On Jul 14, 2017
SirMichael1:


So what really is your concern as she clearly said you're caring? But wait! When a lady -your girl- says 'you're caring', dude just rethink your life because she doesn't necessary mean it like the way you take it. It's like saying you're nice but the upgraded version.

Quick question aite? Have you given her reasons to doubt your love for her? If no, then be careful as she might be looking for an excuse to breakup. Ladies are damn smart and know how to cover their tracks so you might never know if she still sees her ex.

If she's got nothing for her ex, why then does she compare you with him? If she's scared that you might not love her, when then does she compare you with her ex since the relationship was a failure? Think! There's more to this than you can fathom but you can grasp some.

If the memory of her ex keep flooding in, then bro I'm really sorry because your relationship is gon' crash except you try to relief her of such memories by overwriting them with yours

Very helpful that just what ammer do overwrite that memory of the x
But the question is how.
The main reason why am doing this is cos I know they are not together I.e her n her x I got the info from a reliable source and this is my chance to get her
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by valJR(m): 12:08pm On Jul 14, 2017
pasqal09:
She's saying u as a prospect. Keep u the good work and u might finally score.
I perceive you are right
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by SirMichael1: 12:31pm On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:


Very helpful that just what ammer do overwrite that memory of the x
But the question is how.
The main reason why am doing this is cos I know they are not together I.e her n her x I got the info from a reliable source and this is my chance to get her

Oh! Wait! Huh?! Haaa! shocked She's not even your girlfriend self? Can you imagine!

Dude, I'm sorry but you're far into the friendzone. "You're caring" means you've been relegated 'far', way far into the friendzone. Turn thoughts from relaying your feelings as this may sever the friendship.

Take this piece of advice
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by valJR(m): 2:16pm On Jul 14, 2017
SirMichael1:


Oh! Wait! Huh?! Haaa! shocked She's not even your girlfriend self? Can you imagine!

Dude, I'm sorry but you're far into the friendzone. "You're caring" means you've been relegated 'far', way far into the friendzone. Turn thoughts from relaying your feelings as this may sever the friendship.

Take this piece of advice
Then as a friend will I treat her as well
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by SirMichael1: 6:03pm On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:

Then as a friend will I treat her as well

The truth is, being friend with a girl you love is risky and will only cause heartaches because she sees you purely as a friend, she can move from her ex to another guy but never to you and that can hurt you so much.

The best thing to do is to relay your feelings to her and if she doesn't see you as a potential-boyfriend, you'll know that you tried.

Now the risk is, relaying your feelings might sever your friendship or might make you her boyfriend. So which would you choose? Being in the uncomfortable friendzone or trying your luck with her.

They've been cases where a guy got promoted to a boyfriend and also cases where they don't.
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by SirMichael1: 6:05pm On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:

Then as a friend will I treat her as well

The truth is, being friend with a girl you love is risky and will only cause heartaches because she sees you purely as a friend, she can move from her ex to another guy but never to you and that can hurt you so much.

The best thing to do is to relay your feelings to her and if she doesn't see you as a potential-boyfriend, you'll know that you tried.

Now the risk is, relaying your feelings might sever your friendship or might make you her boyfriend. So which would you choose? Being in the uncomfortable friendzone or trying your luck with her.

They've been cases where a guy got promoted to a boyfriend and also cases where they don't.

Goodluck man.
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by valJR(m): 6:14pm On Jul 14, 2017
SirMichael1:


The truth is, being friend with a girl you love is risky and will only cause heartaches because she sees you purely as a friend, she can move from her ex to another guy but never to you and that can hurt you so much.

The best thing to do is to relay your feelings to her and if she doesn't see you as a potential-boyfriend, you'll know that you tried.

Now the risk is, relaying your feelings might sever your friendship or might make you her boyfriend. So which would you choose? Being in the uncomfortable friendzone or trying your luck with her.

They've been cases where a guy got promoted to a boyfriend and also cases where they don't.

Goodluck man.
Thanks would or give you progress report shortly
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by SirMichael1: 10:01pm On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:

Thanks would give you progress report shortly

Aite
Re: A Girl Compares Me For Good To Her Ex by Nobody: 10:14pm On Jul 14, 2017
valJR:
Please I need advise on this one: what does it means when a girl is comparing you with her ex for good attributes. ok for clearer understanding she is comparing me to be much more better than her so called boyfriend. What does anybody think she is up to pls advice because I love so much and she knows that...

Op I don't know you or her ex or the exact characteristics she is comparing but here is a few permutations

Now when a person compare someone or something to another person, it is very obvious the person uses the thing pr person as a a sort of standard
In other words, her ex is what she consider a standard bf and she feels a guy she is dating must be almost or at least better than her ex


Second permutation, she has not yet gotten over the ex and she thinks she has to do better to get over him

Third permutstions, she is trying to get you behave more like her ex because she loves his character and everything about him


Now sadly you can hardly do anything to change any of these situations but discoursing with her and telling her your observations will not be a bad idea

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