Its almost a year i lost my elder sis and its been very difficult to get over it.I tried so hard to encourage myself but i am finding ti very difficult to let go.I feel very bad about it.I lost my mum too about three years ago, and its very difficult to forget.I am presently working and living in anb apartment all by myself.When this feeling comes up, i cry so much all alone in my apartment,somtimes i need someone to talk to but i see around me is emptiness no one to talk to.I have talked to God about it and i just want to be free from this pain.What do u advice or think?

Hi ! Sis! this na everlasting pain a human always suffers on lovely one, especially one of parents. If one says U can give up crying, it's a lie because any time you reach a stage or remember any of their actions ever done together, you'll pale up and cry. Only this can reduce if you are blessed with a destined lovely one. May God bless you with a destined lover and give you fortitude to bear the groan of the loss.

They say time will heal all wounds. Was your sister your only sibling? Try to reduce the amount of time you spend alone. Don't go looking for a lover to end your pain. It will not help. Get involved in things. Feel your free time with activities preferably outside the home. When you love someone it is almost impossible to forget them when they walk away not to talk of one dying. I know it is hard but you need to work harder on not dwelling on the painful part of it. I hope I have helped you in some way. If you want someone to talk to then I can send you my yahoo ID so we can chat.

@ Poster, I lost my mum too last year. Its difficult to get over coz everytime you think of them you will always feel the pain. Try to keep yourself busy with anything that you are interested with, go out with friends, go around, go for shopping, and go to gym at night which I find it effective coz it makes me sleep easily, it prevents me from thinking and being lonely. Though easy to say, but we have to move on, life is too short and try to make yourself happy.

I have once be a victim too. I lost someone who so dear to my heart wen i was just 10 years and now am a grown up girl which the memory still remains. Just take heart dear.

I cry for the same reasons from time to time.  Missing family is hard.  I just let myself cry.  Someone told me that tears heal wounds.  I think it is a way of the body releasing pain or tell you something is wrong.

I got in trouble with all the pain.  It was so great that it broke my mind.  My body began to deteriate so I checked myself into counseling to get help; I knew I was in trouble.  After all of it and a few years, I am a completely new person and for the better.

If you are overwhelmed and can not get access to help, I would suggest to get some guidance.  Maybe you can join a church or somethignsomethinge usually good at things like this.

Be careful that depression does not overtake you. It is a serious illness.  Be on the side of happiness, and take responsibility for you happiness.