This issue I've heard from a good number of guys and ladies that their family policy doesn't permit them to get married until their older siblings have done so. These people are ready emotionally, financially and otherwise. Would you bend for such a policy with your degree of enlightenment and knowledge? Would you do it just not to work up the nerves of your parents that set the policy? I wouldn't.

thank god my family dont have such rules and that i dont value marriage that much.

if a person believes that they are ready and found that special person to get married with then they shouldnt waste anytime.
if anyones older sibling hasnt got the same luck, thats their problems and the younger sibling shouldnt suffer for that fact.

this is why there are so many people in 9ja marrying anybody just to ease their parents. its called PEER PRESSURE.
can you imagine how that first born must feel if they havent a mate in sight and all his/her siblings are ready to say the big "i do"?
there are too many people out there who:
1) marry the RIGHT person for the WRONG reason
2) marry the WRONG person for the RIGHT reason

WRONG reason to get married with someone:
- FOR MONEY
- because of peer pressure (family, friends, life etc)
- because you want to be independent
- because he s.h.a.g.s you good OR knocked you up
- because everybody else thinks he is the right guy but you
- because of body clock
- because you want to start a family
- because HE/SHE loves you
- because you want get away from 9ja or want to stay in diaspora.
and the list goes on. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Different strokes for different folks

It was a hot issue in one particular occasion. D lady has seen who to marry but d elder sister hadn't anyone at d time, d parents pended d whole wedding plans. Sucks!

D girl had to elope with d guy leavin no trails behind.

Smart girl

Smart? Without parental blessings?

No, why should I wait for them, our lives are different, so it makes no sense.

MRbrownJAY:

thank god my family dont have such rules and that i dont value marriage that much.

if a person believes that they are ready and found that special person to get married with then they shouldnt waste anytime.
if anyones older sibling hasnt got the same luck, thats their problems and the younger sibling shouldnt suffer for that fact.

this is why there are so many people in 9ja marrying anybody just to ease their parents. its called PEER PRESSURE.
can you imagine how that first born must feel if they havent a mate in sight and all his/her siblings are ready to say the big "i do"?
there are too many people out there who:
1) marry the RIGHT person for the WRONG reason
2) marry the WRONG person for the RIGHT reason

WRONG reason to get married with someone:
- FOR MONEY
- because of peer pressure (family, friends, life etc)
- because you want to be independent
- because he s.h.a.g.s you good OR knocked you up
- because everybody else thinks he is the right guy but you
- because of body clock
- because you want to start a family
- because HE/SHE loves you
- because you want get away from 9ja or want to stay in diaspora.
and the list goes on. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

He has said it all

[size=13pt]nope[/size]

your destinies are not the same, besides who said they would wait for u if they were in your shoes. better take your man to the alter and live your life.

@Googles: me neither.