Gaggi:
At your age you want faceless people to advice you on a life long journey that only you are involved in. Was she forced on you in the first place? You didn't date her? That's how one lady is thinking of divorce after just one month of marriage. What the hell is wrong with people? Marriage isn't for everyone.

Dagoma:


If you refuse this advice, don't come back here in this forum to disturb us about your broken home.

tosinjay:
You don already marry sef, some pple tink say na until church join dem nai dem marry. I wish u could halt but am against divorce, u don marry already, na to carry your cross. Pele

wristbangle:
It pains me I did not see this on time but some people have given the right advice which is to halt the wedding ceremony with immediate effect.

I know it will be painful but it's better to bear it than venturing into a marriage that would destroy your destiny.

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad. Now I dont know if I should halt my wedding plans slated for this Saturday.

Her and her family are very domineering and rude. She shouts at me at the top of her voice and does not respect me. I have done Trad and Court wedding. what can I do for God's sake

PaperLace:
Dear OP,

Whether you cancel the white wedding or not _ you're already married. Marriage isn't relationship where you can waltz in and out as you like. It's an oath, binding on both parties.

Be careful how you bring your issues to the public, considering that your mind is currently fragile. The general rule, may not apply to your situation. I don't think any responsible married person would tell you to walk away so soon. I have domineering in-laws too, your wife's whole family can never be as rude as my FIL alone _ but you handle such people with wisdom (now that you're already married). If you weren't married, I would have said run.

The early days of most marriages are like this. One person will always see the other as a demon, while painting him/herself as the angel. You are not an angel, I am sure your wife would sound just as bitter as you, if she creates her own thread. What you have to do is win your wife to your side. Once you genuinely win your wife to your side, she would handle her family.

The last post on your wife and SIL, you didn't do well.
If that's your own attitude, then you and your wife need orientation. Why does your wife shout? Is she a mad woman? Has she always been like this? What is she always shouting about?

My husband also doesn't know how to discuss in low tones, he must raise his voice. I used to join him, until I sat and thought about it _two people no dey mad at the same time. He did it again and I ignored, I politely told him he is embarrassing US and we would talk when he is calm. He still repeated it and I used all my self-control to keep ignoring.

One day, he called me and asked why I have been refusing to get angry. I started laughing and we had a talk that changed a lot till this moment. People like that know what they are doing to a good extent, the best medicine for them is to show them how normal people express themselves. Don't come down to their level, don't go begging unnecessarily _ just express yourself firmly.
When you do this over and over, they'll come to revere your silence and few words.

You mould your spouse to be who you want them to be. There is really no perfect spouse at first, but we mould them to our perfection with time.

Captain your ship as best as you can _all with the dignity of a king.

Evaberry:
didn't you court her?

Didn't you spend time with her family to know how she relates with them

didn't you befriend her brothers and her friends

didn't your friends and family spend time with her..

Did you ask your loved ones opinion before marrying her?
.have you asked her what the problem is, why she has temper issues. ..


My friend leave Nairaland face your home, solve your problems yourself and stop disturbing us

Plankton2017:


My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad.
.................. I have done Trad and Court wedding.

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad. Now I dont know if I should halt my wedding plans slated for this Saturday.

Her and her family are very domineering and rude. She shouts at me at the top of her voice and does not respect me. I have done Trad and Court wedding. what can I do for God's sake

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad. Now I dont know if I should halt my wedding plans slated for this Saturday.

Her and her family are very domineering and rude. She shouts at me at the top of her voice and does not respect me. I have done Trad and Court wedding. what can I do for God's sake

Eketem:
You have been lamenting since yet you went ahead to get LEGALLY married.


You will lament people will advice you will return and continue drama.


You keep comparing her mentally with your ex, your parents who approved of this one because of tribe should you how to manage this one. Leave Nairaland alone with your constant lamentations.



You are legally married for your information, church wedding is merely blessing.



https://www.nairaland.com/3710027/should-break-off-engagement-go

Korrection:
Drop your number let me advice you. I was in this shit before and mine was even worse. Today I'm happy with kids.....no cause for alarm....make contacts with me and no don't go on with the wedding until we've discussed. If what you wrote here is true...

Opakan2:
Wetin you sef find reach igbo girl side? As I don see "domineering" and "family" in your writeup, I dnt need soothsayer to tell me the girl is Igbo.

Marriage is not all about fine face or infatuation, it should depend on mindset and how reasonable the other person is.. But no, you slowpokes won't listen.
Na to chase yellow pawpaws upandan una sabi. shiooor!

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad. Now I dont know if I should halt my wedding plans slated for this Saturday.

Her and her family are very domineering and rude. She shouts at me at the top of her voice and does not respect me. I have done Trad and Court wedding. what can I do for God's sake

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad. Now I dont know if I should halt my wedding plans slated for this Saturday.

Her and her family are very domineering and rude. She shouts at me at the top of her voice and does not respect me. I have done Trad and Court wedding. what can I do for God's sake

Nma27:
wanna help reset his wife's faculties? Well, he needs someone to talk to.
Where are his family that stopped him from marrying his ex just because of tribe huh? Now he's suffering d consequence of doing what family wants...

coolcatty:
Dude... I will talk to u like a brother.... Marriage is a big deal... It's for a lifetime... The fact that u feel like this is a clear cut sign that this marriage was never meant to be..... My people say it's better to have a good in-law than have a good wife..... The fact that your in-laws are this domineering ND insulting is a big red, yellow and purple flag which will definitely affect your marriage in the nearest future....... Who will you report her to in the event that she misbehaves??


Oga you have gone far by doing the court marriage sef.... You have a 2 options.... Marry her and live a permanent life of servitude to her and her domineering people or walk away from this impending disaster called marriage.

The choice is yours.

YamPorridge:
Kpansh her well she will calm down when she orgasm like this. The Bruce Lee family will calm down when they notice she is and will always be on your side.




I just want to make common sense

coolcatty:
Dude... I will talk to u like a brother.... Marriage is a big deal... It's for a lifetime... The fact that u feel like this is a clear cut sign that this marriage was never meant to be..... My people say it's better to have a good in-law than have a good wife..... The fact that your in-laws are this domineering ND insulting is a big red, yellow and purple flag which will definitely affect your marriage in the nearest future....... Who will you report her to in the event that she misbehaves??


Oga you have gone far by doing the court marriage sef.... You have a 2 options.... Marry her and live a permanent life of servitude to her and her domineering people or walk away from this impending disaster called marriage.

The choice is yours.

Reference:


Which law and custom is that. If his name is not in any registry recognised by law courts he has not married. What rubbish tradition is that. To eat kolanut and drink vodka means what....abegi.