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When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 1:59pm On Dec 20, 2016
Will you still be encouraged to give your mum money when you know she won't be using it, instead it will be given to pastors we know so well that they are just scamming her.
When we told her we will stop giving her money if she continues, she said she is not forcing us to. That her God will provide. At d same time felt bad like we are neglecting her. Though she is a govt worker with good salary but always complaining of hunger. And if we don't give to her, people might see it that we are not caring.
What do I do?

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by EgusiSoup: 2:03pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:
Will you still be encouraged to give your mum money when you know she won't be using it, instead it will be given to pastors we know so well that they are just scamming her.
When we told her we will stop giving her money if she continues, she said she is not forcing us to. That her God will provide. At d same time felt bad like we are neglecting her. Though she is a govt worker with good salary but always complaining of hunger. And if we don't give to her, people might see it that we are not caring.
What do I do?

go to the church and do the needful to the pastor. undecided

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by YhungPablo(m): 2:13pm On Dec 20, 2016
the person below me has something to say.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Idydarling(f): 2:16pm On Dec 20, 2016
I have nothing to say

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 2:25pm On Dec 20, 2016
EgusiSoup:


go to the church and do the needful to the pastor. undecided



We ve done all that. Even the one that permanently took her car was bashed by me to return it.
My mum called to say she has disowned me for telling a man of God to return her car. In fact it was serious war.
we even went to threaten them at home, to stay away from her. But all to no avail

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by AstuteJay: 4:56pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:




We ve done all that. Even the one that permanently took her car was bashed by me to return it.
My mum called to say she has disowned me for telling a man of God to return her car. In fact it was serious war.
we even went to threaten them at home, to stay away from her. But all to no avail

Threaten them harder, intensify more efforts. They are daylight robbers. There is nothing you can do to your mum to change her. Focus well on the robbers in the presence of their congregation, they will be the ones to reject her offers.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Acidosis(m): 6:25pm On Dec 20, 2016
ah, abeg gimme mumsy number.



I need to enlighten her oo; 99% of pastors in that area are scammers. As far as that area is concerned, one can hardly meet any real MOG o, I've been there oo! Even Lagos, I nor dey trust pastors, majority are con artists, pentecostal rascals and certified scammers.


Whenever, I have something serious to talk about with a MOG, I just put a call through to my villa

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Richy4(m): 6:35pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:




We ve done all that. Even the one that permanently took her car was bashed by me to return it.
My mum called to say she has disowned me for telling a man of God to return her car. In fact it was serious war.
we even went to threaten them at home, to stay away from her. But all to no avail

pardon me for asking but Why did they take your mum's car... was it for repairs or what?

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Splinz(m): 7:43pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:
Will you still be encouraged to give your mum money when you know she won't be using it, instead it will be given to pastors we know so well that they are just scamming her.
When we told her we will stop giving her money if she continues, she said she is not forcing us to. That her God will provide. At d same time felt bad like we are neglecting her. Though she is a govt worker with good salary but always complaining of hunger. And if we don't give to her, people might see it that we are not caring.
What do I do?

Simply do your job of providing for her. Whatever and however she chooses to spent what you've given to her is non of your business- you've played your own part.

That's mum for you. I can't just help but love them all the same irrespective of what I think may be their mistakes.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by bennyrazz: 7:48pm On Dec 20, 2016
is she giving her money to the Pastor or paying the money to the church as seed or offering? Well I think you should thank God she is not using it to pay medical bills and I also think you should thank God she's not giving it to herbalists

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 9:13pm On Dec 20, 2016
Richy4:


pardon me for asking but Why did they take your mum's car... was it for repairs or what?


The pastor took it for his personal use. why she is busy trekking under d rain n sun. At times, she will call me to come pick her up

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 9:14pm On Dec 20, 2016
bennyrazz:
is she giving her money to the Pastor or paying the money to the church as seed or offering? Well I think you should thank God she is not using it to pay medical bills and I also think you should thank God she's not giving it to herbalists


Really Those guys are as good as herbalists

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 9:22pm On Dec 20, 2016
Acidosis:
ah, abeg gimme mumsy number.



I need to enlighten her oo; 99% of pastors in that area are scammers. As far as that area is concerned, one can hardly meet any real MOG o, I've been there oo! Even Lagos, I nor dey trust pastors, majority are con artists, pentecostal rascals and certified scammers.


Whenever, I have something serious to talk about with a MOG, I just put a call through to my villa



My dear, u really understand d scenario. she doesn't listen to anyone. whatever a pastor says is final. And they ve so much know her to be a free giver, so they invite each other to come and scam. Some even call her to change their car tyres for them. The one she bought wine for, told her to buy carton, that he is bigger than a bottle of wine. see race she carry go buy carton of wine.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 9:25pm On Dec 20, 2016
AstuteJay:


Threaten them harder, intensify more efforts. They are daylight robbers. There is nothing you can do to your mum to change her. Focus well on the robbers in the presence of their congregation, they will be the ones to reject her offers.


Did I hear u say reject her offers? It seems u don't know these guys. She goes to apologize n appeals them on our behalf. That we were possessed to have carried such a threat on MOG.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by bennyrazz: 9:55pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:



Really Those guys are as good as herbalists
there are some herbalists/babalawo that have rebranded since customers do not patronize them again. Even the Bible says we should beware of false prophets who come to us in sheep's clothing but inwardly they are wolves. I agree some pastors are fake, some are not called and some use it as a business making venture but I can assure you that they will all pay for it. It is good to be vigilant when it comes to the type of church you go to, does it take a way your freewill? what is preached from the pulpit? do they preach about salvation? do they follow Biblical principles? is the supposed man of God materialistic/money conscious? is he flamboyant and arrogant? the Bible says you should "watch and pray". Why would you mum relinquish her car? if the answers to any of the questions above does not add up then she might be under some sort of jinx from a babalawo claiming to be a Pastor. And you need serious prayers to break her off that spell. The Bible also says that by their fruits, you will know them. Them Taking advantage of your mother is totally wrong.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 10:10pm On Dec 20, 2016
bennyrazz:
there are some herbalists/babalawo that have rebranded since customers do not patronize them again. Even the Bible says we should beware of false prophets who come to us in sheep's clothing but inwardly they are wolves. I agree some pastors are fake, some are not called and some use it as a business making venture but I can assure you that they will all pay for it. It is good to be vigilant when it comes to the type of church you go to, does it take a way your freewill? what is preached from the pulpit? do they preach about salvation? do they follow Biblical principles? is the supposed man of God materialistic/money conscious? is he flamboyant and arrogant? the Bible says you should "watch and pray". Why would you mum relinquish her car? if the answers to any of the questions above does not add up then she might be under some sort of jinx from a babalawo claiming to be a Pastor. And you need serious prayers to break her off that spell. The Bible also says that by their fruits, you will know them. Them Taking advantage of your mother is totally wrong.


She has been brainwashed. Maybe some other things are used to blind her eyes.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by DrObum(m): 10:31pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:



She has been brainwashed. Maybe some other things are used to blind her eyes.
There's something called over-generosity and over-spirituality in Psychiatry. It's a pointer to bigger problems.

Take her to see a Psychiatrist, might be of help.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by bennyrazz: 10:43pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:



She has been brainwashed. Maybe some other things are used to blind her eyes.
then you should seek for solution on her behalf. You need to seriously pray on her behalf and you can talk to your own Pastor. You going to warn the supposed man of themselves would do nothing.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 10:48pm On Dec 20, 2016
bennyrazz:
then you should seek for solution on her behalf. You need to seriously pray on her behalf and you can talk to your own Pastor. You going to warn the supposed man of themselves would do nothing.


Thank u. I appreciate
Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 10:59pm On Dec 20, 2016
DrObum:

There's something called over-generosity and over-spirituality in Psychiatry. It's a pointer to bigger problems.

Take her to see a Psychiatrist, might be of help.


Even a pastor told her that over righteousness is her problem in life. She is over spiritual and generous. The has been working for years, nothing to show for it. Before d salary comes, she has shared it among all d pastors she knows.
The day I told her she needs help, she tool serious offence, that we are seeing her as a mental person. But I know this is not normal.
Someone dat will pray in bathing water, soap n sponge. she pray every second.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by DrObum(m): 11:07pm On Dec 20, 2016
thelish:



Even a pastor told her that over righteousness is her problem in life. She is over spiritual and generous. She has been working for years, nothing to show for it. Before d salary comes, she has shared it among all d pastors she knows.
The day I told her she needs help, she tool serious offence, that we are seeing her as a mental person. But I know this is not normal.
Someone dat will pray in bathing water, soap n sponge. she prays every second.
I have had a patient like that. Might need to be seriously convinced or tricked to see a psychiatrist.
Her behaviour ain't normal and she doesn't really understand what she's doing.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 11:14pm On Dec 20, 2016
DrObum:

I have had a patient like that. Might need to be seriously convinced or tricked to see a psychiatrist.
Her behaviour ain't normal and she doesn't really understand what she's doing.


Ur not really far from d truth.
My dad even told her to see a psychiatrist, but she was so pained dat we are all seeing her as a sick person. The matter almost broke d home. The pastors ain't even helping matters, They told her, our plans was to make her go mental but we did not succeed. And she believed them

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Acidosis(m): 12:54am On Dec 21, 2016
thelish:



My dear, u really understand d scenario. she doesn't listen to anyone. whatever a pastor says is final. And they ve so much know her to be a free giver, so they invite each other to come and scam. Some even call her to change their car tyres for them. The one she bought wine for, told her to buy carton, that he is bigger than a bottle of wine. see race she carry go buy carton of wine.

Ahhh... shocked shocked

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by bukatyne(f): 8:15am On Dec 21, 2016
@thelish:

Anything you want to do, do in kind:

Buy her raw foodstuffs, fill her gas, buy her Ankara or office wears, fuel her car etc.

Don't give her cash.

If she would give the food stuffs and Co to the pastors, change it to prepared i.e. cook the food, sew the materials etc.

As a poster said, over religiosity is a symptom of a deeper issue and what"s your dad's view on the issue?

Or did she have a difficult marriage with your dad and turned to the hands of the church for solace? If yes, you will need to apprepricate the pastors because they did their bit and you honestly do not know the succor they provided.

Visit the paators, apologies and give them little gifts this Christmas. .. a bottle of wine, N1k recharge card to call their members, a hamper of fruits etc.

It is well.

Not all pastors are fake and members have been led since 1700 to give all to their spiritual leaders.

Compliments of the season.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Loisemm(f): 8:42am On Dec 21, 2016
Some women and mothers are like this. They regard their pastors more than their husbands or family. I almost thought your dad was not in the picture. Late (God forbid) or away. Or is he not close to mumsy? Is she one among other wives?

I feel it happens more over here in Naija because we are a very religious people. I dont know how to help your mum. Keep talking with her to help herself first before helping people/pastors out there that already have more than her. Talk to someone she respects or listens to other than those pastors. This person can caution her. And u can pray about it too.

Also, some women also have this 'notice me' character. They are truly kind hearted but it is accompanied by pride and a conscious effort to impress. Sanguines exhibit this trait the most if they are not truly spirit filled. People take advantage of them wella cos they know it inflates the ego of these women/men. I hope this does not apply to mumsy.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by EfemenaXY: 9:43am On Dec 21, 2016
Loisemm:
Some women and mothers are like this. They regard their pastors more than their husbands or family. I almost thought your dad was not in the picture. Late (God forbid) or away. Or is he not close to mumsy? Is she one among other wives?

bukatyne:
@thelish:

Anything you want to do, do in kind:

Buy her raw foodstuffs, fill her gas, buy her Ankara or office wears, fuel her car etc.

Don't give her cash.

If she would give the food stuffs and Co to the pastors, change it to prepared i.e. cook the food, sew the materials etc.

As a poster said, over religiosity is a symptom of a deeper issue and what"s your dad's view on the issue?

Or did she have a difficult marriage with your dad and turned to the hands of the church for solace? If yes, you will need to apprepricate the pastors because they did their bit and you honestly do not know the succor they provided.

Thelish, these ladies have beautifully captured what I was going to say & suggest. Take Bukky's advice about not giving her cash or raw food items. Also respond to Loisemm's questions.

I too thought your dad was no longer in the picture (apologies for thinking that), but the fact still remains that your mother is using those "pastors" to fill the void in her life, especially now that her kids have flown the nest.

Again, what's her relationship with your dad like, and what are your dad's views about this?

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by Blonchilli(m): 10:36am On Dec 21, 2016
thelish:
Will you still be encouraged to give your mum money when you know she won't be using it, instead it will be given to pastors we know so well that they are just scamming her.
When we told her we will stop giving her money if she continues, she said she is not forcing us to. That her God will provide. At d same time felt bad like we are neglecting her. Though she is a govt worker with good salary but always complaining of hunger. And if we don't give to her, people might see it that we are not caring.
What do I do?
My dear it's so sad. I understand your pains. My mom has same issues. Give her 100 k she will pay tithe of 60k cos Daddy said we should increase our yield and sow seed of 30k then she'll start doing face that hunger is killing her. She even wants me to join her but I can't become foolish all in a bid to enrich these criminals. Nigerians suffer from religious ailment. Don't stop fighting is all I can say

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by UIA04(f): 11:01am On Dec 21, 2016
Nothing


Op would you have preferred she gave the money to Sugar sons

Warris your own SEF

She is not a baby or because u are giving her money abi

She'll come to the senses at the right time.
Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by GoldenJAT(m): 11:05am On Dec 21, 2016
Finally Bk from BAN...mk i no talk 2much as dem bad belles no de tire 2 press ban button....my guy....she does all thatcos d resources 2 carry out their wishes de readily Availaible.abeg try throw ur face comot 4 sometime...na personal race we de 4 this world....UR CONSCIENCE SHUD B CLEAR...WEN U TK SOME CERTAIN ACTIONS.

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 11:07am On Dec 21, 2016
bukatyne:
@thelish:

Anything you want to do, do in kind:

Buy her raw foodstuffs, fill her gas, buy her Ankara or office wears, fuel her car etc.

Don't give her cash.

If she would give the food stuffs and Co to the pastors, change it to prepared i.e. cook the food, sew the materials etc.

As a poster said, over religiosity is a symptom of a deeper issue and what"s your dad's view on the issue?

Or did she have a difficult marriage with your dad and turned to the hands of the church for solace? If yes, you will need to apprepricate the pastors because they did their bit and you honestly do not know the succor they provided.

Visit the paators, apologies and give them little gifts this Christmas. .. a bottle of wine, N1k recharge card to call their members, a hamper of fruits etc.

It is well.

Not all pastors are fake and members have been led since 1700 to give all to their spiritual leaders.

Compliments of the season.




bukky, thanks for ur response. Anything dad suggest irritates her. Pastors have made her believe we are witches n wizards. Dad inclusive.
For sometime now, I have been on foodstuffs, soups n stews for her. But she will always complain of not having #1 of her own. And when she is not having any money on her, she becomes aggressive. Little things provoke her.
Complements of d season to u. Thank u

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Re: When Your Mother Takes All Her Money To Pastors by thelish(f): 11:11am On Dec 21, 2016
Loisemm:
Some women and mothers are like this. They regard their pastors more than their husbands or family. I almost thought your dad was not in the picture. Late (God forbid) or away. Or is he not close to mumsy? Is she one among other wives?

I feel it happens more over here in Naija because we are a very religious people. I dont know how to help your mum. Keep talking with her to help herself first before helping people/pastors out there that already have more than her. Talk to someone she respects or listens to other than those pastors. This person can caution her. And u can pray about it too.

Also, some women also have this 'notice me' character. They are truly kind hearted but it is accompanied by pride and a conscious effort to impress. Sanguines exhibit this trait the most if they are not truly spirit filled. People take advantage of them wella cos they know it inflates the ego of these women/men. I hope this does not apply to mumsy.

Dad is very much alive. They live together. Her own is, every other person comes first before her. Except her kids hubby n mum. Her mum, that is my grandmom is even tired of d whole situation. She can give pastor 30k for recharge card but she doesn't have 100 own on her phone.
Thank u jare. I don tire sef for d matter

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