iamsammie:


That's what the devil wants you to think.
Marriage is important, the Christian family is the foundation of the church

scofieldsimba:
Marriage is highly overrated here..

kinguwem:
The writer is approaching the issue of marriage from the religious point of view. But marriage predates religion & no one school of thought can claim to be an authority in marriage.
However, a successful marriage has basic principles: - Love, tolerance, understanding, ability to share & take responsibilities & good communication.

bobkezel:
Another trash from op

thesuave10:
Number 6 and 3 contradict themselves.. So you can't enter marriage clueless about sex abi? sex outside marriage is important and needed so that you're not clueless. Plus you should also date multiple women so you know how the female psyche... So in summary your post just like 99% of posts on NL about marriage is : TRASH!!

olowobaba10:
YOUR THREAD SHOULD HAVE READ CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE, STOP BEING A BIGOT.

userplainly:
must u quote bible verse? am Christian o but wen reality comes knocking u go forget all these verses....the niccur that wrote this post is a BIG STUPID HYPOCRITE

Sard:
I'm a Christian, but your points are just wrapped around religion, Christianity to be specific.
The thread should have been created under Religion section, not General section.

Anyway, you made some good points.

Dotng:






It is interesting that the fellows above claim to be Christians but they have denied power and influence of Christianity in their thought process. Rather than comment on the value or otherwise of the suggestions posted, they prefer to attack the faith they verbally claim to belong to.

What is the foundational principle behind what works?
Aside from common speech, on what is your suggestion rooted upon?

The OP has given his own suggestions. Kindly give yours without exposing the confusion going on in your mind on whether to allow your faith to impact your thinking or refer only to contemporary psychology that you don't know where the thought behind it originated from.

EVERY TRUTH IS NOT LIMITED TO THE BIBLE BUT IS LIMITED BY THE BIBLE.

emmyw:


Marriage is very difficult for many today, many are enduring their marriage only very few are enjoying their Marriage.
Though many people are quick to blame in laws, jobs, spouses etc for the state of their Marriage. The truth is many makes very terrible mistakes that hurts their Marriage greatly. Here I will expose seven of these mistakes.

1) RUNNING MARRIAGE WITHOUT GOD
Psalm 127:1-2
[1] Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
[2] It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.



2) ENTERING MARRIAGE THROUGH NEGATIVE DOORS
Psalm 11:1-3 KJV
[1] In the Lord put I my trust: how say ye to my soul, Flee as a bird to your mountain?
[2] For, lo, the wicked bend their bow, they make ready their arrow upon the string, that they may privily shoot at the upright in heart.

[3] If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
EXAMPLES OF NEGATIVE DOORS
Pregnancy door
Cohabitation door
Sinful Wedding Door
Falsehood Door
Diabolical door
Masquerade Door

3) GOING INTO MARRIAGE CLUELESS
Proverbs 3:19-20
[19] The Lord by wisdom hath founded the earth; by understanding hath he established the heavens.
[20] By his knowledge the depths are broken up, and the clouds drop down the dew.
— lack of wisdom is the greatest singular killer of marriage
— If you are not well equipped to build a marriage, you will end up wrecking a home


4) ALLOWING THIRD PARTIES TO RULE IN THEIR MARRIAGES
WHO ARE THIRD PARTIES?
Genesis 2:24 KJV
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
In laws
Siblings
Parents
Children
friends
Colleagues

5) GOING INTO MARRIAGE WITH FUNDAMENTAL CHARACTER FLAWS
Proverbs 11:29 KJV
[29] He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be servant to the wise of heart.

6) GOING INTO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP OUTSIDE MARRIAGE
Proverbs 6:32-33 KJV
[32] But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
[33] A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.

7) NOT GIVING ROOM FOR COUPLE’S TIME
Song of Songs 7:11 KJV
Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.
~ The more time you spend with each other, the better both of you will understand each other.
~ On the other hand, the more you spend time away from each other, the more the odds of drifting away or falling into
someone else’s arms
~ Intimacy is impossible if you are always apart.

TYPES OF “COUPLES’ TIME” IN MARRIAGE
1) TIME TOTALLY SEPARATE (TTS): Time spent totally separate apart from each other,away from ones spouse is the TTS of every married couple.
— time spent at work,in different rooms,traffic or with other people etc

2) TIME TOGETHER ALONE(TTA): When you are together but doing different things,
— reading different books,
— chatting with other people on the internet,
— taking care of Children etc


3) TIME TOGETHER INTIMATE(TTI):
— Time spent together with attention on each other,
— talking about each other’s plans, visions, hope, fear, belief etc
— time spent together cuddling, kissing, hugging, gazing into each others eyes, sharing love, talking deeply, playing together, flirting, touching romantically and making love.

NOTE THIS
— The higher the TTS the danger for the Marriage.
— couples with very high TTI will have very fulfilling marriage.

Source: http://www.heroslodge.com/657/terrible-mistakes-people-make-marriage

jagugu88li:
These are all modern world excusses for being failures. Even back during the time of Noah people got married to strangers at tender ages and enjoyed peaceful lives .

The munite you immitate western cultures you don't fully understand, disaster is inevitable. Continue comparing your daily life with America, whom has no positive direction, then you later cry "7 ways something"........the grave is even deeper.

thesuave10:
Number 6 and 3 contradict themselves.. So you can't enter marriage clueless about sex abi? sex outside marriage is important and needed so that you're not clueless. Plus you should also date multiple women so you know how the female psyche... So in summary your post just like 99% of posts on NL about marriage is : TRASH!!

yeyerolling:
Number 1 sha. So are u saying these guys below ran their marriages without GoD

userplainly:
must u quote bible verse? am Christian o but wen reality comes knocking u go forget all these verses....the niccur that wrote this post is a BIG STUPID HYPOCRITE

frenzyduchess:
Thank you. I sometimes wonder how people before
this century were able to marry total strangers and still built good homes, it's clear that marriage is not the problem but the orientation,bahaviour and values of people that have changed over time

oodua1stson:
I didn't even bother to read once I saw bible verses there.




The same bible and Psalm written by a murderous warmongering idiot called David is now your own yardstick for a successful marriage?




Nonsense

spartan117:

Stop clinging onto hopelessness. Having a fulfilled marriage is possible

Read my comment and stop being a fool