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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Richy4(m): 8:34pm On Aug 20, 2017 |
I thought that in marriage, one plus one is one..If that was the case, does it matter who owns the apartment or Are we talking about big pride/ EGO here? |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Daeylar(f): 8:36pm On Aug 20, 2017 |
Femsyn: I referred to you as misogynistic because of this part of your post A woman will forever be a woman. I'm not trying to demonize them, no no, far from it, but you don't leave a yam in care of a goat! If you had given your opinion like you said based on what you observed from your friends and colleagues and advised the op accordingly, that's a different thing, e.g like this Don't let love becloud your judgment. Theoretically, there shouldn't be any hassle, after all they are now one, but practically, I have never seen this work ever.No issues that's your own opinion but when you start to make derogatory statements towards ALL women e.g "a woman will always be a woman", "you can't leave a yam in the care of a goat", just because of your observation of some women and their husbands, it's not acceptable. At All 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Femsyn(m): 9:05pm On Aug 20, 2017 |
Yes, Richy4, it's an ego and pride issue. Aside that, it would've been fine. PaperLace and Daeylar, I'm sorry, I won't be able to respond further. You guys are right and I'm wrong. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Kseafresh: 3:01am On Aug 22, 2017 |
Daeylar:Your logic is clouded woman! |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Kseafresh: 3:07am On Aug 22, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:Your whole sentence lacks good reasoning |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:33am On Aug 22, 2017 |
Kseafresh: let me guess... you wouldnt want to live in your wife's home because of your misplaced ego/pride, and would needlessly rather spend money to get a different house?! 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Nobody: 10:48am On Aug 22, 2017 |
Femsyn: I knew you wouldn't be able to answer that question. I just wanted you to know it's not a woman will always be women thing, but it's about the individual characters of the couple(s) involved. I'm not dragging right or wrong with you, save those mind games for someone else. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 10:32pm On Aug 23, 2017 |
thorpido: There is nothing wrong with it. There is also nothing wrong with gambling with your self-respect, especially when a marriage is this young. It is ofcourse impossible that your wife or any other third party would mention while angry that you cannot even afford your own apartment. Maybe they'll show you where and when you can sit. And even if they do, you can easily ignore such comments and behaviour, cant you? After all, you are more matured and self assured that all our forefathers that have observes the tradition of a man providing shelter for his family. Those things are old school ![]() ![]() ![]() You will be alright |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by thorpido(m): 10:53pm On Aug 23, 2017 |
OkunrinMeta:Life sometimes throw curved balls and the unexpected may happen.A man loses his job when he's about to marry and can't pay rent when it expires.What should he do?Decide not to marry again or move into an apartment of his wife? It doesn't take away a man's self-respect(except for perception) as long as the man does not sit waiting for the woman to feed him. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 10:55pm On Aug 23, 2017 |
Daeylar: But why do some people think calling men misogynistic, chauvinistic, sexist, weak, or any other big word would stop men from being men? We are who we are. Men don't move into their wives apartment. Its been like that for thousands of years. You can just as easily convince a monkey not to eat banana. ![]() And about your gender equality thing. Feminists are just too good to be married. The Americans you're learning it from have a divorce rate of 50percent. Go figure. Don't get me wrong, I also don't know why we cant all be single, equal and happy. ![]() Every ship must have a captain, 1 captain. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 11:10pm On Aug 23, 2017 |
thorpido: I understand you bro. It is easy to just give advise when am not the one facing the kind of challenge you just described. However, almost evert man that moved into his wife's house and regretted it did so because of challenges not because they always wanted to. But there are some very special women..... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Daeylar(f): 10:23am On Aug 24, 2017 |
OkunrinMeta: Go and look for the meaning of the word I used and understand its use. A man is only called those words if he acts like it. A man acts like that and is referred to accordingly and you dismiss such bad behaviour as men being men? Do you even understand what you typed? Why can't men move into their wife's apartment? That is the issue we are dealing with here, so what's your answer?? And what are you trying to imply? Are you saying we can't be equal? We can be single, equal and happy, whether you like it or not, with or without you ![]() A relationship or marriage, is run how the couple want to run it in the way that's best for them. learn to mind your business and not try to give people rules and regulations on how to run their relationships. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Nobody: 7:26pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
See advice na lol only an unintelligent person will listen to this nansense |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Ladytemi(f): 8:16pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Unless he is an egomaniac, i don't see anything wrong. The are married and it is now their place and not her place. Naija men need to stop letting their egos rule their lives. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by mimopel(f): 12:29am On Aug 25, 2017 |
In our Nigerian society it is socially wrong. But there is nothing bad abt it tho. Its just our social standard the man must have a house to build a home so.... I can't do it anyways....least we contribute and pay the rent |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 1:01am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Daeylar: 1. If we were minding our business, there would be no need for a public forum 2. What's my answer, madam can you read? 3. Disagreeing with you does not mean i don't understand the words you've used. I just don't understand what you think name calling would achieve. People expressed their opinion and you are calling them misogynists, who are you madam new-scholl-know-it-all. How many marriages have you had to make you classify people with valid opinions as misogynist? 4. If you want to be the "husband", its fine but there can be only one. 5. If you want to be another single feminist, eeya what a loss! Rubbish |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Kseafresh: 6:35pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:You're the type of men,women use to wipe their bums... |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:02pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Kseafresh: clear example of the men i am talking about.... ego/pride driven and highly deluded 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Nobody: 7:09pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
There's nothing wrong with it, unless the man is insecure. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Daeylar(f): 10:56pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
OkunrinMeta: Don't try to be cunning, don't try and twist my answers Don't take a part of my answer and try and twist into what you want This was you statement, where you tried to act like your one captain rule was the ultimate in running relationships Every ship must have a captain, 1 captain This was my response where I told you that a couple will do what's best for them A relationship or marriage, is run how the couple want to run it in the way that's best for them. learn to mind your business and not try to give people rules and regulations on how to run their relationships 2. What's my answer, madam can you read Once again This was your statement We are who we are. Men don't move into their wives apartment. Its been like that for thousands of years. You can just as easily convince a monkey not to eat banana. This was my question Why can't men move into their wife's apartment? That is the issue we are dealing with here, so what's your answer??So where was the question answered, it's ridiculous to ask someone if they can read when you seem incapable of doing the same yourself. I hope you won't try to say that your answer is because men are men ![]() 3.Disagreeing with you does not mean i don't understand the words you've used. I just don't understand what you think name calling would achieve. People expressed their opinion and you are calling them misogynists, who are you madam new-scholl-know-it-all.1) How did I act like a know it all? Your statement should be directed to the people you are trying to defend who insulted all women just because of the few experiences they had with a situation like the op's 2)if you express a misogynistic opinion. You will be called a misogynist 3) How many marriages have they had to try and demean all women the way they did? Once again, redirect your anger to them 4)You call statements such as "(A woman will forever be a woman. I'm not trying to demonise them, no no, far from it, but you don't leave a yam in care of a goat! Sooner or later, your ego will question all her actions and she will react with her "wonderfully" made mouth.) ( a woman she is and a woman she will always remain) valid opinions? No wonder you seem annoyed, it seems you think like them 4.If you want to be the "husband", its fine but there can be only one.I'm female, therefore I can never be a husband, what's your point, I didn't get it. 5.If you want to be another single feminist, eeya what a loss! RubbishI really don't understand how this statement is related to this thread and what I posted? 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Kseafresh: 2:35am On Aug 26, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:Shame on you man ![]() |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 11:48pm On Aug 26, 2017 |
Daeylar: Seen and ignored. No matter what I say, you will not change. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Daeylar(f): 11:58pm On Aug 26, 2017 |
OkunrinMeta: Just because I have shown you that the people you tried to defend were truly being misogynistic, and there is no avenue for you to try and twist my statements again, you now know that you can ignore. Now learn from this and try not to support such posts next time 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Juliearth(f): 4:36am On Aug 27, 2017 |
theemy: There is nothing wrong in that. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 1:49pm On Aug 27, 2017 |
Daeylar: Ignored again |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Daeylar(f): 2:06pm On Aug 27, 2017 |
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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by OkunrinMeta: 12:03am On Aug 28, 2017 |
Daeylar: Oooooooo ....yes ma. I have learnt something. You are very correct, husbands should live in their wives apartment and you are qualified to call anyone who says otherwise a misogynist especially me, this is especially so because no one usually points out how accurate you are and you can't fathom any reason why anyone would want to disagree with a humble young woman who has not been spoilt by weak men who capitulate to her will like its a sport. |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Daeylar(f): 9:24pm On Aug 31, 2017 |
OkunrinMeta: Lol, first of all I never knew that you had modified this post because in your meñtion before you modifed you had asked me not to meñtion you again and I decided to respect your wishes As for your modified post I don't even understand it this is the first ever answer I gave to this topic, you can find it on the front page op i do not think there is anything wrong with It. If they are OK with it then there is nothing to worry about.Where did I ever say all husbands should live in their wives apartment? show me? Didn't I say if they are OK with it they can go ahead? I explained to one of the guys whom i referred to as misogynistic why I made that comment. I also explained to you why I said so, so where did I call anyone who says otherwise misogynistic? Show me Where did I ever refer to you as misogynistic? Show me I can't even understand the rest of what you are saying and I don't see it's relevance, This is the second time you are trying to twist my words to use against me so please if you know that you can't respond without doing so don't bother 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by Nobody: 10:14pm On Aug 31, 2017 |
How about having two houses and some holiday flats? Who would not like it? ![]() |
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Move Into His Wifes Apartment by realtalk19: 2:55am On Sep 01, 2017 |
wat if shes handed over the payment of rent to her husband to take up with his name on the payment documents instead of hers. it could b temporary. just to put enof resources togeda to rent anoda apartment. agreement and commission paying in lagos no b beans o. at least that part is saved wat of a man marrying his wife in a family house where his siblings also stays and telling her to move in with him since he already has a flat to himself. is it also right? i wuld prefer d former if i av for privacy and avoiding in-law dramas. no one would know if i soaked garri or ate chiken wit my husband. |
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