How do you cope with the pain of losing someone you know very well to death?

Some people can't handle the pain so they start having mental problem...

Some even cry for DAYS, MONTHS they even reminisce after some years.

Some Blame themselves, God or even the environment...

But is losing someone really worth traumatizing oneself upon?

HAS FOR ME TO DIE IS AS NORMAL AS GIVEN BIRTH.

I could remember when I was 19, the day my uncle pass away I went to play football and my elder sister has to give me dirty slap at the back of my neck which frustrated me and make me to ask her a strange question that keep her mute for seconds, am like "am I the one that killed him?".
She walks away and told my mom about the question.

So let hear ur opinion...


Lalasticlala
Mods

it depends different ppl reacts differently to grieve

hmmm.

I feel " ile aye ile ason"

purem:
How do you cope with the pain of losing someone you know very well to death?

Some people can't handle the pain so they start having mental problem...

Some even cry for DAYS, MONTHS they even reminisce after some years.

Some Blame themselves, God or even the environment...

But is losing someone really worth traumatizing oneself upon?

HAS FOR ME TO DIE IS AS NORMAL AS GIVEN BIRTH.

I could remember when I was 19, the day my uncle pass away I went to play football and my elder sister has to give me dirty slap at the back of my neck which frustrated me and make me to ask her a strange question that keep her mute for seconds, am like "am I the one that killed him?".
She walks away and told my mom about the question.

So let hear ur opinion...

purem:
How do you cope with the pain of losing someone you know very well to death?

Some people can't handle the pain so they start having mental problem...

Some even cry for DAYS, MONTHS they even reminisce after some years.

Some Blame themselves, God or even the environment...

But is losing someone really worth traumatizing oneself upon?

HAS FOR ME TO DIE IS AS NORMAL AS GIVEN BIRTH.

I could remember when I was 19, the day my uncle pass away I went to play football and my elder sister has to give me dirty slap at the back of my neck which frustrated me and make me to ask her a strange question that keep her mute for seconds, am like "am I the one that killed him?".
She walks away and told my mom about the question.

So let hear ur opinion...


Lalasticlala
Mods

....pass away were?...my niggggga..... romance section strictly for chasssssin females!!!(no oofeense)

MrCork:




....pass away were?...my niggggga..... romance section strictly for chasssssin females!!!(no oofeense)

Ayaf died

Step 1- shock
Step 2- cry
Step 3- cry more
Step 4- forget.

purem:
How do you cope with the pain of losing someone you know very well to death?

Some people can't handle the pain so they start having mental problem...

Some even cry for DAYS, MONTHS they even reminisce after some years.

Some Blame themselves, God or even the environment...

But is losing someone really worth traumatizing oneself upon?

HAS FOR ME TO DIE IS AS NORMAL AS GIVEN BIRTH.

I could remember when I was 19, the day my uncle pass away I went to play football and my elder sister has to give me dirty slap at the back of my neck which frustrated me and make me to ask her a strange question that keep her mute for seconds, am like "am I the one that killed him?".
She walks away and told my mom about the question.

So let hear ur opinion...


Lalasticlala
Mods

It is simple ,always love the people around you ,show them you care and try as much as possible to let unsavory situations get settled and if by chance anything happens to anyone around you at least the beautiful memories created won't put so much grief on you.

Fadiga24:
Step 1- shock
Step 2- cry
Step 3- cry more
Step 4- forget.

Yes this is so true

I lost a dear and close friend weeks back and when someone called me to inform me I couldn't believe it, I started calling all my friends to ask, I went to facebook to inquire and when I found out it was true

The tears came, I cried so hard my head started hurting. for like a week, anytime I remember him I cry

then finally I forgot about it and now he's just a distant memory

Death is inevitable

I don't feel too down

"We are more surprise when something we expected comes to pass than when we stumble on the unexpected." (Eric Hoffer, Reflection on the Human Condition).

WE ARE ALL MORTALS!!! This is a hardcore TRUISM. It is totally sensless if anybody chooses to dispute about the above truism. And so TRUE it is that we dont even know when DEATH is going to conqure us. Yet dont we mosly live our lives SENSELESSLY in DELUSION as if we are programmed never ever to SHUT DOWN, meaning DIE?

Hence, if you have a loved one, SINCERELY SHOW THEM YOUR LOVE while you are both alive every second counts. There is no guarantee of next breath. It is to live in SELF DECEPTION when a loved one dies and you start hurting yourself because you are also going to die? Hence, what so ever emotions only counts when there is LIFE.LOVE as much as possible so that when your loved one dies you have no regrets or feel pained. If not why will you feel pained if you loved in FULL and understand that you are also going to die.

DEATH IS A NO! NO! TOPIC TO MANY.

"Nature has no compassion. It is, in the words of William Blake, 'a creation (by the creator) that groans, living on death, where fish and beast and tree and metal and stone live by devouring'. Nature accepts no excuses and only punishment it knows is death". (Eric Hoffer, Reflection on the Human Condition)

Its a mental excercise by Muslims to say "WE BELONG TO GOD AND HIM WE SHALL ALL RETURN..". Quran 2:156 when a loved one dies. "he must always keep in mind the fact that death may take him tomorrow (infact today at any time). He has no firm roots here in this fragile Earth. His roots are above in That which alone endures". (Gai Eaton, Islam and the Destiny of Man) . Its natural to shed tears, which by doing so actually heals the heart of loss but to RUIN your own life as a result of a loved one who has died, is to have lived a life of LIES or FORGETFULNESS that we are all mortals.

"We have perhaps a natural fear of ends. We would rather be always on the way than arrive. Given the means, we hang on to them and often forget the ends". (Eric Hoffer, Reflection on the Human Condition)

And Op, its TRUE it wasnt you who killed your uncle as was your response to your sister perhaps because you were just 19 years then. Yet such an attitude of lack empathy when people die so common these days is really a reason why the world is so full of the LIVING DEAD. People who cant LOVE!!! Hence, we dont care about the lives of others even while they are alive,people are so DEAD inside.

I cry so much.
Sometimes I see them in my dream. Its so sad.

I recently lost a secondary school classmate.
I can't stop crying. It really hurts ..!!

MrCork:

U mean u quote all the text just 4 dis

U deserve to be flog

ElizaVeta:
I recently lost a secondary school classmate.

I can't stop crying. It really hurts ..!!

Heyya!!! Kpele.

Buh come to think of it., it is mandatory for someone to die na. So we shouldn't be surprise or feel terrible for it

Fadiga24:
Step 1- shock
Step 2- cry
Step 3- cry more
Step 4- forget.

My dear u can never forget, u only choose not to cry again

mmachi96:
My dear u can never forget, u only choose not to cry again

All human beings are not the same, some do forget.

purem:


Heyya!!! Kpele.

Buh come to think of it., it is mandatory for someone to die na. So we shouldn't be surprise or feel terrible for it

What do you mean?

It was too early!!

Just 20 yrs?

WHY WON'T I CRYYYYYYYY....!