We got married in 2015 and our union is blessed with beautiful boy.
The mistake I made was to relocate to our state capital. Reason was that as an environmental consultant,
most of my clients are in the hinterlands.

Another of my undoing was that I rented a two bedroom apartment; One a master's bedroom and the other normal one.
Just few weeks after our relocation, my brother in-law (Wify's elder brother) left his place of primary assignment in another state to pay us a visit and to see the girl he was dating at that time.

Just a week later, he pleaded with me to let his girlfriend stay in the house for few days pending when he was
able to sort her accommodation out. Days graduated into weeks and then months, when I queried, he had to move her elsewhere.

Things got worst when I traveled for two weeks. By the time, I returned, he had moved some of his clothes in my wardrobe with excuse that he
couldn't find a place to hang his clothes. I asked my wife to tell him to remove them which she promised to do.

Things got worst when he started bringing random girls to my house anytime we are away at work.

Despite the fact that he get his NYSC allowance regularly, he uses my son's soap, my perfume and body spray whenever he wants to go out.

He has in slow succession moved into my house.

Now my wife's two siblings have been disturbing us that they want to come and spend their summer holiday with us (Another set of loads)

Now I spend almost 45,000 NGN on food items within 6-7 weeks.

Question is, how can ask this guy to leave my house in a polite way?

I am tired.

okirewaju:
He's family Sir

Wifey will get angry if you do that

eezeribe:
45,000 naira on food items in 6-7weeks... Things must really be cheap in your area.
And to your post,you are the head of your home... Stand up and make decisions.
I don't like the fact that your wife's brother brings random girls to your house...it's wrong.
For your wife's other siblings who want to come over for holiday... I don't see anything wrong in it (it's one of the aspects of African marriages),although the size of your pocket determines how welcomed they would be.

lalasticlala,Mynd44

sinaj:
Family? That's not fair abeg.

It's nt as if he is in his teen. He evn brings girls to the man's home, no privacy or respect again.

The man should just take his wife to a calm place nd talk to her.

okirewaju:
I agree with you that he's wrong in that area but how do one tell his brother in law to leave his house?


Really?


The wife can sit him down and correct him in the areas he's not acting right but asking him to leave?

sinaj:
Will ask him to leave if he doesn't correct himself after he might have being cautioned.

It's little issues like this that breaks people home.

babythug:
I've since learnt that there's no point displeasing yourself to make others comfortable especially in situations like this.

Just ask him to move out by next week. Don't mince words and don't explain!

Your wife may vex or be grateful to you for easing her of this pressure. Either way brace up for the backlash that will follow and remember that with time it'll die down.

The people who want to come for holiday can come, after two week you provide their transport fare and ask your Mrs to take them to the park!

Shikena

elektra:
You wife is the best person to handle this situation. Siblings are able to scold each other and still be in good standing. She should have talked to her brother by now. Put pressure on her to tel him to move out. If she doesn't then you have no option but to do it yourself!
Does your wife work? Is she contributing financially to your family?

johnson232:

It's not that easy...

Frenchfriez:

His wife may actually be silently hoping that he should man up and do the needful.

Acidosis:
45k on food for 6-7 weeks? Are you sure everyone is feeding well?

elektra:
You wife is the best person to handle this situation. Siblings are able to scold each other and still be in good standing. She should have talked to her brother by now. Put pressure on her to tel him to move out. If she doesn't then you have no option but to do it yourself!
Does your wife work? Is she contributing financially to your family?