If love is not enough, then merely being a "good woman" will also not do.

Men tend to leave women because of certain reasons and like it or not, some relationships wont work despite the effort many women tell themselves they put in.

Below are five reasons men keep dumping some "good women" who love them.


1. The women aren't teachable: This comes in the context of not being adaptable to each other. Many women out there have the right job, right skills in bed, right body, but their inability compromise for their man makes him seek comfort elsewhere. In relationships, more than being right about something, it is better to be kind.

More than feeling love, showing love the right way is important.


Many good women out there have been left heartbroken because they did not show the kind of love their man needed at the time, and were too caught up in their own idea of what a man wants that they lost him because they did not bend.

The cure: Better communication and fluidity in decision making.

2. Insecurity: Many men out there cannot handle the idea of their woman being super beautiful, soft spoken and almost perfect. This is because they either become insecure because of the attention she is getting from other men or give in to their own low self esteem. Many men also cannot handle their own jealousy and feel their woman is a suspect of cheating when another male even breathes in their direction.

The cure: For women, always do everything in your power to reassure your man that he is the only one for you and no one else holds your heart or gives you the love he does. For men, learn to deal with your own insecurities and handle your jealousy mature because suspecting her wont stop her from cheating if she really wants to.

3. Family pressure: This is the African society and we cannot ignore the influence many families hold over their sons. Family pressure has been known to make many men leave their women even if they love her. Also, when a woman's family makes it hard for the man to connect with them and treats him less than they should, this makes many men leave.

The cure: Ingrain the idea that no one but you should decide for you who you should love. In the end you are the one who will deal with the consequences not them.

4. Biological/physical/sexual incompatibility: Many times, relationships do not work out because of incompatible genotypes. If a man is As and his lover is AS, this usually leads to the end of the relationship as they likely will have kids with SS.

Physical attraction cannot be ruled out in a relationship. A man who naturally loves slim curvy women, no matter how good to him a chubby lady is he will get tempted by slim curvy women throwing themselves at him.

Sexual incompatibility makes men leave good women when the needs of the man is not met. Men like sex and honestly, they will not find a relationship where they aren't getting enough of the kinda of sexy they want, really exciting.

The cure: Before you fall in love, get the genotype details, find out their sexual preference and work towards becoming the woman he is physically attracted to as well as emotionally.

Full episode of Guytalk Podcast below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gV7Wtknp4RU&feature=youtu.be

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Bad women get dumbed more.though some few good one may get dumbed because the guy is dumb or believes he has seen a better "good woman"

But most times it could be because of height, age,size,shape or even her family members attitude.

Sometimes its true sometimes it's becomes a regrettable error

...Maybe the woman isn't good after all. I have noticed we have a flawed definition of 'good girl' and 'bad boys' in Nigeria.

...Maybe the man doesn't like a good woman. Some men intentionally marry refurbished oloshos.

...Maybe the man is confused. Some don't know what they want. They cheat on the good with the bad.

...Just being good isn't good enough sometimes.

chivic:
Bad women get dumbed more.though some few good one may get dumbed because the guy is dumb or believes he has seen a better "good woman"

But most times it could be because of height, age,size,shape or even her family members attitude.

Sometimes its true sometimes it's becomes a regrettable error

the bolded is so on point.

nyc1 OP.. but i hav an issue with the insecurity, if a man dont act jealous and keep on tab, i bet you niggas will do your tin for you, women does not deserve breathing space atall, anything can happen, anytime can be 12 O' Clock oh.. guys have to act jealous always and keep on tab to avoid stories dat touch the hrt..

saying out of experiece..

iamJ:

men are not confused jor

They are cheaters looking for plenty excuses to sleep around, when i used to sleep around, i knew what i really wanted but the praise that am a bad boy was so sweet i kept looking for things i didn't want just to show off, If i have slept with 100 women 92 was for show, all men know what they like in a woman, we just pretend to not know so we can use it to explain why we cheat, me for instance , I love a stubborn, rude, arrogant, mouthed, very confident beautiful girl, that is my bread and butter , we knw what we want trust me we just like lying about it.

Yea, confused is just a general way of putting that state of indecisiveness. No one is actually confused...like confused, there might be a percentage of people that are actually confused.
...but the vast majority know what they want, though they act otherwise for reasons best known to them.

eljayson:

1. The women aren't teachable: This comes in the context of not being adaptable to each other. Many women out there have the right job, right skills in bed, right body, but their inability compromise for their man makes him seek comfort elsewhere. In relationships, more than being right about something, it is better to be kind.

More than feeling love, showing love the right way is important.


Many good women out there have been left heartbroken because they did not show the kind of love their man needed at the time, and were too caught up in their own idea of what a man wants that they lost him because they did not bend.

The cure: Better communication and fluidity in decision making.

Can you expatiate on this one please

Ok, now many women have been raised with a one size fits all of what a man expects of a good woman. This becomes a problem when they meet a man who wants a variation of what they have been taught. Example. A woman is taught that dressing decent will make her man happy. She meets and falls in love with a man who loves his wife wearing bumshort and lingerie in the house. He tells her but because of what she has spent time learning, she finds it hard to cmpromise. Or a woman who has been taught watching porn is bad. She meets a man who loves watching porn and practising different positions with his wife. But because of what she has been taught and how unteachable she is, she cant adapt to her man's needs. This lack of flexibility cam make some men not want the whole package because like it or not, we all have our deal breakers.

Why not play the video, it better explains every point mentioned.

ibkayee:

Can you expatiate on this one please

pocohantas:
...Maybe the woman isn't good after all. I have noticed we have a flawed definition of 'good girl' and 'bad boys' in Nigeria.

...Maybe the man doesn't like a good woman. Some men intentionally marry refurbished oloshos.

...Maybe the man is confused. Some don't know what they want. They cheat on the good with the bad.

...Just being good isn't good enough sometimes.

what are the accurate definitions for good women and bad boys
Please I like to learn