So church wedding is now more import and than the one Christ in himself attended. If your parents come together and bless you, whether the churchl likes it or not you are married.
It's saddening that our parents have been deceived by churches to wait until the church says yes before they can accept that their child is married.
I know a church that even after the traditional marriage, the wife and the husband can't meet except under the arrangement of the church until they are wedded in the church.

zionmde:
As a Christian its not ideal to be joined outside church the pronouncement of the prophet is paramount to joining the husband and wife together
1 corr 6:1-7 gives an explanation about the Bible view on court

Please, don't misquote the Bible. The verses quoted has to do with believers settling dispute or matters in the court when it can be done amongst believers as it only brings ridicules to the name of God. E.g power tussle in the church and other spiritual issues which should have been handled by the church.

@OP, marriage started with the instruction that "for this reason shall a man leave his father's house and BE JOINED to his wife". "BE JOINED" means there must be someone in between to agree that these two can be one.

Now, this means if both parents agree (Traditional) to the union, it is fine. If it is by the laws of the land (Registry), it is fine and if this is done by church, it is also okay. The key is that someone must do the joining.

MaziOmenuko:


Oga, the day you pay the dowry, u entertain the people that escorted you to pay dowry and the in-laws that recieved you. That is the traditional marriage rites. If you so chose to now make it elaborate, that is your choice. If you also want to use extra days for more celebration, its your choice and not mandatory.

The day I paid dowry was the day I got married, no extra day was fixed for an elaborate occassion. Stop misrepresenting the Igbo culture.

Now if i tell u the time frame between my brother's dowry payment and trad wedding was two weeks would u say its a lie? are all Igbo culture the same everywhere?

Cyynthia:
You must Wed in the church, any marriage that is not ordained by God through a priest is not recognized by God.

you need to go back to your bible sister. God will not be happy swing that his children have been led astray. God can bless your marriage whether you did it in church or court provided your parents approve of it and bless you. Any other thing is just to make our church memebere and pastors happy

PrecisionFx:



I am igbo from Ngwo in enugu state. The day a woman is married n allowed to go home with his husband is the day the man does ime ego (paying of bride price). That traditional thing we call ''igba nkwu'' is wedding party..... It's no marriage.


Pls show me in the Bible where anyone did church wedding..

now ime ego is not translated traditional marriage is it? is it not Igba Nkwu that is traditional marriage. Am not here to argue all those church wedding stuff, i maintain my stance, God,'s seal of marriage is payment of bride price, prophetic blessing of the marriage is very necessary, Court marriage is not acceptable.

arsenic33:
So many intending marriages have been frustrated by marriage committee in some churches. Some churches will even tell one to attend marriage classes for 6 months but after wedding the marriage still crashes. Some churches will even tell intending couples to summarise the Bible from Genesis to Revelation.

Please, as a Christian by faith, is court wedding acceptable by God? Is it a must a Christian be joined by a church Pastor in the church?

This White wedding is not compulsory o... I can't do TM and do either white or court.
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zionmde:

Now if i tell u the time frame between my brother's dowry payment and trad wedding was two weeks would u say its a lie? are all Igbo culture the same everywhere?

That's why I said it's a choice. But you made it look like it was the norm in all igboland. Some people pay dowry and use the traditional marriage as the reception for their church wedding. It's all by choice and not cast in stone.

arsenic33:
So many intending marriages have been frustrated by marriage committee in some churches. Some churches will even tell one to attend marriage classes for 6 months but after wedding the marriage still crashes. Some churches will even tell intending couples to summarise the Bible from Genesis to Revelation.

Please, as a Christian by faith, is court wedding acceptable by God? Is it a must a Christian be joined by a church Pastor in the church?

Yes it's. The important aspect of wedding is the bride price. International Standard Version of Genesis 34:12
No matter how big or how extensive your demands are for a dowry and wedding presents from me, I'll provide whatever you ask. Only give me the young lady to be my wife."
So church wedding or whatever wedding you call it isn't scriptural. Take note in whatever wedding you part take and you're pronounced married, it's sealed for life

zionmde:

In some instances u re correct but for some cultures u pay the bride price then fix a date for the traditional wedding. Paying the bride price is the ultimate seal.

which culture please?

itsloba:
That bible verse no where speaks against Court wedding.

wat does 1 corr 6:6 say?

NoToPile:


Yes

A lot of churches will make you feel other wise, thats their way.

Once you settle the parents traditionally you are married in the eyes of God simple, the court is for you to have a legal cert of sort. its for legal purposes and you say practically the same vows they say at the church (at least in ikoyi reg) joined with either bible or ring. So the church brouhaha is a repetition and more of a feferity.

If you now feel you need pastoral blessings after your wedding go to his office and he will pray for you that's all.


God recognizes court marriage don't let them deceive you.

Absolutely correct

MaziOmenuko:


That's why I said it's a choice. But you made it look like it was the norm in all igboland. Some people pay dowry and use the traditional marriage as the reception for their church wedding. It's all by choice and not cast in stone.

Define the terms 1. Ibu mmanyi, 2. igba nkwu and also translate it in english

NoToPile:


Its not ideal or its not bibilcal ?

We are talking about in the eyes of God, what does the bible say marriage is not what we say marriage is?

Biblically can a christain who got wedded at the registry or only traditionally marry another wife? The answer is no.

1cor 6.17 says "he that is joined unto the lord is one spirit" kindly explain how that relates to court marriage except you are trying to say God does not sanction those joined traditionally or even in registry.


To fulfill all righteousness you can do the three.I accept but saying God doesn't recognize one I won't agree.

God recognized the traditional wedding only based on the Bible

zionmde:

In Igbo we call traditional marriage Igba Nkwu, while we call the pride price payment Ibu Mmanya. So they are different. urs might not be the same though

I'm igbo too and if you like carry all the mmaya to the wife's family, but if you don't pay bride prize you have done nothing.
The payment of bride prize is the main thing Other things are just what people have attached to it and it's also determined by choice.

zionmde:

Traditional marriage is not valid in the eyes of God. Is it an occasion they pour libations for their ancestors? There is a difference between paying the bride price and traditional wedding, When the former is done, in the sight of God u become husband and wife. Now all other things that follow can as well be left out. That is why i used the word "ideal" in my first comment.
Now a prophet is a mouthpiece of God, and the bible says how shall they believe if they dont hear, so the pronouncement of a prophet is intended to voice out the seal of that marriage but spiritually the marriage is sealed once the bride price has been paid.
Now in court marriage u take an oath which has legal consequences if the oath is broken that is why people prefer to wed there, the same court can dissolve ur marriage and the two processes is biblically wrong. First bible says "let ur yes be yes and nay be nay" second the bible says "what God has joined together no man should put assunder"

Which wedding should the church adopt based on the Bible?

For the umpteenth time, there's nothing like church marriage in the Bible. The famous wedding Jesus attended was a traditional wedding likewise other prophets before him.
Court, traditional or sky wedding is valid in the sight of God

asuustrike2009:

Which wedding should the church adopt based on the Bible?

pay the bride price (that is the seal of marriage for God) then go to a prophet and obtain a prophetic blessing for ur union(that is wat most people call church wedding )

Left to me, hubby pay the bride price, we proceed to get joined in court and we come back to our pastor for blessings...that same day.

The three has been fulfilled, Parents, the Law, the church. Period

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I'm igbo too and if you like carry all the mmaya to the wife's family, but if you don't pay bride prize you have done nothing.
The payment of bride prize is the main thing Other things are just what people have attached to it and it's also determined by choice.

Now go back and find out why u are arguing my opinion because i said the seal is payment of bride price so wat exactly is ur argument?

People really need to know the word of God and not just go about with their heads filled with what their church says. Many Christians are losing their souls to their churches. Remember, God won't judge you based on your church but on his words that he has given to you freely and which you have decided to ignore.
From the comments here, the can see that some people prefer going to church that knowing the word of God.

zionmde:

Define the terms 1. Ibu mmanyi, 2. igba nkwu and also translate it in english

Both are traditional marriage rites in Igbo land. They don't have an English translation as they are not originally English words. You can likewise give it any lose English translation you deem fit.

Igweann979:
No body is in a good position to answer this question because God's way is totally different from that of man.

God act according to his word. Now if you against court wedding because it supports divorce I would understand which isn't God will

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I'm igbo too and if you like carry all the mmaya to the wife's family, but if you don't pay bride prize you have done nothing.
The payment of bride prize is the main thing Other things are just what people have attached to it and it's also determined by choice.

Thank you.

NoToPile:


Yes

A lot of churches will make you feel other wise, thats their way.

Once you settle the parents traditionally you are married in the eyes of God simple, the court is for you to have a legal cert of sort. its for legal purposes and you say practically the same vows they say at the church (at least in ikoyi reg) joined with either bible or ring. So the church brouhaha is a repetition and more of a feferity.

If you now feel you need pastoral blessings after your wedding go to his office and he will pray for you that's all.


God recognizes court marriage don't let them deceive you.

In Christianity, you need to back up claims with Bible quotations .Show where God recognises court wedding pls.

zionmde:

pay the bride price (that is the seal of marriage for God) then go to a prophet and obtain a prophetic blessing for ur union(that is wat most people call church wedding )

Prophetic blessing based on which scripture?

zionmde:

Now go back and find out why u are arguing my opinion because i said the seal is payment of bride price so wat exactly is ur argument?

MaziOmenuko:


Both are traditional marriage rites in Igbo land. They don't have an English translation as they are not originally English words. You can likewise give it any lose English translation you deem fit.

Yes both are traditional rites but Igba nkwu is not necessary, it is not recognized by God. Ibu mmanya is occassion for bride price payment which is the only thing God recognizes.a They are two different things and can be done in one day or separate day. So wat is ur point of argument with me

Lol. Have see this kind post on nairaland about 6-7 time, if i may ask why are you people against church Marriage? Maybe because they are against your fornication act by not joining anyone that is pregnant out of wedlock.
And for the op, you claim after 6 months lecture there marriage is crash. Can you peace give me the statistics of failed marriage under court marriage to that of church marriage. peace

MhizzAJ:
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asuustrike2009:

Prophetic blessing based on which scripture?

say wat u want to say and stop asking me those baseless questions. If u marry u can as well skip the prophetic blessings, just pay the bride price and carry her home

zionmde:

say wat u want to say and stop asking me those baseless questions. If u marry u can as well skip the prophetic blessings, just pay the bride price and carry her home

I asked a simple question what's the scriptural backing for that? Isn't because of it some churches are stressing intending couples?

zionmde:
Bible is against going to court with a brethren. i quoted 1 corr 6:1-7

on marriage grounds?