zionmde:

Traditional marriage is not valid in the eyes of God. Is it an occasion they pour libations for their ancestors? There is a difference between paying the bride price and traditional wedding, When the former is done, in the sight of God u become husband and wife. Now all other things that follow can as well be left out. That is why i used the word "ideal" in my first comment.
Now a prophet is a mouthpiece of God, and the bible says how shall they believe if they dont hear, so the pronouncement of a prophet is intended to voice out the seal of that marriage but spiritually the marriage is sealed once the bride price has been paid.
Now in court marriage u take an oath which has legal consequences if the oath is broken that is why people prefer to wed there, the same court can dissolve ur marriage and the two processes is biblically wrong. First bible says "let ur yes be yes and nay be nay" second the bible says "what God has joined together no man should put assunder"

how did Abraham & Sarah marry?was it according 2d bible?wasn't it according 2d traditions of his time which wasn't godly. So are u saying God didn't recognise Abraham's wedding to Sarah?. who was d prophet that married Isaac and Rebecca, Jacob and Rachel/Leah?are church marriages divorce proof?are there no examples of church marriages that crashed?d first, d oldest and d most important marriage is d traditional marriage. It is called traditional cos it is d way we Africans exchange marital vows.every society on d world has its own traditional mode of marriage. D so called white wedding is d traditional wedding of d west. Even b4 u marry in church, ur church will ask u 2 get d consent of ur families. that is what is demonstrated in traditional wedding.I am yet 2c any couple in Nigeria marry in church b4 they do traditional wedding telling u its significance. were u marry isn't d issue. Its how u live after d wedding

asuustrike2009:

I asked a simple question what's the scriptural backing for that? Isn't because of it some churches are stressing intending couples?

Its no a must u will marry in church but if u re asking ;;;me if prophetic blessing is scripturally necessary for ur union the i wont want to answer u

which church Adam and eve do their wedding?

lexy2014:
how did Abraham & Sarah marry?was it according 2d bible?wasn't it according 2d traditions of his time which wasn't godly. So are u saying God didn't recognise Abraham's wedding to Sarah?. who was d prophet that married Isaac and Rebecca, Jacob and Rachel/Leah?are church marriages divorce proof?are there no examples of church marriages that crashed?d first, d oldest and d most important marriage is d traditional marriage. It is called traditional cos it is d way we Africans exchange marital vows.every society on d world has its own traditional mode of marriage. D so called white wedding is d traditional wedding of d west. Even b4 u marry in church, ur church will ask u 2 get d consent of ur families. that is what is demonstrated in traditional wedding.I am yet 2c any couple in Nigeria marry in church b4 they do traditional wedding telling u its significance. were u marry isn't d issue. Its how u live after d wedding

good write up. Now read the comment u quoted very well and tell me u didn't see the place that i said payment of bride price is God's seal for marriage and that u can as well skip church wedding but its necessary u obtain a prophetic pronouncement on the wedding

petitejolie:

on marriage grounds?

YES. because the same person Paul referred to in 6:6 as an unbeliever is the same person that will administer the marriage oaths and make the pronouncement

Cyynthia:
You must Wed in the church, any marriage that is not ordained by God through a priest is not recognized by God.

That is a big lie. "Church wedding" is a sham, and in most cases, a bold-faced lie, which is a sin against God.

why is it a lie? because there is no place in the Bible or history where it is an instruction from God, whether directly or indirectly, that a wedding should be officiated in the temple and by a priest. No! it is between families of the 2 people involved. So if your pastor tells you that church wedding is what you must do, it is probably because he want crowd in the church or he want more offering not because it is an instruction from God. Some even go as far as conducting it without the consent of the parents which is against God's law that backed traditional marriage customs (which makes it a disobedience to God's ordinance.

It is MOSTLY a lie and thus a sin because most church marriages are conducted with the IMPRESSION that the bride and the groom are "untouched", thus the wearing of white wedding gown, which we all know, in most cases, is a bold-faced lie. What makes it worse is that the lie is told in God's presence (the Church) and backed by a man of God. They even go as far as punishing a couple with a pregnant bride-to-be (but is ready to do the right thing by going ahead to marry each other) by not conducting their wedding and would rather join another couple with no pregnant bride but whose hands and white is not just stained, but drenched with the blood of aborted pregnancies just to do the "prestigious church wedding".

I am not against conducting wedding in the church, white to me is more of a Thanksgiving Service for a newly wedded couple in my opinion. Traditional Wedding is the one recognised by God according to the bible and according to biblical history. Every other after it is just an INSIGNIFICANT elaborate PARTY. Nothing more.

the recognized one is the traditional marriage, any other is a colonial mentality

zionmde:

now ime ego is not translated traditional marriage is it? is it not Igba Nkwu that is traditional marriage. Am not here to argue all those church wedding stuff, i maintain my stance, God,'s seal of marriage is payment of bride price, prophetic blessing of the marriage is very necessary, Court marriage is not acceptable.

U didn't get my point.



""prophetic blessing""

Please show me in the Bible where anyone finished traditional marriage n den goes to church to get a prophetic blessing.

its by your faith. church wedding is not even in the bible suggestion

Which kain left to you, what you have described is how every Christian should marry. Not just you.

This format would have enabled millions of couples living in "sin" to quickly marry.

But unfortunately, parents and society place so many extra demands to this simple format that deny many couples a wedding because they are looking for money to do things like travel "home"for dowry payment, rent an decorate an expensive hall in the city, and entertain hundreds of people at the reception.

Why can't the brides parents who come from Kwara but have lived in Lagos for 37 yrs allow the young man (who lives in Lagos just like their daughter)to come before them in their home in Ilupeju and pay bride price? Instead the young man is told to carry his parents from the village and friends from Lagos to Kwara to go and pay bride price in the girls village. If elders must witness the dowry payment, they should be invited to Lagos to save costs.

This and many others make marriage such a huge financial burden. I have nothing against it if the intending couple can afford it, but where they can't it leads to all sorts of unfortunate outcomes.

Fraih:
Left to me, hubby pay the bride price, we proceed to get joined in court and we come back to our pastor for blessings...that same day.

The three has been fulfilled, Parents, the Law, the church. Period

and these guys say they talk to God through prayers OP why don't you just ask God directly?

Christian: Raba-lobo-shanta-skebe-rebebobo
Me: Bros, what are you doing ... What is it you are saying?
Christian: I'm speaking to my heavingly father in the language of angels that even the devil cannot understand
Me: OK

After some time, creates topic on NL asking people what is acceptable to God about marriage

If you still cannot get the point, don't bother

luluman:
In Christianity, you need to back up claims with Bible quotations .Show where God recognises court wedding pls.

Are you saying if a christain marries in the registry the marriage is not valid in the eyes of God and he can as well marry another person ?

arsenic33:

Thanks. But we have so many fake pastors around. Pls the mods should do justice. I need more contributions pls

When people attend churches, implicit in the assumption is that God is present in that church and the Pastor is a representative of God. Faith is the key word here. Faking of pastor doesn't invalidate the auction of the Pastor. God sees the hearts of the intending couple and rewards them accordingly.

In Nigeria, there are three types of legal marriage namely, Traditional Wedding, White Wedding, and Court Wedding, the three weddings are acceptable and legal in Nigeria.
The issue is whichever one you choose has its advantage and disadvantage.
If you do traditional or church, it's legal before God, the villages, the two families and everyone in Nigeria. But in law it's not recognized and it's not legal because you do not have the marriage certificate from the court, and you can't do some business as Couples, (e.g) getting visa. So the best way is : place the 2days notice in court, pay the bride price and settle all the settlements, but there should be no joining of the couples during bride price paying. after the 21 days collect the unfilled form, take it to accredited issuance church, during the church wedding the pastor or the officiating minister will fill and sign it, issued to you. Or the authorised person in court can fill nd sign but should not hand them over as couples if they want church wedding. If not you'll end up doing double wedding.

The mistake many people do is doing all the 3 Weddings which shouldn't be so.

It's has long and widened explanations. Let me leave it at that.

Do not do double wedding all iin the name of traditional and white. Choose one.

zionmde:

good write up. Now read the comment u quoted very well and tell me u didn't see the place that i said payment of bride price is God's seal for marriage and that u can as well skip church wedding but its necessary u obtain a prophetic pronouncement on the wedding

I wasn't disputing ur position on bride price. This is what made enter d discussion

"Traditional marriage is not valid in the eyes of God" and d prophet issue.

That's y I asked about Abraham/Sarah who married under "ungodly" traditions but god still recognized their marriage. U don't a need a prophetic pronouncement 4 ur wedding. If it was a biblical requirement, then Jacob/Rachel, David/Rebecca didn't wed properly. Prophetic pronouncement doesn't guarantee success in marriage. If that was d case Chris oyakhilome will still b married 2 Anita.

NoToPile:


Yes

A lot of churches will make you feel other wise, thats their way.

Once you settle the parents traditionally you are married in the eyes of God simple, the court is for you to have a legal cert of sort. its for legal purposes and you say practically the same vows they say at the church (at least in ikoyi reg) joined with either bible or ring. So the church brouhaha is a repetition and more of a feferity.

If you now feel you need pastoral blessings after your wedding go to his office and he will pray for you that's all.


God recognizes court marriage don't let them deceive you.

Op, this is the answer to your question. Any other thing is a scam.

zionmde:
Bible is against going to court with a brethren. i quoted 1 corr 6:1-7

dumb xtian standing the bible on its head.

zionmde:

Traditional marriage is not valid in the eyes of God. Is it an occasion they pour libations for their ancestors? There is a difference between paying the bride price and traditional wedding, When the former is done, in the sight of God u become husband and wife. Now all other things that follow can as well be left out. That is why i used the word "ideal" in my first comment.
Now a prophet is a mouthpiece of God, and the bible says how shall they believe if they dont hear, so the pronouncement of a prophet is intended to voice out the seal of that marriage but spiritually the marriage is sealed once the bride price has been paid.
Now in court marriage u take an oath which has legal consequences if the oath is broken that is why people prefer to wed there, the same court can dissolve ur marriage and the two processes is biblically wrong. First bible says "let ur yes be yes and nay be nay" second the bible says "what God has joined together no man should put assunder"

This post is 50shades of silly.

You don't have to do a church wedding if u don't want to or circumstances don't permit.but whether it is acceptable by God to do court wedding? Yes it is.what matters in Gods eyes is that there is an official joining btw man and woman witnessed by the authorities representing both individuals and a legal document signed ,that is the proof or documentation backing d wedding. But most importantly God doesn't want u to divorce. Malachi 2:15-16.and God hates Adultery. Now that being said u got to understand marriage is a spiritual covenant and an institution of God ,and naturally SATAN will fight it.thats y u need to be prepared mentally and spiritually. U need to get counselling and be strong spiritually.if u weren't born again b4 marriage ,after marriage commit ur lives to God thru Jesus then walk in Righteousness,get a good Bible believing church and always pray for ur marriage.because SATAN will definitely. FIGHT to destroy ur home.

Most marriages in d Bible are traditional marriages...

Issac and Rebecca is a perfect example...

Traditional marriage is d biblically accepted marriage... The Church wedding we see today is just a blessing of marriage already celebrated at the traditional level.

Court or Registry marriage is accepted to me... But that must be after the traditional marriage because that is the prima.

You can chose to bring a priest who can bless ur marriage and it must not be in a church

arsenic33:
So many intending marriages have been frustrated by marriage committee in some churches. Some churches will even tell one to attend marriage classes for 6 months but after wedding the marriage still crashes. Some churches will even tell intending couples to summarise the Bible from Genesis to Revelation.

Please, as a Christian by faith, is court wedding acceptable by God? Is it a must a Christian be joined by a church Pastor in the church?

.My dear don't be deceived by most of the comments you have here. Once you pay your bride price, you are officially married and fully recognized by God. you can as well do only traditional marriage which is more important and recognized by God than the white and Court marriage. The summary of the matter is that after bride price, every other thing is just a Ceremony. And God is not interested. You may now go ahead with your court wedding

zionmde:
As a Christian its not ideal to be joined outside church the pronouncement of the prophet is paramount to joining the husband and wife together
1 corr 6:1-7 gives an explanation about the Bible view on court

I guess u still have to go and read your bible properly before making such comment, traditional marriage is paramount and that's what makes husband and wife.

zionmde:

now ime ego is not translated traditional marriage is it? is it not Igba Nkwu that is traditional marriage. Am not here to argue all those church wedding stuff, i maintain my stance, God,'s seal of marriage is payment of bride price, prophetic blessing of the marriage is very necessary, Court marriage is not acceptable.

ar u then saying if a muslim couple converts to christainity dt dy shld repeat their marriage bcs dy wer married undr islamic doctrines?

[quote author=Cyynthia post=60310889]You must Wed in the church, any marriage that is not ordained by God through a priest is not recognized by God.[biblical refrence please?!]

VULCAN:
Which kain left to you, what you have described is how every Christian should marry. Not just you.

This format would have enabled millions of couples living in "sin" to quickly marry.

But unfortunately, parents and society place so many extra demands to this simple format that deny many couples a wedding because they are looking for money to do things like travel "home"for dowry payment, rent an decorate an expensive hall in the city, and entertain hundreds of people at the reception.

Why can't the brides parents who come from Kwara but have lived in Lagos for 37 yrs allow the young man (who lives in Lagos just like their daughter)to come before them in their home in Ilupeju and pay bride price? Instead the young man is told to carry his parents from the village and friends from Lagos to Kwara to go and pay bride price in the girls village. If elders must witness the dowry payment, they should be invited to Lagos to save costs.

This and many others make marriage such a huge financial burden. I have nothing against it if the intending couple can afford it, but where they can't it leads to all sorts of unfortunate outcomes.

TBVH!!!

zionmde:
As a Christian its not ideal to be joined outside church the pronouncement of the prophet is paramount to joining the husband and wife together
1 corr 6:1-7 gives an explanation about the Bible view on court

left for me, the elders blessings are enough for me cos I know that they will pray in Jesus name.

Was there any wedding conducted in the church in the Bible? You have your answer.

Ashibelieve:
Well, if you are doing church you will be confused but if you are following God you won't.

The marriage Jesus attended was it church wedding, traditional wedding or court wedding? Oga is there anything like christian wedding in the bible? If yes show me the verse if know marriage is an agreement as far as it is done in line with coming together for the purpose of fulfilling destiny, your papa fit join una together nothing spoil

Your first statement really summarizes d type of ''christians'' we have these days. They don't know d difference between serving God and serving church.

zionmde:

Traditional marriage is not valid in the eyes of God. Is it an occasion they pour libations for their ancestors? There is a difference between paying the bride price and traditional wedding, When the former is done, in the sight of God u become husband and wife. Now all other things that follow can as well be left out. That is why i used the word "ideal" in my first comment.
Now a prophet is a mouthpiece of God, and the bible says how shall they believe if they dont hear, so the pronouncement of a prophet is intended to voice out the seal of that marriage but spiritually the marriage is sealed once the bride price has been paid.
Now in court marriage u take an oath which has legal consequences if the oath is broken that is why people prefer to wed there, the same court can dissolve ur marriage and the two processes is biblically wrong. First bible says "let ur yes be yes and nay be nay" second the bible says "what God has joined together no man should put assunder"

You and God had a sit down and he told you these things.
the way una dey lie for God head ehen?

Cyynthia:
You must Wed in the church, any marriage that is not ordained by God through a priest is not recognized by God.

ABSOLUTE NONSENSE

Agreement of both parents is the primary thing abd the real mariage between the two intending couples any other thing is secondary and ur choice