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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 2:29pm On Sep 28, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Her day to day activities... Her job. Where's d time for telemundo? Weekend should b meant for family hangouts.
so what is she bringing to the marriage.
she will just give birth and that is the end?
assuming the man not collecting half rent and feeding money and school fees.he is sole provides and he can't afford househelp
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 2:33pm On Sep 28, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
so what is she bringing to the marriage.
she will just give birth and that is the end?
assuming the man not collecting half rent and feeding money and school fees.he is sole provides and he can't afford househelp
The kinda woman you marry is a choice of yours. Don't ask me such question. Perhaps you should ask ur grandfather or your dad what their spouse brought into d marriage.... They should be in a better position to enlighten you.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 2:35pm On Sep 28, 2017
oluebubeneo:


What about a career woman that works just as her husband, knowing fully well that she also has to keep the home she does these
gets a washing machine for laundry and other appliances that makes work easier for her so long as she can afford it, does it make her any less of a wife?
fine
but before the career reach dat level nko
and even then the feminists will still say that loading the washing machine is work and should be shared 50-50.trust me guys know what they are saying.
meanwhile these same idiots will never agree to be the sole provider even if the man agrees to do all the housework, never

they think they can eat their cake and have it

they can't

either put your head down and have peaceful marriage or raise it up and see whether one can find happiness in war in the name of fighting for equality.

I'm not saying you should be treated like slave o cos husband that appreciates his wife will do the wahala to afford all the help she can get but just in case we test so that she won't slow down the actor if the airs are down.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by kneehighbootz: 3:11pm On Sep 28, 2017
Tasued:
The wife material

The other day, there was no water in my hostel, so, I went outside to fetch. Now, I have very fragile bones, I can't be messing with my arms, I decided it would be safer if I put the keg of water on my head(advantage of having a big head, shey?). Well, I found someone and together, we balanced the keg on my head. Some dude saw me and sent me a message afterwards saying: Keji, you're a wife material o. If it were to be other girls, they would be forming.
Me (feigning ignorance): what did Keji do o?
Him: I saw the way you put keg of water on your head nah
Me: In your mind now, you would be thinking you're making sense o. Mtchew...
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Why does our society still justify a good wife qualities by the amount of suffering she passes through?
Ideally, with the level of civilization the world is experiencing, someone in Africa is thinking a woman is a better wife material because she can put keg of water on her head. Is suffering synonymous to being a wife?

A girl says she doesn't like grinding stone, you shame her for it, a girl says she likes using washing machine, you shame her for it. A girl says she doesn't like pounding yam, you shame her for it. You see, with my level of education and all the stress I am passing through in school right now just to be successful in life, if I cannot afford to make like easier for myself, if I cannot afford a blender, a washing machine, a pounding machine, then, I would be a disgrace to myself, to my family, and to my struggle!

I've read stories of how a man 'tested' his fiance by asking her to sleep in kitchen and she obeyed and he was convinced he could marry her... ... An argument was on on social media few weeks ago saying a woman that cannot cook soup with 500 naira is not a good wife material, so, I ask, how many of you men can build a duplex with 10,000 naira? Would you date dangote's daughter and be testing her with Poverty? You see, some ladies know what they want in life, it is not pride, it is not gold digging, it is called standard. Test a rich lady with Poverty and watch her leave you, not everyone can cope with Poverty.

I have heard a pastor say if his son brings a lady home, he will pack all his dirty clothes outside and if the lady doesn't come to wash them, his son will not marry her. In my mind, I was like, daddy, you will marry your son at last, sir. Whose daughter do you want to turn to your slave? Y'all want to be pampered and your egos massaged by ladies but you keep testing someone's daughter with Poverty and ill treatment and expect her to stay with you. You will be alright at last.

Keep judging a good wife with how well she can absorb Poverty and suffering and Poverty and suffering will keep following you, since that is what you want.

Please, a good wife is someone who will love and support you not necessarily someone who can put up with Poverty and stress.
Yes, we know our mothers suffered, used grinding stones, went to the river, pounded yam and all. But this is the life of baby girls, we have the money and sense to make life comfortable for ourselves, stop shaming girls who seek comfort. Except you have the ambition to be poor, you should have no reason compulsorily searching for a lady who can cook soup with 500 naira.

God, this post is everything. Thank you
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 3:25pm On Sep 28, 2017
Adaumunocha:
The kinda woman you marry is a choice of yours. Don't ask me such question. Perhaps you should ask ur grandfather or your dad what their spouse brought into d marriage.... They should be in a better position to enlighten you.
my point exactly
you cant answer the question
the next thing is insult
yet you wonder why guys test y'al
anyway the choice of wife is also ours
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 3:26pm On Sep 28, 2017
Adaumunocha:
The kinda woman you marry is a choice of yours. Don't ask me such question. Perhaps you should ask ur grandfather or your dad what their spouse brought into d marriage.... They should be in a better position to enlighten you.
my point exactly
you cant answer the question
the next thing is insult
yet you wonder why guys test y'al
anyway the choice of wife is also ours
my mother still books and cleans and she is a medical doctor
what's your excuse for being lazy
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 3:40pm On Sep 28, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
my point exactly
you cant answer the question
the next thing is insult
yet you wonder why guys test y'al
anyway the choice of wife is also ours
my mother still books and cleans and she is a medical doctor
what's your excuse for being lazy
I never insulted u. What makes you think I am?
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 3:45pm On Sep 28, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
my point exactly
you cant answer the question
the next thing is insult
yet you wonder why guys test y'al
anyway the choice of wife is also ours
And ladies don't test? No lady is truly happy staying at home and doing nothing pls.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by KevinDein: 4:29pm On Sep 28, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Thank God for Vacuum cleaner, poundo yam, washing machine, dish washer.... Person cannot comman go an die
I genuinely hate the picture of that woman you keep posting everywhere. She reminds me of my not-so-pleasant boss.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 4:33pm On Sep 28, 2017
KevinDein:

I genuinely hate the picture of that woman you keep posting everywhere. She reminds me of my not-so-pleasant boss.
Which picture
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by KevinDein: 4:36pm On Sep 28, 2017
CEEcey:
I never wash my cloth finish na another man cloth i go wash.

If my man cant wash his cloth, he should better stay him mama house

Marriage is not a do or die affair

I[b] cant come and suffer in a man's house all in the name of MARRIAGE[/b]!!!

Why do ladies always say the emboldened when asked to make a little sacrifice for the family? Men go through hell, do all sorts of risky jobs that literally put their lives at risk just so they can provide a good lifestyle for their families. Ladies on the other hand always come up with words like the emboldened when asked to make a little sacrifice.

Smacks of selfishness if you ask me.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by KevinDein: 4:49pm On Sep 28, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Which picture
This

Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 4:52pm On Sep 28, 2017
KevinDein:

This
hahahahs... OK. Her facial expression is funny.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Nofuckgiven: 7:43pm On Sep 28, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
like I said
only insult you know
so grammar is your argument, I see
your male relatives found women who are willing to pay their bills (like the white women you're obsessed with)
hope some poor schmuck doesn't find you
besides so long as the grandmother can cook and submit she will see husband and happy marriage before you


and you will never be able to speak English half as good as me

bring your waec result mowu compare

troll

and even ajegunle guy will not marry you with this attitude
Try and go back to school and learn how to compose simple grammar. Your educated illiteracy is appalling. You fool,I am happily married and my hubby cooks and cleans like a woman because he was not brought up to be a lazy idiot who waits around for a woman before doing anything. Now you and go and kill yourself. Its obvious you are just worthless. Even the owner of Genesis made his money by cooking,if he was lazy and stupid like you I am sure he would have ended up broke and frustrated like you.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Nofuckgiven: 7:47pm On Sep 28, 2017
KevinDein:


Why do ladies always say the emboldened when asked to make a little sacrifice for the family? Men go through hell, do all sorts of risky jobs that literally put their lives at risk just so they can provide a good lifestyle for their families. Ladies on the other hand always come up with words like the emboldened when asked to make a little sacrifice.

Smacks of selfishness if you ask me.
Pray tell me what hell do men go through that women haven't gone through twice? Is it the jobs that most women do these days same as men? Even military forces now have more female soldiers than before. So what exactly are you saying? Can you carry a pregnancy and risk your life to bring a child to this world? Until you can do that,you have no idea what 'risk' means.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Nofuckgiven: 7:50pm On Sep 28, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
feminists are all divorced and look and feel stupid right now.
you that can spell but can't answer simple question?
what does partner do?
so simple yet you went to white woman grandmother green card. such a foul manipulative mind
SMH
Chimamanda and others like me are still happily married so shut your hole. Is it not what you lazy and broke guys do these days? Leeching off old white grannies just to get green card. The pictures are all over the net. Keep wallowing in your astounding stupidity.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by KevinDein: 7:59pm On Sep 28, 2017
Nofuckgiven:

Pray tell me what hell do men go through that women haven't gone through twice? Is it the jobs that most women do these days same as men? Even military forces now have more female soldiers than before. So what exactly are you saying? Can you carry a pregnancy and risk your life to bring a child to this world? Until you can do that,you have no idea what 'risk' means.
You talk about military, how many women are usually at the war front? How many women are in sambisa at the moment? When I talk about risky jobs, I'm talking about jobs like long distance drivers (sokoto to Lagos is a fuuuckinng hell) petrol tanker drivers, high risk military and paramilitary jobs (women aren't sent to chase after dangerous robbers and kidnappers) etc.

Men do these jobs not because it's fun but because they need to provide for their families. Women should appreciate them by doing the little harmless domestic chores abeg.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Nofuckgiven: 8:04pm On Sep 28, 2017
KevinDein:

You talk about military, how many women are usually at the war front? How many women are in sambisa at the moment? When I talk about risky jobs, I'm talking about jobs like long distance drivers (sokoto to Lagos is a fuuuckinng hell) petrol tanker drivers, high risk military and paramilitary jobs (women aren't sent to chase after dangerous robbers and kidnappers) etc.

Men do these jobs not because it's fun but because they need to provide for their families. Women should appreciate them by doing the little harmless domestic chores abeg.
Women drive those long distance jobs too. If you haven't seen that is your problem. More females would obviously join that sector as time goes by. And the percentage of men who are do that are few compared to normal company or office workers. As for fighting in the war front,same thing. Their percentage is few compared to those who sit in offices or do business. So save your blackmail for someone else. Like I said,all those can never be riskier than giving birth. That is the greatest risk.

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Re: Is She A Wife Material? by nairanaira12: 7:48am On Sep 29, 2017
lopside12:


Is there any difference in being yourself and sticking to your guns?
Men like you are the ones that cry foul that after marriage she changed to be someone else cos she acted in the way you said an "ideal woman" should behave..
If you didn't get the message I passed you would have walked pass than to quote me..

BTW i am happily married to the man i am not giving surprises at home cos i never pretended to him in the course of a relationship in the name of changing beliefs or condescending

Anty please shut up. If you (either the man or the woman) refuses to condescend, that home can't be in peace. In a marriage, it isn't about you anymore; it is now about "us". Everything you do shouldn't be about what you feel is right or about the way your upbringing tells you it should be; it is now about "what will work for us"
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:02am On Sep 29, 2017
Nofuckgiven:

Chimamanda and others like me are still happily married so shut your hole. Is it not what you lazy and broke guys do these days? Leeching off old white grannies just to get green card. The pictures are all over the net. Keep wallowing in your astounding stupidity.
chimamanda is a stooge used to deceive gullible women like yourself while she doesn't practice what she preaches.
we'll see how long your happiness last with this mumu mindset.
you with this your vile mouth, I'm sure you're one of those mercy aigbe types posting picture upandan yet crying in your corner.
we see them all the time.
stubborn things.

it's not a curse o but just watch and when it happens you'll remember somebody told you.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:06am On Sep 29, 2017
Nofuckgiven:

Try and go back to school and learn how to compose simple grammar. Your educated illiteracy is appalling. You fool,I am happily married and my hubby cooks and cleans like a woman because he was not brought up to be a lazy idiot who waits around for a woman before doing anything. Now you and go and kill yourself. Its obvious you are just worthless. Even the owner of Genesis made his money by cooking,if he was lazy and stupid like you I am sure he would have ended up broke and frustrated like you.
so you married a beta and gave him vegetable to eat. I'm so sorry for the poor man. mumu, cooking as a job is not the same as being your wife's b.itch.now tell me lazinus, what do you contribute to your household.? nothing or you pay bills too? just wait till he meets real woman. sorry will be your name.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:08am On Sep 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
And ladies don't test? No lady is truly happy staying at home and doing nothing pls.
of course they do.

they test with ability to provide and protect.
SAVE YOUR HUSBAND!*

Why do husbands in Africa die most times before wives? A husband in Africa in most cases is under intense tension because he is responsible for:

● *Children school fees*

● *house rents*

● *Electricity bills*

● *Medical bills*

● *Generator fuel & repairs*

● *Car fuel and repairs*

● *Feeding of family*

● *Clothes for children*

● *Sallah or Christmas and New year bills*

● *Furniture & House maintenance*

● *In-laws wahala/demand*

● *His own aged parents*

● *His siblings most times*

● *His wife's demands*

● *Vigilante bills*

● *Erecting Building*

● *Religious demands*

● *Family social bills*

● *Electronics bills*

● *Recharge cards*

● *Extended family bills*

● *Community demands*

On top of the above, he also faces:

● *Wife stress/insults*

● *Boss stress at work*

● *Police stress on the way*

● *Area boys stress*

● *Kidnappers fear*

● *Friends stress*

● *Economy stress*

● *Fear of job loss*

● *Unemployment pains*

● *Armed Robbery stress*

● *Children misbehaviour*

● *Neighbours stress*

● *Bank loan payment stress*

● *Enemies stress*

● *Demonic attack stress*

● *Sex stress*

..and so on! OMG!!

Are these reasons not enough for all African Wives to understand and give their husbands peace at home? Are men not trying? How can an African man with these kind of loads be romantic like an American man?
Women, please give your husband's peace at home. Encourage your husbands. Stop being sarcastic to them. Except if you like to join the widows club early! Note:
That club is not funny. Ask members. Help your husband. Contribute to the family. Be a helper. Be submissive. Stop nagging. Build your home and marriage. It is not greener outside there. Don't be deceived!!
Help your husband to live longer like you.


FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN IN YOUR CONTACT LIST UNTIL EVERY WOMAN IN AFRICA READS IT. LET US PROLONG THE LIVES OF OUR MEN!!


do you see it is not the same at all
imagine the mental stress just to keep up

yet you wonder why he wants to make sure she's worth it
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:11am On Sep 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
I never insulted u. What makes you think I am?
didn't say you did but your almost about to.
or how would you like it if I ordered you not to ask me such question simply because you have no reasonable answer.
you still haven't answered the simple question what is the woman's role in a marriage?

instead you're ordering a stranger to not ask you questions.
if you don't want to answer question why talk in public or do you think you will not be called out?
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 8:12am On Sep 29, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
of course they do.

they test with ability to provide and protect.
SAVE YOUR HUSBAND!*

Why do husbands in Africa die most times before wives? A husband in Africa in most cases is under intense tension because he is responsible for:

● *Children school fees*

● *house rents*

● *Electricity bills*

● *Medical bills*

● *Generator fuel & repairs*

● *Car fuel and repairs*

● *Feeding of family*

● *Clothes for children*

● *Sallah or Christmas and New year bills*

● *Furniture & House maintenance*

● *In-laws wahala/demand*

● *His own aged parents*

● *His siblings most times*

● *His wife's demands*

● *Vigilante bills*

● *Erecting Building*

● *Religious demands*

● *Family social bills*

● *Electronics bills*

● *Recharge cards*

● *Extended family bills*

● *Community demands*

On top of the above, he also faces:

● *Wife stress/insults*

● *Boss stress at work*

● *Police stress on the way*

● *Area boys stress*

● *Kidnappers fear*

● *Friends stress*

● *Economy stress*

● *Fear of job loss*

● *Unemployment pains*

● *Armed Robbery stress*

● *Children misbehaviour*

● *Neighbours stress*

● *Bank loan payment stress*

● *Enemies stress*

● *Demonic attack stress*

● *Sex stress*

..and so on! OMG!!

Are these reasons not enough for all African Wives to understand and give their husbands peace at home? Are men not trying? How can an African man with these kind of loads be romantic like an American man?
Women, please give your husband's peace at home. Encourage your husbands. Stop being sarcastic to them. Except if you like to join the widows club early! Note:
That club is not funny. Ask members. Help your husband. Contribute to the family. Be a helper. Be submissive. Stop nagging. Build your home and marriage. It is not greener outside there. Don't be deceived!!
Help your husband to live longer like you.


FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN IN YOUR CONTACT LIST UNTIL EVERY WOMAN IN AFRICA READS IT. LET US PROLONG THE LIVES OF OUR MEN!!


do you see it is not the same at all
imagine the mental stress just to keep up

yet you wonder why he wants to make sure she's worth it
This is deep. I totally understand. Thanks
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 8:15am On Sep 29, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
didn't say you did but your almost about to
Looolzzz... Hope this morning met you well?
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:21am On Sep 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Looolzzz... Hope this morning met you well?
every morning meets me well,and you?
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 8:27am On Sep 29, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:

every morning meets me well,and you?
Same same.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:31am On Sep 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Same same.
hmm wanna talk about it
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 8:47am On Sep 29, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
hmm wanna talk about it
Naaaa... I'm good. smiley
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by efficiencie(m): 12:00pm On Sep 29, 2017
Nofuckgiven:

You must be mad to have sex with a machine then. I wonder why you bother using any equipment or modern tools if you can do it the old way? If you need a maid,hire one. Wife is not maid. Rubbish

Madam you dey venzzz oohhhh! You don't have to insult me to state your point...a wife is there to help her husband and the husband must help the woman to help him. If my wife seeks a machine to do the laundry, a maid to clean the house and do the cooking, a nanny to take care of the kids, a counselor to give her husband advice and a massager to keep her husband relaxed then of what use is she as a wife and of what use is the husband to the wife...The mere fact that my wife does things for me and I do things for my wife bonds us. Yes, I believe machines are made to make life easy and if i can afford them I will get as much as I can but there are some things a woman must do for her husband and her husband must do for her to strengthen the bond!

My wife is not my maid, but I am sure she will be very hurt to hear me complementing my maid, right before her, for the fine dish she prepared...and she will be hurt all the more if she sees that my respect and regard for that maid grows daily on account of her services!
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by MIKOLOWISKA: 2:15pm On Sep 29, 2017
Adaumunocha:
Naaaa... I'm good. smiley
Chei you go fia zoning.
Re: Is She A Wife Material? by Adaumunocha(f): 2:21pm On Sep 29, 2017
MIKOLOWISKA:
Chei you go fia zoning.
Lol... No zoning.

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