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6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:18pm On May 09, 2016
*Every man must understand that the woman is a weaker vessel which means they could be weaker in emotions,actions and utterances hence the need to understand this inherent nature of theirs and not allow it to provoke you in anyway to the extent of raising your hands against them.A man who beats a woman is a beast and do not deserve to live with humans but with fellow beasts in the jungle...No matter how provoked you may be as a man,please never raise your hand to beat a woman*


It is no longer news that many women have lost their lives through domestic violence and the more we try to put the blames on the menfolk the more we will continue to blind our eyes to the fact that indeed,there are many ways women contribute to this menace but there are also various ways they can prevent it.

As i always tell ladies...if your man beats you the first time,take it as a mistake from him but if he does it the second time then it is a habit.

Nevertheless below is a list of ways women can prevent this mad act by some men and i hope ladies take time out to read and put them to practice.


1.Don't be Negligent: Yes this is one fact many ladies will not deny because there is no accidental character and the signs of a violent man would have been there . It is quite amazing that many ladies get beaten up by a guy they are dating and this guy will still go ahead and become their hubby and i keep wondering what these ladies were thinking saying i do to a guy who beats you up. Many ladies usually believe such guys will change but the honest truth is that a guy who beats you up while dating you may kill you when he becomes your hubby.RUN.

2.Put Sophistication at bay:Many people will wonder what this has to do with domestic violence but it has a whole lot to do with it. Sophistication is the bane of today's woman and the number one reason why many ladies find it hard to get a man to settle down with. Many ladies are too sophisticated to come to terms with the fact that they are married,this set of ladies will practically make demands that their husbands help out in the kitchen,the need for him to cook his food and even take care of the baby and subconsciously, these ladies gradually bruise the ego of the man who may continue to stomach these things until he gets pushed to the wall and reacts in a violent way. No matter how highly placed or sophisticated you may be as a lady,please understand that you are a wife and a mother and you must learn how to joggle these roles without turning your hubby into a domestic servant...if he decides to help out please let it be his decision.Not all men are sound minded to get the message when you ask him to help you domestically.
If you think the work is too much then get a maid.

3. Avoid Misguided utterance: This is a very common fact as regards some women and it is so sad that many ladies do not even realize they are guilty of this because they just might believe they are making sense not knowing that they are bruising the man's ego and killing him bit by bit mentally and emotionally. Misguided speech sometimes come in a very subtle way from the lady who may have no clue. For instance a lady footing the bills telling her hubby that "she can not go out all day and still come home to please him sexually" or "he can not satisfy you sexually", or funny words like "you should be thanking GOD for having me cos there are better guys out there" bla bla bla common.... A man is an egocentric person and any word that bruises his ego could bring out the beast in him. so try as much as you can to avoid using misguided speech because not all men are calm enough to overlook certain words.

4.Avoid Infidelity:This account for many cases of domestic violence leading to death. Yes men cheat as well as ladies but as a lady please be extremely careful when it comes to sexual infidelity. Scientists have proved that the effect of hard drugs on human is the same effect a heart break gives. If you must cheat on your man or hubby please i advice you just break up with such first rather than staying in that affair and cheating because the resultant effect is always a dangerous one.

5.Avoid outright use of abusive words:This is no doubt one reason why many gentle men have turned wife beaters.There are some women who can use their tongue to set a house on fire and you need to hear how some ladies speak to their spouses.

Many ladies are very erratic in speech and it is not all men that are gentle or can walk away as men are always advised.Please ladies,learn to bridle your tongues to avoid stories that touch...be submissive,be humble.be calm in your speech and avoid getting confrontational because men hate confrontations...remember...not every man is a gentle man so try to always. maintain a status quo.Understand when to keep quiet to avoid heated arguments which usually leads to violent reactions from the man.

6.Avoid Gullibility:Yes many ladies are very gullible when it comes to handling domestic violence.There are some guys who just make it a crazy habit beating up a lady at any slight opportunity even if the lady exhibits an angelic nature. If a man beats you once,assume its a mistake but if he tries it again,please don't go back to your parents or waste your time reporting him to family members because some will tell you to go back because of the children or because of shame...please its better to live with shame than to end up dead...go to the police immediately to report him and let him be invited to write an undertaken never to touch you again while you also maintain a proper decorum but if his madness persists,please leave that marriage or relationship immediately whether you have a child for him or not...it is better to remain single and happy than to lose your life.Gullible ladies who have listened to funny advices from family members to remain in a violent marriage for whatever reason are now 6 feet below....Be reasonable.


Hope this makes sense.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Strahovski1(m): 1:20pm On May 09, 2016
Useless...

No matter what. You have no right to hit a woman. A man abuse you would you punch him? NO. But a woman you will.

*Pulls out dick and start masturbation on threaD*

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 1:22pm On May 09, 2016
BS! Crap!

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Vinshu(f): 1:23pm On May 09, 2016
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by ClassCaptain(m): 1:24pm On May 09, 2016
Strahovski1:
Useless...

No matter what. You have no right to hit a woman. A man abuse you would you punch him? NO. But a woman you will.

*Pulls out dick and start masturbation on threaD*

hello sir, how has been your day.?

pls read the Op first paragraph and modify your comment before you start "Masturbation on the thread grin . you are on the same stand.


cheers..

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by lilmax(m): 1:25pm On May 09, 2016
Until number 5 becomes regulated domestic violence will not cease

Its now left for the women to choose their path

You talk nonsense you Feel nonsense grin

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ishilove: 1:26pm On May 09, 2016
This is very offensive

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Strahovski1(m): 1:27pm On May 09, 2016
ClassCaptain:


hello sir, how has been your day.?

pls read the Op first paragraph and modify your comment. you are on the same stand.


cheers..

His first paragraph has been void with his 6 useless facts. Why is he giving shameless men reasons to beat their women? He is promoting domestic violence.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by wordbank(m): 1:27pm On May 09, 2016
Dem just dey run dia mouth
Space warriors

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 1:30pm On May 09, 2016
People who usually rant "never lay hands on a woman no matter what" are those who end up doing it. Its not just by ranting it, u have to understand d real principle behind that statement. I know this from experience.

So why should u generally not lay hands on a woman? Simple! Cos women are generally perceived as weaker (physically) than men, hence are defenseless.
In order words, d real quip should be "never lay hands on a defenseless person (male or female)" instead of "never lay hands on a woman". The latter is by no means a moral absolute.

Saying that it is never justifiable under any circumstance whatsoever, to "lay hands on a woman" is d stupidest thing anyone can say.
As a martial arts student, I wouldn't fight with a lady (non-martial arts) any more than I wouldn't fight a 12yr-old boy or a disabled person. They're defenseless.

In d case where a lady is not defenseless n tries anything physical with u, by all means defend urself.
If d lady is defenseless but provokes u, by all means control urself no matter what.
If she's defenseless but still attacks u, by all means give her a dirty slap. It shud end dere, punches n kicks n headbutts not allowed.

I remember an incident that happnd in UBA bank uniport (which is usually crowded). A girl was shouting n cursing in d bank over her 5k which was wrongly deducted n d staff were trying 2 calm her down. Then a boy sitting elsewhere told her 2 calm down, that d money was just 5k na and would be refunded. This didn't go well with d gal cos b4 we knew it, she walked up to 2 boy & slapped him hard. As if that wasn't enough, she took off her slippers n slapped d boy again with it, to d dismay of evry1. She wanted 2 hit him again b4 a guy drew her away. D customers inside d bank were so angry n some were prompting d boy 2 give d gal a dirty slap n were swearing d gal would have died if it was them. The boy didn't react but just walkd outside.

What happnd afta, I dnt know.

If u were in his shoes, what wud u do?
If it was me, I won't hesitate 2 slap her back n front. Y have d guts 2 slap me in public? "Never lay hands on a woman" my ass. Wud also do same if it was a guy.
Some women don't hesitate 2 slap n attack men because they have that mentality an absolute law is guiding dem n they kw how 2 cry a river when a finger touches them. Bullshit!

As for wife-beating, men who do dat are goats n I wonder how women still go ahead 2 marry such men. One big cause of it is poverty n blockheadedness. U hardly c wealthy/enlightnd pple pummeling their wives.
Where I blame women 4 it is y they allow themselvs 2 be beaten continuously all in d name of luv or i-want-to-save-my-marriage

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by ronald4lif(m): 1:31pm On May 09, 2016
undecided
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:31pm On May 09, 2016
Strahovski1:
Useless...

No matter what. You have no right to hit a woman. A man abuse you would you punch him? NO. But a woman you will.

*Pulls out dick and start masturbation on threaD*

I seriously pity you because it is apparent that you are far from being educated...please always read first before commenting and stop constituting nuisance.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nixiepie(f): 1:31pm On May 09, 2016
Still that does not justifies beating of women no matter what,for christ sakes! she is your partner not your child mtcheeeeeew

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by kaziblake(f): 1:32pm On May 09, 2016
I totally disagree with no 3...A woman who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing have every right to insult and even deny you sex.

Mecheww

Real men don't beat their wives

*modified*
Those of you insulting me, wishing me bad luck thank you.
I pray you never experience what i passed through.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:32pm On May 09, 2016
Ishilove:
This is very offensive

I can bet you did not read the article asides the title..

Please read first than comment.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by BeeBeeOoh(m): 1:33pm On May 09, 2016
OH GOD PLEASE HELP OP BECAUSE THEY ARE GHANA DEVOUR HIM TODAY..
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by ucheHapers(m): 1:33pm On May 09, 2016
Jesus, did people actually read the article. It's obvious people are in a haste to comment without reading even the first sentence. No wonder it's written

"They have eyes but cannot see"

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:37pm On May 09, 2016
ucheHapers:
Jesus, did people actually read the article. It's obvious people are in a haste to comment without reading even the first sentence. No wonder it's written

"They have eyes but cannot see"

This is the problem i have with many people who read my articles up-side-down and some just read the title and comment.

There is a big problem with the future of this country judging from the crop of many youths we have who find it hard to comprehend.That is how they will start saying i write against ladies because they are not mentally coherent to decipher the inherent points.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by ClassCaptain(m): 1:38pm On May 09, 2016
Strahovski1:


His first paragraph has been void with his 6 useless facts. Why is he giving shameless men reasons to beat their women? He is promoting domestic violence.


Very true Sir..

but i believe the problem comes with the generalization, i believe op should have used Some women instead of the generalization of Women.
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:39pm On May 09, 2016
Strahovski1:


Shut up man. You are educated in the forest with animals. I wonder what you would be doing to your wife.

Stop making a fool of yourself.

I need to see your parents fast so that i can warn them not to bother spending more on your education.

You are so pathetic.I won't bother to reply you again cos its a waste of time.Just try to read first before making posts to avoid making mockery of yourself and displaying your odoriferous academic mediocrity.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 1:42pm On May 09, 2016
A lot of peeps commenting did not read d article. Op is not in anyway supporting domestic violence, instead d article is to help women to know how to curb domestic violence. U ladies shuld be thanking d op.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by geez18(m): 1:43pm On May 09, 2016
ucheHapers:
Jesus, did people actually read the article. It's obvious people are in a haste to comment without reading even the first sentence. No wonder it's written

"They have eyes but cannot see"

hahahahaha..,my brother na FTC things cause am....

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:44pm On May 09, 2016
ClassCaptain:


Very true Sir..

but i believe the problem comes with the generalization, i believe op should have used Some women instead of the generalization of Women.





There is nothing like generalization...A title must remain as catchy as possible and only intellectually sound people understand the need to read teh contents before making comments..many is not all and therefore there was no basis for generalization in the write up.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 1:47pm On May 09, 2016
Toks2008:

1.Negligence: Yes this is one fact many ladies will not deny because there is no accidental character and the signs of a violent man would have been there . It is quite amazing that many ladies get beaten up by a guy they are dating and this guy will still go ahead and become their hubby and i keep wondering what these ladies were thinking saying i do to a guy who beats you up. Many ladies usually believe such guys will change but the honest truth is that a guy who beats you up while dating you may kill you when he becomes your hubby.RUN.

I agree with this totally, its useless to think you can change anyone especially in marriage, the same applies to guys too

2.Sophistication:Many people will wonder what this has to do with domestic violence but it has a whole lot to do with it. Sophistication is the bane of today's woman and the number one reason why many ladies find it hard to get a man to settle down with. Many ladies are too sophisticated to come to terms with the fact that they are married,they still want to live a life of a spinster while married and these set of ladies will not hesitate to tell their hubby the need for him to help out in the kitchen,the need for him to cook his food and even take care of the baby and subconsciously, these ladies gradually bruise the ego of the man who may continue to stomach these things until he gets pushed to the wall and reacts in a violent way. No matter how highly placed or sophisticated you may be as a lady,please understand that you are a wife and a mother and you must learn how to joggle these roles without turning your hubby into a domestic servant...if he decides to help out please let it be his decision.

So a man should not help out in the house because of his ego Load of BS

3. Misguided utterance: This is a very common fact among the women folk and it is so sad that many ladies do not even realize they are guilty of this because they just might believe they are making sense not knowing that they are bruising the man's ego and killing him bit by bit mentally and emotionally. Misguided speech sometimes come in a very subtle way from the lady who may have no clue. For instance a lady footing the bills telling her hubby that "she can not go out all day and still come home to please him sexually" or "he can not satisfy you sexually", or funny words like "you should be thanking GOD for having me cos there are better guys out there" bla bla bla common.... A man is an egocentric person and any word that bruises his ego could bring out the beast in him.

This is true too, men found to be guilty of physically abusing their wives tend to have a verbally abusive spouse. Ladies should actually watch their utterance because words wound too

4.Infidelity:This account for many cases of domestic violence leading to death. Yes men cheat as well as ladies but as a lady please be extremely careful when it comes to sexual infidelity. Scientists have proved that the effect of hard drugs on human is the same effect a heart break gives. If you must cheat on your man or hubby please i advice you just break up with such first rather than staying in that affair and cheating because the resultant effect is always a dangerous one.

If she cheats kuku divorce her and end the marriage ni, instead of carrying out your frustration on someone's daughter undecided

5.Use of abusive words:This is no doubt one reason why many gentle men have turned wife beaters.There are some women who can use their tongue to set a house on fire and you need to hear how some ladies speak to their spouses.
Many ladies are very erratic in speech and it is not all men that are gentle or can walk away as men are always advised.Please ladies,learn to bridle your tongues to avoid stories that touch...be submissive,be humble.be calm in your speech and avoid getting confrontational because men hate confrontations...remember...not every man is a gentle man so try to always. maintain a status quo.

Same as point 3 above

6.Gullibility:Yes many ladies are very gullible when it comes to handling domestic violence.There are some guys who just make it a crazy habit beating up a lady at any slight opportunity even if the lady exhibits an angelic nature. If a man beats you once,assume its a mistake but if he tries it again,please don't go back to your parents or waste your time reporting him to family members..go to the police immediately to report him and let him be invited to write an undertaken never to touch you again while you also maintain a proper decorum but if his madness persists,please leave that marriage or relationship immediately whether you have a child for him or not...it is better to remain single and happy than to lose your life.Gullible ladies who have listened to funny advices from family members to remain in a violent marriage for whatever reason are not 6 feet below....Be reasonable.


Crap undecided

I hope you justify a man raising his hand on your daughter with this undecided

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 1:49pm On May 09, 2016
kaziblake:
I totally disagree with no 3...A woman who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing have every right to insult and even deny you sex.

Mecheww

Real men don't beat their wives


So what about a man who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing also have every right to insult, deny u sex and beat the crap out of you right??

You are a good example of r e t a r d e d n e s s and imbecility. The man wey go marry u don suffer. I rebuke your kind of Lady in my life. Amen

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by halfricanadian(f): 1:52pm On May 09, 2016
THERE ARE SEVERAL TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

SOME ARE PHYSICAL
SOME ARE MENTALLY
SOME ARE PSYCHOLOGICALLY
SOME ARE EMOTIONAL

pls address all not onlu physical cos d remaining two kills faster dan physical domestic violence

What people dont know is any woman that dies cos of domestic violence went tru all d 4 stages av listed

Ur husband cant beat u like u just had an accident he can never do dat even accident victims survive

Wat im saying is when a woman gets beaten

She goes crazy mentally trying to figure out wat went wrong

Den pyschologically she begins to feel so down of hersef

Den emotionally she becomes unstable

Nd if d violence continues steadily she is gone asin dead

Every thing is not always physical abeg


So many women are troubled mentally psychologically nd emotionally i wont deny im a victim of this it kills faster dan physical im telling u

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by ClassCaptain(m): 1:55pm On May 09, 2016
Toks2008:


There is nothing like generalization...A title must remain as catchy as possible and only intellectually sound people understand the need to read teh contents before making comments..many is not all and therefore there was no basis for generalization in the write up.




okay
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by cowgirl9090: 1:55pm On May 09, 2016
I don't see reasons why a wife shouldn't ask her husband to help out in the kitchen or in domestic chores except she is an housewife but if she also works the husband don't need to be told he should help out .

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 1:58pm On May 09, 2016
halfricanadian:
THERE ARE SEVERAL TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

SOME ARE PHYSICAL
SOME ARE MENTALLY
SOME ARE PSYCHOLOGICALLY
SOME ARE EMOTIONAL

pls address all not onlu physical cos d remaining two kills faster dan physical domestic violence

What people dont know is any woman that dies cos of domestic violence went tru all d 4 stages av listed

Ur husband cant beat u like u just had an accident he can never do dat even accident victims survive

Wat im saying is when a woman gets beaten

She goes crazy mentally trying to figure out wat went wrong

Den pyschologically she begins to feel so down of hersef

Den emotionally she becomes unstable

Nd if d violence continues steadily she is gone asin dead

Every thing is not always physical abeg


So many women are troubled mentally psychologically nd emotionally i wont deny im a victim of this it kills faster dan physical im telling u

Sis we have domestic abuse which are emotional,psychological..... but domestic violence is a different ball game.

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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by OgeneUkwenu(f): 1:58pm On May 09, 2016
Op is biased.

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