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How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 9:36am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Parenting isn't a joke because it's one thing to know what you want and another thing to know how to make your kids obey you. The key to getting your child to obey you is positive communication. AVOID THE USE OF "DON'T" e.g. Don't go out, don't on that TV, don't sleep there? Focus on what they should do and not what they should not do. AVOID THE WORD "NOT"... In a bid to correct a child don't say I told you not to do this but say " I told you to... Instead of saying "you know you should not" say you know you should. Anger comes with the use of negative words of "nots" don't fall for it. What you say is what they do and not what you mean. Your communication must be 2in1 package, say what you mean, focusing only on what you mean. No treats and no pre-rewards The use of treats on a child is never a corrective measure and the reward system is the best just don't let the kids know you will reward them ahead. Keep it to yourself and surprise them. A child what knows every thing he does rightly can attract a positive reward will be inwardly motivated all the time and will not have an entitlement mentality which is what we call corruption in Nigeria. Oya add your one piece advice to parents with stubborn kids. cc: lalasticlaala, mynd44 |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by MhizzAJ(f): 9:46am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Do not use the 'F' word No negative comments 1 Like |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by ikbnice(m): 9:47am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Oyinbo style for oyinbo pikin 2 Likes |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Nobody: 9:53am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Try to be good models too. Don't go about cursing and expect ur kids to not do same 2 Likes |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 9:53am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ahhhh "F" word ke? Never thought a parent will ever use that. MhizzAJ: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 9:54am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Boss easy o. Which one be oyinbo style ikbnice: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 9:56am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Correct. I heard that Emmanuella saying she knows more that half of what adults are hiding from them. Have you tried to get kids mimick their parents? You go run. mhizesther: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 9:57am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Correct. I heard that Emmanuella saying she knows more that half of what adults are hiding from them. Have you tried to get kids mimick their parents? You go run. mhizesther: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by MhizzAJ(f): 9:59am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ashibelieve: That's y there's a lot to parenting than just being the mother or father of a child . Some parents use words like that on their children and ve heard that word from a father to his son before |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Lalas247(f): 9:59am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Cain worked just fine Don't think This will work in Nigeria But in the UK treats work .."I'll put you on the next flight to Nigerian " lol say that to an American naija kid or Uk watch transformation Works all the time |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Nobody: 9:59am On Sep 24, 2017 |
.. don't ever hit a child no matter what No matter how you sugar coat it hitting a child is abuse and it might have psychological effects on a child's mind. |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 10:04am On Sep 24, 2017 |
I don't think Cain works on the long term o. If that works then prisoners will not come out hardened but reformed. Kids will not leave the home to trouble the streets. Lalas247: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Lalas247(f): 10:07am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ashibelieve:Lol it worked on me o Me don't like scars hated it |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by thesicilian: 10:10am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Flog the hell out of the child. All this talk about hitting being child abuse, has that worked in the first world countries? Even the Bible says whoever spares the rod hates his son. (Proverbs 13:24) |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 10:10am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Hmmm if I ask you some questions you will know it didn't really work o. But lemme be going to church first. Lol Lalas247: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Lalas247(f): 10:13am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ashibelieve:Kikiki I stubborn sha they tried I no kuku dey hear word The reward tech works very well but don't think Nigerian parent have time to be rewarding 1 Like |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by livingseed: 10:29am On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ashibelieve: Let me ask you some questions too. At 5, Your child that is too old to spank always... 1. Running around a restaurant and throwing food. 2. Refusing to have medical/dental check up. 3. Throwing a temper tantrum for not getting something they want in a store. 4. Refusing to go to school. 5. Being rude to teachers. There are 5 examples right there....what would a parent do in these situations...reason with them? yeah....right. |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 10:35am On Sep 24, 2017 |
I'm walking away, trouble is not mine I'm walking away...lol. Let me come back from church so I can give intelligent answer. livingseed: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by ImaIma1(f): 2:17pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
This is for oyibo kids not for ours. And cane is important. Even the bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child"... |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 2:37pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Rod an not cain you said. Use rod lets see na. lol ImaIma1: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by ImaIma1(f): 3:31pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ashibelieve: the use of a stick as punishment. noun: the rod synonyms: corporal punishment, the cane, the lash, the birch, the belt, the strap |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ashibelieve: 8:37pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
English language is very weak when used to explain the bible. You will have to use direct translation from Hebrew to english to know why rod means something tougher. Cain works you are right but it wont work because it has no form of intelligently engaging the kids. It affects confidence in kids and goes even to their adulthood. ImaIma1: |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ishilove: 9:31pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Cane will work wonders. |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by gidjah(m): 9:51pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Wao!!@op,I have learnt a lot out of this great lessons . |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by ImaIma1(f): 10:20pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ashibelieve: The bible is in English. You need to be able to break it down to understand it...what rod means in the context for instance. Cane never affected my confidence. My dad used koboko, my mum used taperule and i went to a military school that crowned it up with various types of caning instruments. Still my confidence is intact. |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Omoluabi16(m): 10:53pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Ishilove:Ishi mama |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Ishilove: 11:34pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Omoluabi16:Yes dear? |
Re: How To Correct Stubborn Kids by Nobody: 7:41am On Sep 25, 2017 |
Cool... |
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