pocohantas:
Most people will attack her...but she is right.
This is exactly what I was talking about @Mrphysics. The "I can fix him" mentality.

chukzyfcbb:
very true.
I think its a thing of nature for the women folks to act that way, its the reason they are attracted to bad boiz or someone who they perceive is dangerous, because they feel they can always change the person.

So dating such person gives them the adventure and the thrill, so they feel like they have impacted in his life at the end.

Why do you think Good guys are perceived boring? Its simply because they have no anomaly for the women folk to correct.

Ever heard the sentence , Wise Women build their home? Its this sentence that they all abide by and try to build the man and kids to that Mr/Mrs perfect, which never always works.


She is so on point like decimal.

pocohantas:
Most people will attack her...but she is right.
This is exactly what I was talking about @Mrphysics. The "I can fix him" mentality.

viviangist:
@VIVIANGIST

As shared on her Instagram Page , Read below.

 I used to be a fixer. I stayed in bad relationships, attracting the same type of men—men who needed to be fixed.

I know so many women in the same position. We attract cheating men, commitment-phobic men, emotionally unavailable men, emotionally damaged men, alcoholics, drug abusers, narcissists and sociopaths.

It’s like we are a magnet for men whose pieces are shattered all over the place. And for some reason, we feel compelled to put these pieces back together.

But I must admit, I have failed every single time.

I never gave myself a chance to sit back and question my motives. Instead of asking why I constantly felt obligated to pick up someone else’s broken pieces, I ran to pick them up without a second thought. Being selfless made me think that coming second didn’t matter because I was putting someone else’s worthiness first. And in the end, rank doesn’t matter, right?

I realized that the reason I was attracting these types of men was because I believed I could save them.

As selfless, thoughtful, giving women, we think we will be “that woman”—the one who will change them. We think we can turn a cheater into a loyal boyfriend. We think we can help him walk away from the drugs and alcohol. We believe we can help him get over his commitment issues and aim for a stable future with us. We trust that we can get rid of the emotional baggage that he has been carrying for years. 
We attract these men because we believe they need us. And to leave them would be selfish, insensitive and ruthless.

The sad news is, we constantly blame ourselves when they don’t change. Every time they fail us, we think it’s because we failed them. Their hold on us becomes stronger; they keep us around knowing they have nothing to offer. 
It’s just my view. What’s your view Let’s interact 
#JustMyView #JMVwithDayoAmusa #TAO#millionshadesoftao

Via : http://www.viviangist.ng/dayo-amusa-women-attract-cheating-partners/

cc; lalasticlala

bobdee05:
My dear sister you attract the exact kind of personality and character that you are,pls run a check on your self. Likes be get likes.

pocohantas:
Most people will attack her...but she is right.
This is exactly what I was talking about @Mrphysics. The "I can fix him" mentality.

chukzyfcbb:
very true.
I think its a thing of nature for the women folks to act that way, its the reason they are attracted to bad boiz or someone who they perceive is dangerous, because they feel they can always change the person.

So dating such person gives them the adventure and the thrill, so they feel like they have impacted in his life at the end.

Why do you think Good guys are perceived boring? Its simply because they have no anomaly for the women folk to correct.

Ever heard the sentence , Wise Women build their home? Its this sentence that they all abide by and try to build the man and kids to that Mr/Mrs perfect, which never always works.


She is so on point like decimal.

generationz:
She's right most nice "Mr and Mrs fixalot" usually attract narcissist and terrible people.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with being that type of person. That's why good girls end up with bad guys and vice versa. It's the natural law of opposites being attracted to each other.


However, nobody walks around with a sign on their forehead saying "I am a cheat, wifebeater or womanizer"

However with experience you'll learn to notice subtle signs, that's why it's advisable not to fall head over heels in love with someone without knowing and studying them well enough.

Many of these people are the most charming and charismatic, but when you look beneath you'll discover that they are very shallow with nothing to offer rather than excessive baggage and pain.

Most of the time they do not take out time to work on themselves or see the amount of pain that they are causing their loved ones because they think after all people are always attracted to them so they can't be the ones with the problems it has to be the other person.

generationz:
She's right most nice "Mr and Mrs fixalot" usually attract narcissist and terrible people.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with being that type of person. That's why good girls end up with bad guys and vice versa. It's the natural law of opposites being attracted to each other.


However, nobody walks around with a sign on their forehead saying "I am a cheat, wifebeater or womanizer"

However with experience you'll learn to notice subtle signs, that's why it's advisable not to fall head over heels in love with someone without knowing and studying them well enough.

Many of these people are the most charming and charismatic, but when you look beneath you'll discover that they are very shallow with nothing to offer rather than excessive baggage and pain.

Most of the time they do not take out time to work on themselves or see the amount of pain that they are causing their loved ones because they think after all people are always attracted to them so they can't be the ones with the problems it has to be the other person.

harmeyd:
Who is she

ishowdotgmail:
Cos of who you're

Shit attracts flies my sister

mrphysics:

Lol. It's visible to the blind now.

Let me take it to the other side:
Is there a level of acceptance a lady can take before saying yes? What I mean is; seeing we are not all perfect and no one can comfortably say he/she found someone with 100% of what she/he is looking for, therefore, is there any particular trait that the lady can say, I can fix him?


Or should we all be waiting for mr perfect.

pocohantas:


No, we can't all wait for Mr/Miss perfect. No one is indeed perfect, but the problem with people like this is...they try to fix problems that are more of psychological. Somehow they drag themselves into the mess and become the major wreck.

We all have that feeling of wanting to take the glory.
Some battles are not ours to fight, all in the name of love

Men most times don't have this time, but women are mostly the ones blackmailed into all this, with the virtuous woman talk.

generationz:
She's right most nice "Mr and Mrs fixalot" usually attract narcissist and terrible people.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with being that type of person. That's why good girls end up with bad guys and vice versa. It's the natural law of opposites being attracted to each other.


However, nobody walks around with a sign on their forehead saying "I am a cheat, wifebeater or womanizer"

However with experience you'll learn to notice subtle signs, that's why it's advisable not to fall head over heels in love with someone without knowing and studying them well enough.

Many of these people are the most charming and charismatic, but when you look beneath you'll discover that they are very shallow with nothing to offer rather than excessive baggage and pain.

Most of the time they do not take out time to work on themselves or see the amount of pain that they are causing their loved ones because they think after all people are always attracted to them so they can't be the ones with the problems it has to be the other person.

Ajusshi:
It's rare to see your kind of wisdom on nairaland.

righthappenings:
You must be mature and very sensible

Jarus:


The only thing that catches my attention here is, she wrote in flawless English. Very rare to see a Nollywood actress write 3 paragraphs without bullets.

SonOfAfonja:
She spoke quite intelligently,much to my dismay....But look at the comments, I guess Nigerians are just hungry,explains why they aren't thinking straight....

ishowdotgmail:
Cos of who you're

Shit attracts flies my sister