Guys please need urgent advice.

There is this girl i met about 9 months ago. I fell for her the instant i saw her. I didn't hesitate to ask her out on a date, on the day of the date, we spoke and laughed and talked about so many things and I made it known to her she is the one have been searching for all the while.

Now at first she told me about her past relationship and how the guy jilted her and how she doesn't think she can get married again and stuffs like that, also she gave me an excuse that she thinks she and I will likely be the same age, which made me ask her what her age was bit she declined telling me. I didn't push her on that. For that reason i decided i was going to do whatever i can to make her happy and realise not all guys are heartless and incapable of love. I take her out, with the litttle change i have I always send her money on different occasions not much but atleast 10k. 15k. Etc.. Take her to the movies,in short i made sure i tried to always keep her happy even though only God makes a person happy.

Fast forward to 3 months after meeting I invited her over to my place, we kissed and normal stuffs but when i wanted to have sex with her she begged me to please,that she wasn't ready, now please guys don't bash me, am not a saint, have definitely had my share of sex, but since what i wanted from her was marriage i decided to play it cool and gave her what she wanted. I did not pressurize her for sex, infact i made her so comfortable that she has been to my place more than 20 times and we didn't have sex, i just freed her with the hopes we can have a healthy relationship. ofcourse i had other babes i was having sex with casually.


Now issue is along the line she started telling me she doesn't think she can marry me because she hasn't gotte over her past, anytime i bring up the issue she says she is not ready. It got to a time i decided enough is enough, its high time i free her, i started distancing myself from her,I stopped all forms of down to heart things i do for her, i just decided its was time i moved on with my life, there is no point forcing oneself on a person who doesn't want you in their lives. But funny enough she Started saying have changed and she never got tired of sending messages in whatsapp. Even when i read and don't reply she keeps sending messages. At times for a week stretch she will keep Sending messages, i was expecting her to give up but she just won't.

Eventually i had to tell her am not comfortable with her sending. Me messages, i made her realise am not a kid and I can't offer a hand of relationship to you and you offer me friendship. Eventually one of us is going to be at the loosing end.

If all i wanted from her was friendship at first we can relate together without friction. But i know what i want and she just isn't ready to give me what i want, and a time will come she will meet another guy and just forget I existed. Its best i respect my self and avoid been friendzoned.

To cut long story short she sent me a message and told me am not mature, that just because she can't give me what I want, i want to distance my self from her.

So I ask myself what exactly does she takes me for? A fool? She wants a guy that will dance to the beat of her drum. She wants a guy she can always fall on when she needs help, she wants a guy that will be her shoulder to cry on.

Right now am really pissed, cos I made a fool of myself for not fxuking her when i had the chance thinking i was in love, am so pissed for so many reasons.

Have been having impulse to reply her chat but i have decided to control my emotions. Please guys i need your advice, whats the best way to respond to this.


Note please i met her February this year, and till this moment she never told me her age, and she always stress it out that we are going to be the same age even when i outrightly asked her. She keeps evading the question.

I take her out, with the litttle change i have I always send her money on different occasions not much but atleast 10k. 15k. Etc.. Take her to the movies,in short i made sure i tried to always keep her happy even though only God makes a person happy

it after you do all these things then it get on u to dump her

u r just a needy and pussy niggqqq

I did not pressurize her for sex, infact i made her so comfortable that she has been to my place more than 20 times and we didn't have sex, i just freed her with the hopes we can have a healthy relationship

and the killer of all

u r an example of maga n mugun

Lmao........ You did well..

You started d relationship well but you got played somewhere along d line.....

Nigga i'mma be real with you, I respect the fact you didn't pressurize her for s#x that shows how much you got LOVE for her but she broke things up. That doesn't mean you distance yourself from her.. Y'all could work on your friendship while you move the relationship hustle on!! She needs help? Help her out and all that just do what friends are meant to do... If you really Love her, she breaking things up won't stop that friendship.

it's a gud tin u hv left her, she is frustrated bc d 15/10k u usually gv her wl no longer b coming, dere is no need replying her bak, ignore and block her chats. Money cn neva make any lady 2 luv u, it's d money she luvs, so it shall remain

OP I really appreciate the fact that you have sense. Women are the most selfish set of people you can ever come across and they always think they're smart. Personally I would have insisted on having sex with her because I no come Lagos to count bridge. She is only trying to keep you because she doesn't want to lose the occasional 10k, 15k that you send to her, which by the way is not small money.

Thankfully, you don't really need advice because your brain is in the right place. The fact is that if she does find someone she really likes (that also gives her money) she will dump your a.ss without thinking twice. Kick that b!tch to the curb and move on bro.

And if in desperation (because she doesn't want to lose you) she serves up her punna hot and spicy on a platter of gold, fvck her and dump her skanky a.ss again.

You've done the right thing, egbon.

Dude!!! you didn't fúck er?!!?
Holy fúcking shît!

This is an epistle, couldn't finish it so I don't know what to say.. Pele

You messed yourself up.

How can you be sending a girl you've only known for 3 months, 10/15k often? She probably only started getting used to it because you were willing to do it in the first place.

I dunno how many guys claim to fall for all girls at 1st sight. But even if it was ponyor you wanted out of the relationship, you should have started small and spent time probing the girl to know the kind of person she is.

But like most guys, you start with gunz blazing and start spending serious money on her head upandan, u turned yourself to client...one she isn't even willing to give her ponyor but want to collect money.

So be angry at yourself, but be happy that God has delivered you. Next time remember that girls are wicked money does not guarantee ponyor so there's no reason not to take your time and analyze the girl.