Papiikush:
You probably disrespected yourself to much to the extent your brother's wife will try such with you.

LuckyLadolce:
nope bro, you won't understand, even people who witnessed it blamed her. Before you say one thing, she has said 10. All we were doing is to make peace but she was prepared for fight yesterday. That is just it. There's nothing like disrespect here, we don't joke too much, no one collects money from her among us even though we all know she's making good cash these days. I have my own work. I work with a bank where I earn quite decent salary. I have helped them to pay the school fees of their first child on several occasions, I paid for her operations when she wanted to deliver her twins . We always support her, so I can't remember anytime we stoop so low to deserve what she did to us last night. Don't forget that once woman start having concubines, they have more guts.

Papiikush:


Sounds like you guys stay together. Am I right?

LuckyLadolce:
Hi guys,

An argument ensued yesterday between me, my immediately elder brother and our first son's wife. She took it very far by raining curses on me and my brother in the presence of our parents. She said they shall not reap the fruits of their labour on me. But that's not possible because their already reaping it.

The argument came as a result of her lackadaisical attitude towards her children such as abandoning them for the whole day, coming back in the late night leaving only those little kids of age 6, 3 in the house, having concubines which we have talked to her about several times to desist from but would never heed to our advice. Her husband is nothing to her anymore, on two different occasions, fetish stuffs have been found in her cupboard where my mother and brother's name were written on them. In fact, this woman once said, is it my brother one will have as husband and not have other lovers for support just because things were rough for my brother at that time. I personally has caught her with one of her numerous lovers before which I didn't tell my brother but sent her a text to desist from such act. All that have long gone and we have forgiven her.

So on Friday, she went out as usual and she never came back until pass 10pm leaving only those kids in the house. We called her, her line was switched off, I got angry and said those kids should not come to our place the next day because they usually stay with us in the day and go back home in the evening due to the proximity From their house to ours. She doesn't go to any office oo. She's only an hairdresser. But because her in-laws' place is closed by, she feels it's an opportunity for her to drop them with us and have more time for her waywardness lying that she's always busy in her shop.

We were advising her as usual that, her children are growing up already, this is the best time for her to drop all these attitudes and focus on her children. Because she does not like the truth, she flare up and turned it into serious fight by hitting my immediate elder brother first because that one told her the bitter truth by saying "stop having concubines don't kill our brother!" Hitting him continuously and tore his clothes, my brother went inside to put on another cloth, she tore it. If not because of me and our tenant holding my brother, he almost beat her up. Before then, while we were advising her with calm voice and utmost respect because she's our brother's wife, she was already easing her voice.

Even people who witnessed the incident blamed her. Before you say one thing, she has said 10. All we were doing is to make peace but she was prepared for fight yesterday. That is just it. There's nothing like disrespect here, we don't joke too much, no one collects money from her among us even though we all know she's making good cash these days. I have my own work. I work with a bank where I earn quite decent salary. I have helped them to pay the school fees of their first child on several occasions, I paid for her operations when she wanted to deliver her twins . We always support her, so I can't remember anytime we stoop so low to deserve what she did to us last night. Don't forget that once woman start having concubines, they have more guts.

If you were in my brother's shoe , what would you have done if your brother's wife raise her hand on you?

This question also goes to the lady.

Please I need your candid opinion.

Thank you all.

DanseMacabre:
She no go recognise the hand as her own again.


And OP, male concubines

LuckyLadolce:
nope, we don't, their house is just closed by. And as you know, grandparents likes it when they have their grandchildren around. So parents WA dog the opinion that since they stay close by, the kids should be coming to us in order for her to have more time to attend to customers but she's abusing it. She sees as an opportunity for her to enjoy her wayward life.

LuckyLadolce:
sorry brother, that was an error. I couldn't just phantom what happened yesterday.

EfemenaXY:


@op you sound like a confused trouble maker from an interfering family.

What do you mean by ...an argument ensued between me, my elder brother, and our first son’s wife?

You must be an elderly person then with no self respect descending to argue with your daughter-in-law.

You also mention that she has concubines. What does that even mean? Or her hairdressing customers are her concubines?

A lady hustling to keep her family afloat and all you can is sow seeds of discord in the union which incidentally is non of your business. Do you even have a job of your own?

You deserved that slap. And more.

Papiikush:


lol. Now I see where the disrespect came in.

You guys are involved with her marriage and she doesn't want that.

LuckyLadolce:
well, you're entitled to your opinion. After all, I asked for it. Hustling kwa? My brother is not so rich but he is responsible for all his children's up keep to the best of his capacity so don't even bring that one that she's hustling to keep her family afloat. Which family afloat? We are not interfering family, we won't just open our eyes and allow one woman to destroy our brother. Read in between the lines carefully. No one is fighting with her over her waywardness. We are simply saying don't put the lives of the innocent kids at risk. Come home on time and stay with your kids. What kind of hairdressing work are you doing from 8am to 10pm. Even the shop, she's not always there. I don't have a job? Well, thank you. But if you're as jobless as I am, you will give testimony in the church/mosque.

EfemenaXY:


So why can’t your brother stay at home in the evenings to look after HIS kids while she’s at work?? Or if that’s such an abomination, get a nanny?? Or are you against her working??

Re: the bolded - what does that mean? Your brother can’t think for himself? How is his marriage any of your business??

LuckyLadolce:
I work in a corporate environment where you work your ass out late in the office . But the married ladies with kids tidy their tables on time to leave for their various home in order to cater for the kids. If a banker can be in a hurry to cater for her kids, who's an hairdresser. An hairdresser with a more flexible work life. Who can decide when to open and when to close on her own. My brother is an assistant manager in small company, so he doesn't much time as such. More reason why my parents allow them to drop the kids in the morning and pick them in the evening around 8pm. We know of hairdressers who are always busy from morning till evening, but closes before nine for the sake of their kids. If you can't cater for your kids as a woman, then who are you really working for ?

You asked if their marriage is my business, yes it is depending on circumstances. In this type of circumstance, it is my business. Thank you.

EfemenaXY:


No, it is NOT your business.

HIS life. HIS marriage. HIS business.

LuckyLadolce:
Yes IT IS, it is called family bond and love! If you have brother who's having trouble in his marriage, I advise you not to ignore and say it is not your business. If you do, it means there's no bond and love between you guys. Thanks.

EfemenaXY:


Is homewrecking an act of love?

Is that how you bond with your family by sowing discord between husband and wife? Only witches and wizards do such.

LuckyLadolce:
I'm sorry, with what I can deduce from your write ups, you simply can't be a good judge because your ability to comprehend simple explanation is at its lowest. It's very possible for you to give your opinion or criticism without being abusive or throwing any insult. That one seeks for opinion doesn't reduce the person to an object of ridicule and unwarranted insults. People with good sense of judgement won't take side, they will simply advice and wish the opinion seeker the best. In your mind, you're an activist. Yeye dey smell.

EfemenaXY:


Pls don’t get sentimental on me. I can’t handle emotional men.

Re: your comments - my responses have got nothing to do with insults but telling it like it is.

Maybe YOU should take your own advice by dropping your opinion to your brother and MOVING ON.

Your interference is wrecking your brother’s union. The wife has resorted to physical blows and name shaming. And yet you see nothing wrong with your meddling??

LuckyLadolce:
Lol you keep repeating interference, now I can confirm you're a girl. So your submission on this issue would most likely be biased because you don't want to see any reason to read and comprehend my own part of explanation. If telling someone not to expose little kids to risk due to carelessness is what you understand by interference, then I may soon give up on you. We are only after the safety of the children, on a good day, what they both do with their lives is none of our business but circumstances may warrant we interfere to make peace and that was what we were trying to do... But, the kids? They're innocent and they are our own, nothing must touch them. So get that right! Me emotional? Tell me you just cracked a joke with that.

Witches:
@LuckyLadolce

I have an Idea what is going on, The best is to give there family space , Face ur own wife family and relax . maybe after a year,you might be close to them again.

Witches:


@EfemenaXY Would you like to become a member of ours ?

EfemenaXY:


Don’t you dare water down your response because you think I’m female!! How sexist!

Re: the kids - you did say the in laws live close by and your parents are happy to look after them. So what’s the danger in that?

Re: the bolded, yes na.