Jupxter:



Tosin, i want to tell you a few things. One, a man may likely fall in love with a woman that has one " trait " a man hates, it's a testing oh. It's a test of character, to choose to walk away, or to endure and work on her, but it takes two to tango, most times people are not aware of their own conditions, and treating their issues would require some will power and commitment from them, what do you do if they don't agree? Can two work together if they don't agree?


While i advocate run from a woman with red flags, i also encourage patience, people are in phases many times, and character can be fixed. If a lady knows her weaknesses and admits them, don't throw such a lady away, a lady that refuses to acknowledge them is stuck in [b] " na so God do me, run from such"

tosyne2much:
Nice one bro

tosyne2much:
Nobody wise finish now.. I'm already thinking if "10 Things" can come out of this little discussion

MichaelBlake40:

U get masters degree for dat one na
Prof.Tosyne2much PhD
Professor of '10 things'

Jupxter:


So a lady with character issue will end up a divorced woman, there's no escaping it. Youth and adolescence is long enough to fix issues, there's no excuse for excessive baggage

ultimate77:

i hate to hear that word "divorce" like I hate chelsea

Jupxter:



Divorce is the new norm bro, deal with it

ultimate77:

I actually mean I have to make sure I go for the real mine so divorce doesn't come in.

Jupxter:



May God grant you the grace and the wisdom.

LordKO:
@OP

Although I don't hold brief for the said girl, but I must tell you that you're obviously the major cause of the problem in the relationship. You're simply conceited as the connotations of your submission suggested. Work on yourself.

Dimples129:


I got that sense from his write up... The way he talks down his nose like he's better than her. So full of himself, typical Arsenal fan

LordKO:


The connotations of his OP says it all. However, I don't follow you jibe arsenal fans -
the club is champions league designate-winner come 2019.

ultimate77:

Thanks bro

Dimples129:
Typical man! If I'm not mistaken, in your prospects for a woman, you mentioned Outspoken and not a slutt. She is outspoken and NOW you want her to be submissive! Then men say women don't know what they want. Op explain this

Dimples129:


I got that sense from his write up... The way he talks down his nose like he's better than her. So full of himself, typical Arsenal fan

linearity:


It is very difficult though, doing all that you are still stringing along as if all is good, whereas you know that is not the truth.

Alternatively, skipping her birthday altogether, will give her a clue that, all is not good between you guys, and it will provide her with a cushion for the break-off, since she would already have braced herself for 'anything'. And skipping her birthday will also prompt her to confront you on what the issue is and both of can T-off the conversation.

To some extend, it appear that you want to honor the birthday in order to return a favor or pay her nicely due to what she did towards you during your birthday....in that case, why not go the whole length; use the opportunity of the birthday to discuss the issues and give her a second chance. You truly do not have anything to loose by giving her a second chance. If she is not for you, she will still 'mess up' and you can initiate the break-off, but you never know, you said you love her, and there are chances she might change after stirring a potential break-off right in the face, either way, it is a win-win-win......1st win for honoring her birthday and freeing yourself from the guilty; second win for getting your breakdown the road, if the second chance did not work out and the last win for getting the love of your life back if the second chance worked out.

arki:


I disagree with this. my advice is, mark her birthday for her since u said she celebrated u during yours, after which u can start whatever u plan doing. The evidence is already before ur eyes, any girl that cannot leave her fone
freely for her guy to use is a cheat. The girl doesn't love u, and obviously not a marriage material. it will be best for u to quit now that u can than regret after u must have wifed her,marriage no be boyfriend and girlfriend thing o and don't be to desperate to marry, take ur time and search with ur eyes wide open and head down and never give ur heart too quickly to love someone or else u might neglect that vital ingredient a wife is supposed to posses.

kenex4ever:
celebrate her birthday

Reconcile with her

Tell her you reconciled because of her birthday

Talk with her about what u don't like

If it happens again you can dump her ass

Xtargold:
See her birthday as an opportunity to trash out issues with her. Coincidentally I share same birthday with her,23rd Nov which is tomorrow,I just hope boo calls so we sort out our issues too.

ultimate77:

Hello gold....
I want to specially celebrate you on this day of your birth. It is another beginning for you....
I wish you a very beautiful life and greater achievements ahead. I celebrate � you bae. Happy birthday �

ultimate77:

Hahaha hah.... U guys are great.
You know, I always site this illustration to this baby. "a prophet is not recognized in his home"...
While in the University from 100 to final year, I was a councillor in the University Chapel. I councelled so many lady's especially even married men, families, about relationship, academic et al...
I did so very well even at 17. Till 20 when I graduated, I was awarded the best.
I served as senator representing economics department in sug.
And with all this exposure, everything about relationship I talk to this girl about sounds like gong on her ears.
I thought another person should help but it's not working.
I'm just praying tomorrow comes and goes well.

A friend said I shouldn't discus the issue with her tomorrow which is her day. What do yell think.

Xtargold:


OMG!.....This is the best thing I've seen since today,I sincerely appreciate. Thanks a lot sir.

ultimate77:

You are welcome.... You dint ask me how it went today.

Xtargold:

Sorry i was going to ask....how did it go?

ultimate77:

I see sense in your response.... She told me ones that non of her ex treats her the way I do.
Like non of them. Gives her advice, non even asks if she prays, non ever cookd, all they do is take her out, and don't care about other parts of her life.
And I do all that. But still wonder why she can't just let pride and hauty responds off.

tunize:

Most times shall guuz really they dey carried away wit all this talk.trust me she go tell anoda guy dsame tin talk it tru her if she nir listen move on.