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Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 5:08pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
DonDemu: Don't Expect Me To Type A Long Story |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 5:15pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Rilwantalarape: Thank You Bro For Your Advice. When I Spoke With Him, He Ran Back To Abuja To Continue His Pursuit Of His Certificate And Cash Prize, Which We All Advised Him To Forget And Start A New Life |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Coldfeets: 5:16pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
What kind of badly told story is this? 1 Like |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 5:16pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Awoofawo: His Enemies Are Very Close. he Ran Back 2 Continue His Search - Certificate And Cash Prize. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 5:19pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Prognose: Bro, I'm Really Sorry If You Misunderstood The Post. He Ran Back To Continue His Search For His Award And Cash Prize. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by stonecoldcafe: 5:19pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Rozaytee: It is well 1 Like |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Prognose: 5:26pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba:Ah, really I'm speechless |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Aristotle96(m): 5:30pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
miqos03:but you didn't read the part where the man ran away |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by urchpath(m): 5:35pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
What if he needs some psycgiatric evaluation He could be having PTSD - Post traumatic stress Disorder or Paranoid delusion. If yes, then he is definitely not acting within the right frame of his mind. Next time u meet him. Take him for a psychiatric consultation. My 2 cents 1 Like |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 5:40pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
urchpath: Thanks Bro |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by adecz: 5:46pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
This your story is too disjointed to be understood by any rational person, I hope you are not on gbana or any other mind altering substances.. Only ppl on substances can offer any advice based on this narrative... 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Funkybabee(f): 5:47pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
First go and meet him nah....you are a man not kid...meet him to know his state of mind |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by tiwiex(m): 6:03pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
soberdrunk:Exactly. Somehow, I figured he found his dad but jumped straight to Rivers and back to Abuja. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by bastien: 6:03pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba:that says it all, he is still scared of the place, I pray God touch his heart to see things differently |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by hybee53(m): 6:13pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
have a classmate with this exact type of story, but her father died not coming back. when they got to her father house to pack his properties,only books and lantern was the only property they can pack. she later graduated with a first class. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Rilwantalarape(m): 6:17pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba: Who Certificate help in this modern World. Advice him to just forget whatever cash price or whatever, it's never too late to start afresh and being broke or poor is just the mind, he's got the necessary knowledge and I'm pretty sure he can start from somewhere, those who wallow in the past never get things done, cos I'm even pretty sure the cash prize no fit reach $50k which is less than N20m "so why keep chasing air".. I'll also advice you to move on too bro, you're still in your twenties and this is when to really hustle for the future and not chasing an "imaginary" dad now, just make money and give him happiness after... 1 Like |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nnamdiojukwu: 6:17pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
You never meet your father for the past 24yrs,your mother told you that he wrote to the former President Jonathan and was invited yo ABUJA,and was assigned gvt official but nothing happened. Yet,you claimed that your mother do not know where he lives that you have to searched yourself. How did your mom able to know about his meeting with gej? How long gej left office? .And what role does omehia have to play in this matter? When did your father finished his programs, I mean what year? Do you mean to said your father's problem is 24yrs? 2 Likes |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 6:22pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba:ogbeni iffam u berra row ur own boat jor no time 1 Like |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Awoofawo(m): 6:24pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba: At the bold, seems you already formed opinion about your father's character, without you even getting close enough to real known him...... Just have this in mind: "The Devil may want to uses you as a cane to flog him, but when he finish doing so, same cane will be uses on you." We Yoruba said: Abo oro laso fun Omoluabi, bo ba de inu e adi pupo ( We only use few words to advice an intelligent child, because we know, when he assimilate them, they become fountain of wisdom in him). At 24 years you still young to get involve in something too complicate like, especially when you don't have all the details of what happened in the past..... Just tread carefully so as not to be sweep away with the tidal wave your action may trigger! |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Richy4(m): 6:49pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
OP, I guess U didn't attend literature in English class while in college... while trying to avoid giving out too much information, U left so many vital information that would have helped your case... Making the readers more confused... Besides, U can't uproot some one from his comfort zone and deposit him in a place where he is scared for his life ..it's only NYSC officials that does that.. 2 Likes |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by MISSOPTIMIST(f): 6:49pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba: [/quote] What a story bro. So sorry but I believe you need to put yourself in your dad's shoes. Who wants him dead? What did he do or refuse to do? Are his fears valid? Have you confirmed this from his family and friends? Is it a case of village arrow or hallucination brought on by a medical condition? If his fears are valid, then allow him be in his spot at Abuja. I mean, if someone wants a man dead and he strongly believes this, taking him to that spot or state is worsening things. Go and visit your dad in Abuja once in a while. Let the man be at peace and you too learn to give yourself peace. If he didn't take care of you since and you are standing tall then trust me, you'll be fine. Don't worry about what he didn't do these past years. You are lucky you even found your dad. Some die without knowing a thing. Give yourself rest I say again. God bless you bro I strongly recommend the above advice and the likes judging by the little bit of information in your story.. Life is what we make it.. when it gives you lemon, go on and make lemonade with it.. your dad is a grown man.. there must have been reasons for his actions. Go to Abuja, develop a good relationship with him, find out what actually happened, or what is currently happening... Help him however you can, if you can.. but whatever happens, give yourself peace.. you are a man now.. so it's your turn to live... live your life my friend.. 24years is good enough.. God has preserved you.. you can be everything you want to be.. More courage bro.. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Ishilove: 7:08pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
If I tell you I understand this story I will be lying. 3 Likes |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by dnawah(m): 7:50pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba:my brother blood is thicker than water.take this mater to the church,may be tb Joshua.they do am that tin for village. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by seanery: 7:59pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
You be Werey...., must everytin be prayer kingzjay: |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Okinqz01(m): 8:04pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba:try to know his problem before having meetings with family members or ex Governor, something is hidden |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Nobody: 8:23pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
dnawah: That Is What Everybody Is Saying. The Man No Dey Behave With Him Clear Eye. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by KevMitnick: 8:35pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Akin1212:Exactly my thoughts. Op should go and hear his father's own side of the story in a very safe and calm atmosphere. People avoid areas where they have experienced trauma. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by aalangel(f): 9:47pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba: Your story is incoherent. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by madgoat(m): 10:01pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
How can the father be so obsessed with getting the cash prize and award after so many years. This story doesn't add up at all and the OP cannot get any reasonable advice except he retells the story the way it actually is and be more explicit. Also i hope its not that the father has a mental breakdown or something because excessive obsession is a psychological disorder. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Abagworo(m): 10:48pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba: Your Dad is suffering from a trauma which is very difficult to handle. He might be a genius and geniuses do have some element of mental deprivation that makes their IQ way higher than average human. Whatever you do just bare in mind that your Dad needs counseling from experts who can make him realize that his money is gone and save him from further qualms |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by Xisnin(m): 10:50pm On Nov 25, 2017 |
Metrobaba: You still don't get it, you can't force a full-grown man to do your bidding. He has chosen his path and he has his life to live which he obviously prefer. He is not some kind of prodigal son that needs to be brought back home. You will realise this later, even if you are able to force him to stay. The only way your struggle will make sense is if you are certain that he has mental issues and he is not himself, in that case, the humane thing to do is to offer him help. I expect those pressuring you to lead the way because he should be the one seeking to be in your good books and not the other way around. |
Re: I Found My Father After 24 Years, But... by sisisioge: 5:42am On Nov 26, 2017 |
Hmmm...I think you should leave him alone. Let him be. May God continue to care for you and yours. It is well. |
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