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19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Adieza(m): 10:52am On Dec 01, 2017
The Manipulative Tactics Used By Nigerian Pastors

Pastor Adeboye use some of these tactics in the classic $1 billion Video. These 19 psychologically damaging, manipulative traits are used daily in the churches to suppress people and collect money. Pastor Adeboye and Chris Oyakhilome are experts at this.

1. Guilt trip:
A special kind of intimidation tactic. A manipulator suggests to the conscientious victim that they do not care enough, are too selfish or have it easy. This usually results in the victim feeling bad, keeping them in a self-doubting, anxious and submissive position. Pastor Adeboye telling his people not to shame him before God. Meaning, if they don’t give him the money they will be shaming him before God. Who would like to put Daddy Adeboye to shame before God? Nobody.

2.Lying by omission:
This is a very subtle form of lying by withholding a significant amount of the truth. This technique is also used in propaganda. – Pastor Adeboye and Chris Oyakhilome use this technique a lot. For example, Pastor Adeboye said God built the first auditorium, but now he wants the people to build the next one. But he forgot to tell the people that God doesn’t have a currency printing press or a bit coin miner.

3.Bandwagon effect:
Manipulator comforts the victim into submission by claiming (whether true or false) that many people already have done something, and the victim should as well. These include phrases such as "Many people like you ..." or "Everyone does this anyways." Such manipulation can be seen in peer pressure situations, often occurring in scenarios where the manipulator attempts to influence the victim into trying drugs or other substances. In Pastor Adeboye’s case, if the top ten come forward with N1 billion each and the top 100 come forward with 100 million each then who are you not to come forward.

4.Denial:
Manipulator refuses to admit that they have done something wrong. Basically, these pastors and all those following them refused to admit wrongdoing because in Nigeria everything goes. But they forgot Jesus is not a Nigerian.

5.Rationalization:
An excuse made by the manipulator for inappropriate behaviour. Rationalization is closely related to spin. Like someone told me, what is one billion naira? That is a chicken change where Pastor Adoboye is. Yet another gentleman said, someone built a church for N billion and donated it to a church. Even the video is an old video of 4 years ago.

6.Minimization:
This is a type of denial coupled with rationalization. The manipulator asserts that their behaviour is not as harmful or irresponsible as someone else was suggesting, for example, saying that a taunt or insult was only a joke.

While Pastor Adeboye and the other Mega churches are collecting trillions from people, they are putting 10% of that money back to the community and people are hailing them. Meanwhile, they are collecting 90% into their private pocket. In the bible law on tithing they often refers to, it was the other way around. They also forgot to mention that tithe was never money but food items.

7.Selective inattention or selective attention:
Manipulator refuses to pay attention to anything that may distract from their agenda, saying things like "I don't want to hear it". These Pastors don’t like to tackle social issues, don’t get involved with problems of even their followers. They say they are not charity.

8.Diversion:
Manipulator not giving a straight answer to a straight question and instead being diversionary, steering the conversation onto another topic.

9.Evasion:
Similar to diversion but giving irrelevant, rambling, vague responses, weasel words.

10.Covert intimidation:
Manipulator throwing the victim onto the defensive by using veiled (subtle, indirect or implied) threats.

11.Shaming:
Manipulator uses sarcasm and put-downs to increase fear and self-doubt in the victim. Manipulators use this tactic to make others feel unworthy and therefore defer to them. Shaming tactics can be very subtle such as a fierce look or glance, unpleasant tone of voice, rhetorical comments, subtle sarcasm. Manipulators can make one feel ashamed for even daring to challenge them. It is an effective way to foster a sense of inadequacy in the victim. Pastors Adeboye, inviting top 10 people who can bring a billion to come to his office. Differentiating them from those that can only afford N100,000,000. Basically, he was using coercion and telling the rest they are not worthy to see him.

12.Vilifying the victim:
More than any other, this tactic is a powerful means of putting the victim on the defensive while simultaneously masking the aggressive intent of the manipulator, while the i7 falsely accuses the victim as being an abuser in response when the victim stands up for or defends themselves or their position. It is Aroms and Sunday Adelaja that are the antichrist for pointing this out.

13.Playing the victim role:
Manipulators portrays themselves as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behaviour in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation. – They will tell you that People like Aroms and Sunday Adelaja are trying to destroy the church. So, you must feel sorry for the pastors and the church and defend the Lord, as if the Lord cannot defend himself. They forgot the Lord said vengeance is mine.

14.Playing the servant role:
Cloaking a self-serving agenda in guise of a service to a more noble cause, for example saying they are acting in a certain way to be "obedient" to or in "service" to an authority figure like GOD.

15.Seduction: Manipulator uses charm, praise, flattery or overtly supporting others to get them to lower their defences and give their trust and loyalty to the manipulator. They will also offer help with the intent to gain trust and access to an unsuspecting victim they have charmed. Telling people, they will be blessed by God if they just do certain things first for the Lord. People always must do something first for the lords. Their lord is so self-centred that he never does anything first for a child until you beg and beg, cry and fast.

16.Projecting the blame (blaming others):
Manipulator scapegoats in often subtle, hard-to-detect ways. Often, the manipulator will project their own thinking onto the victim, making the victim look like they have done something wrong. Manipulators will also claim that the victim is the one who is at fault for believing lies that they were conned into believing, as if the victim forced the manipulator to be deceitful. All blame, except for the part that is used by the manipulator to accept false guilt, is done to make the victim feel guilty about making healthy choices, correct thinking and good behaviours.

It is frequently used as a means of psychological and emotional manipulation and control. Manipulators lie about lying, only to re-manipulate the original, less believable story into a "more acceptable" truth that the victim will believe. Projecting lies as being the truth is another common method of control and manipulation. Manipulators love to falsely accuse the victim as "deserving to be treated that way." They often claim that the victim is crazy and/or abusive, especially when there is evidence against the manipulator.

17.Feigning innocence:
Manipulator tries to suggest that any harm done was unintentional or that they did not do something that they were accused of. Manipulator may put on a look of surprise or indignation. This tactic makes the victim question their own judgment and possibly their own sanity.

18.Feigning confusion:
Manipulator tries to play dumb by pretending they do not know what the victim is talking about or is confused about an important issue brought to their attention. The manipulator intentionally confuses the victim for the victim to doubt their own accuracy of perception, often pointing out key elements that the manipulator intentionally included in case there is room for doubt. Sometimes manipulators will have used cohorts in advance to help back up their story.

19.Brandishing anger:
Manipulator uses anger to brandish sufficient emotional intensity and rage to shock the victim into submission. The manipulator is not actually angry, they just put on an act. They just want what they want and get "angry" when denied. Controlled anger is often used as a manipulation tactic to avoid confrontation, avoid telling the truth or to further hide intent. They will say God will destroy those challenging the man of god. Fire and thunder will come from heaven and destroy Aroms and Sunday Adelaja. Etc.

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by TRAPP(m): 10:54am On Dec 01, 2017
Everybody is for God to judge, this pastors though.

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Adieza(m): 11:09am On Dec 01, 2017
cc:lalasticlala and mynd44
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by lambsbread: 11:18am On Dec 01, 2017
Nice thread

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by MrHistorian: 9:40pm On Jan 26, 2018
Why the generalization!?
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Nobody: 9:40pm On Jan 26, 2018
And you just have to select the pastors to castigate: Adegboye and Oyakhilome smh, are they the only one collecting tithe and other donations, let God judge these pastors, no one forces anybody, give willingly and with a sincere heart,, not to please men but God.

Live and let live abeg

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Pubichairs(m): 9:40pm On Jan 26, 2018
cheesy if these Men I'm seeing their pix here curse u eh...I reserve my comment, keep trolling and judging them

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Nobody: 9:41pm On Jan 26, 2018
What more do you expect after they have read books like

1. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

2. 44 laws of Power by Robert Greene

3. How to win friends and Influence people by Dale Carneegie

4. The Power of persuasion by Robert Levine

5. Some other small small inspirational, motivational books plus Holy Bible


Remember a man of God telling me to pay him 20k for deliverance. I just laughed and sent him this message.

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by dotcomnamename: 9:41pm On Jan 26, 2018
Lol
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by themonk(m): 9:41pm On Jan 26, 2018
grin

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Nobody: 9:41pm On Jan 26, 2018
grin.......And sex collection too grin grin grin

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Snow02: 9:41pm On Jan 26, 2018
undecided TBH I'm sick of all these bashing of pastors everywhere let people believe in whatever the fvck they want ah don't see y'all making these threads about Islam and besides we have more pressing issues like the terrorist we call President

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by AngelicBeing: 9:41pm On Jan 26, 2018
tongue
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by sirugos(m): 9:42pm On Jan 26, 2018
Remove TB joshua from that your pics pls. He is not among them pls

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by OmoOshodi(m): 9:43pm On Jan 26, 2018
Pastors be like ..... Oya bring your first fruit if you want to be free from poverty

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by DaddyKross: 9:43pm On Jan 26, 2018
Is it your money ?

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by samzzycash(m): 9:43pm On Jan 26, 2018
Pastors be like pay your tithe so you can escape hell fire..

Member:pastor i have a very big problem, i Do not have a job and i have been suffering for many years i eat once in two days
I need help sir

Pastor:Pay your tithe and you will become richer than me..

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by michaelwilli(m): 9:44pm On Jan 26, 2018
grin
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by oluxy(m): 9:44pm On Jan 26, 2018
U wouldnt hv mentioned names. Having mentioned names seems to me u hate those pastors. Write on a pure note n let me re5ason with u.

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by opalu: 9:45pm On Jan 26, 2018
Useless thread

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Spuggie: 9:45pm On Jan 26, 2018
They sheeples will not agree. Infact, OP, they are coming for you

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by GavelSlam: 9:45pm On Jan 26, 2018
Is it your money?

So said investors in MMM.

grin

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by ejihand(m): 9:46pm On Jan 26, 2018
I learnt something
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Tflex01: 9:46pm On Jan 26, 2018
war against Christianity continues.......




pathetic! cool

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by datola: 9:46pm On Jan 26, 2018
Ok
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by lobinche101(m): 9:47pm On Jan 26, 2018
Observing from the high places
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by HeyCorleone(m): 9:49pm On Jan 26, 2018
I don't trust none of these men.

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Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Jamiubond009(m): 9:49pm On Jan 26, 2018
K
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Johnsaxe: 9:50pm On Jan 26, 2018
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by AsiwajuAdedapo(m): 9:50pm On Jan 26, 2018
Hmmmm
Re: 19 Manipulative Tactics Nigerian Pastors Use To Collect Money By Aroms Aigbehi by Boyooosa(m): 9:51pm On Jan 26, 2018
He would have summarised everything to 7 points instead of lengthy note, my observation anyway.

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