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Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by wtfcoded: 10:54am On Dec 28, 2017 |
BeansAndBread:before the colonial masters, in Igbo culture, a married woman change hers to the husbands name. So fvck u n ur islam. 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Koolface4u: 10:55am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Berlyn1:u r too beautiful to be ignore |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 10:56am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Bahddo:Maybe for you but not me I am a human being and I have human rights and I am nobody's property. 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by LegitBoy(m): 10:56am On Dec 28, 2017 |
BeansAndBread:Ironically Islam is not foreign to us too? If you want to go against "imposition" of foreign values then you give us the position in your native land. Don't you have native customs before the coming of islam to Nigeria? 2 Likes |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by illicit(m): 10:58am On Dec 28, 2017 |
BeansAndBread:This your argument is so stupid. So as an african if I have to reject anything western, Islamic culture or whatever is the only alternative. What happens to the African way of life itself.... 2 Likes |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Mcnnamdi: 10:59am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Ask those women who wants to keep their fathers name what surname their mother bears. Hipocrisy is feminism.! 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Daeylar(f): 11:02am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Na their way. Who are they even giving anything? We are not asking unfortunately, we are telling them. It's a choice, whether they like it or not. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by LegitBoy(m): 11:03am On Dec 28, 2017 |
ivolt:Mr. Man please cut us the slack, how can you bring religion into this? Who told you adoption of a husband's name upon marriage is a foreign innovation in Africa? You're the one placing the foreign ideas too high. In Yorubaland from time immemorial, it has been the cusom that upon marriage a woman drops her father's name for her husband's. Stop saying what you don't know, the fact that there was no formal documentation before the colonialists came doesn't mean we dont have it. I wouldnt if you hold that we dont eat before the white men came. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by LegitBoy(m): 11:03am On Dec 28, 2017 |
ivolt:Mr. Man please cut us the slack, how can you bring religion into this? Who told you adoption of a husband's name upon marriage is a foreign innovation in Africa? You're the one placing the foreign ideas too high. In Yorubaland from time immemorial, it has been the cusom that upon marriage a woman drops her father's name for her husband's. Stop saying what you don't know, the fact that there was no formal documentation before the colonialists came doesn't mean we dont have it. I wouldnt be surprise if you hold that we dont eat before the white men came. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:05am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Daeylar:That is the simple truth.Our lives our business,it is part of fundamental human rights. 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by LegitBoy(m): 11:07am On Dec 28, 2017 |
illicit:Leave him, as if Islam was invented by his fore fathers....just a case of a slave switching allegiance from Master A to Master B 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by DONADAMS(m): 11:07am On Dec 28, 2017 |
FrenchWay:lmao ...see mad man 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by fedorahat: 11:15am On Dec 28, 2017 |
paulbets: That is because the objective of marriage as it is meant to be, has been defeated. Marriage was meant to be the union of a male and female coming together to become one, and become a creator. You become bonded in flesh and in spirit. You become one spirit in two vessels. What we have this days is civil union, because marriage is far deeper than what is going on this days. 2 Likes |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by cstr1001: 11:16am On Dec 28, 2017 |
But why the sudden campaign against it? How does it affect the woman or limit her? Some if not most of the most powerful women in the world bear their husbands name. You only need to peruse the forbes most powerful list to see. Most people don't even know Michelle Obama's maiden name till now. Obama has been her name even when Barrack was still unknown. Anyway, i won't tolerate such insubordination in my house and that is what matters. I don't care what hippie or new-age bullshitt other husbands do to look more modern which is more or less shallow. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by fedorahat: 11:16am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: I hope your people won't request for bride price. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by kokomilala(m): 11:22am On Dec 28, 2017 |
If you see any woman who doesn't want to drop her surname when she marries, there's deep seated ego, brewing pride,Both would combine to wreck her marriage in no time. What she's doing consciously is clinging to the past while trying to move foward. And nobody who wants to run the race of life succeeds looking back. Once two people come together to get married, the family they form is the most important, the families they left come second. But are feminist women are increasingly challenging the status quo of God that man heads a family. Small wonder divorce rates are spiralling out of control. 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Surrey2Bimshire: 11:24am On Dec 28, 2017 |
mylifeisagift: lol it's not African tradition for a woman to keep her husbands last name .. it's western culture lol |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:27am On Dec 28, 2017 |
fedorahat:Don't worry about it We don't sell our daughters infact in my family we foot half of the wedding expenses .So I can categorically tell you that it is just the blessings of my parents,registry marriage or church wedding if money dey.We won't kill you and you didn't purchase me,I married you you married me simple as ABC. 2 Likes |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:29am On Dec 28, 2017 |
kokomilala:It has nothing to do with feminism or religion it is just a fundamental human right.And in todays world your gender is not your determining factor.Which one is status quo it is always subject to change. 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by mofedamijo(m): 11:31am On Dec 28, 2017 |
carinmom:You re using ur fathers name now right.....ur kids will bear lets say segun mofedamijo,urs stella chukwe,u will have a hard time traveling out with those kids,ur name is different from theirs on the passport,secondly,ure recognised as mrs chukwu,ur kids a different name,its not flowing for the family sake,i believe ur mom used ur dads name,why d stress......its no biggie. 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Surrey2Bimshire: 11:32am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Mcnnamdi: None of the women in my family bears their husbands last name (both sides of my family ) 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by delishpot: 11:34am On Dec 28, 2017 |
BeansAndBread: That is not the point, after Zainab the daughter of who so ever gives birth, would her own children also bear Maryam the daughter of Zainab? Besides you do not need to Introduce religion to handle what rational thinking can handle. Islam is as evil as the colonial masters you . Islam is not free from political games too. @Post, of the women like it, what is your own there? |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by fedorahat: 11:35am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88: I said, I hope your people will not request bride price. Even if it is one naira. Bride price and dowry are symbolic. I hope they will not request bride price or they will reject it, if given. What you just wrote points towards funding of marriage and marriage list. This is different from marriage ceremony in our culture here. If he gives you a ring on your wedding day. You have been paid for. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:36am On Dec 28, 2017 |
cstr1001:It is not your house alone but her's as well so it is our house.And you can't force her if she says she wants to keep it it is her choice to make.The time those one's change their names it was then but now it is their choice even Ivanka trump though married still bears her maiden name.And a lot of famous women too. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:40am On Dec 28, 2017 |
fedorahat:I say they would not request it haba and he did not pay for me or purchase me.And if I give him a ring me don pay for am.It is happening in my family we won't accept brideprice the blessings are enough.Nobody purchased me simple as XYZ. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by mzfarayola: 11:40am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Write2018:already did |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Write2018: 11:44am On Dec 28, 2017 |
mzfarayola:Did you get my msg? |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by Bahddo(m): 11:50am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88:then don't let anyone pay or receive any bride price or whatever, for you. Else, you are being sold and bought, whether you like it or not. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by MeezPat(f): 11:52am On Dec 28, 2017 |
Doctorfitz:seriously who gives a Bleep me neither.....these over fed fools go just wake only to argue futility............. |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by eterisan(m): 11:58am On Dec 28, 2017 |
The idea of perfect womanhood is perfect independence.
Swami Vivekananda: 1 Like |
Re: Why So Many Women Still Take Their Husband’s Last Name by mzfarayola: 12:01pm On Dec 28, 2017 |
Write2018:yes I did. Thanks |
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