flyca:
Changing to my husband's name is not too feasible for me.
That will mean changing all the names in all my docs.
Thankfully, my oga understands that it has nothing to do with feminism or what not. Just feasibility.

FrenchWay:
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Me wey be guy sef... If Dangote or Otedola gimme him daughter; I go even change my surname to their own.
My name Haliru Dutsinma go turn to Haliru Otedola

Bestchisom:

what was ur transfer fee? .....cos i dnt see a reason why u will spend close to 1m to pay for bride price and she still bears d name of d seller....pls dnt quote me wrong....jst said my mind...

flyca:

Actually, 1M is chicken change to me. I have two international passports - with almost full pages, visa to over 40 countries. I have two degress outside Nigeria, many certifications from Europe and Asia. I also have two international awards. And I'm not looking for people like you that view a woman from the money prism. #justsaying

fedorahat:


That is because the objective of marriage as it is meant to be, has been defeated.
Marriage was meant to be the union of a male and female coming together to become one, and become a creator. You become bonded in flesh and in spirit.
You become one spirit in two vessels.

What we have this days is civil union, because marriage is far deeper than what is going on this days.

BeansAndBread:
I think this is caused because we've over adopted the Western Culture. I'll speak for Islam only; Islamically a woman bears her father's name even after marriage. So you'll find in many strict Islamic countries women despite after marriage still bear names like Zainab bint Mu'awiyah(Zainab daughter of Mu'awiyah).

So we need to do away with the Western Culture and adopt the Islamic one I know some people will pounce on me but that's the hard reality, we're still under the clutches of colonialism.

free2ryhme:
always the feminists card

these women sha !

they are quick to forget that men and women are not equal but unique in their own way and it is not about superiority.

yet they end up using their own father's name so who is a man, so who is fooling who ?

BeansAndBread:
I think this is caused because we've over adopted the Western Culture. I'll speak for Islam only; Islamically a woman bears her father's name even after marriage. So you'll find in many strict Islamic countries women despite after marriage still bear names like Zainab bint Mu'awiyah(Zainab daughter of Mu'awiyah).

So we need to do away with the Western Culture and adopt the Islamic one I know some people will pounce on me but that's the hard reality, we're still under the clutches of colonialism.

flyca:
Changing to my husband's name is not too feasible for me.
That will mean changing all the names in all my docs.
Thankfully, my oga understands that it has nothing to do with feminism or what not. Just feasibility.

DuBLINGreenb:
Carry your feminism to the Muslim and Arab world. All these women once you give them chance they want chances.
We say wear what you like they are now going naked,
We gave them assurance they must get atleast 30% in every sphere of life now they want everything some pity us and say 50/50,
We say you can keep your father's last name now they want to keep it and dump our names.
We gave them deaconess and some gave them bishop now they want female pope.

In the Arab world it was just yesterday women were allowed to start driving cars? You people should go there and free your sisters.

It should not be a rule that you should not bear your husbands last name but if you want to do it personally fine, na you and ur husband sabi but don't do as if it is punishment.
Surely if your name is already globally recognised your husband will understand with you this is not issue to campaign about.

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You are right we should do away with Western culture but culture itself is dynamic
. There was a time when Islam was an evolving culture. Then others like Western came and is influencing every other culture: dressing, music, politics, commerce etc.
We do not really need to look back but forward.
There is actually nothing we can do against the moving tide of cultural change.

Bestchisom:

welldone ma....can u gve me one of ur certificate or visa u r nt making use of again....#jst_asking

flyca:
Sorry dear, I'm using all of them

carinmom:
My family's name is equally important, I just can't imagine myself discarding it and adopting someone's name. What if the marriage did not work?

LegitBoy:
Mr. Man please cut us the slack, how can you bring religion into this? Who told you adoption of a husband's name upon marriage is a foreign innovation in Africa? You're the one placing the foreign ideas too high. In Yorubaland from time immemorial, it has been the cusom that upon marriage a woman drops her father's name for her husband's.
Stop saying what you don't know, the fact that there was no formal documentation before the colonialists came doesn't mean we dont have it.


I wouldnt if you hold that we dont eat before the white men came.

free2ryhme:


what does you own village custom dictates about wives maiden ?

when you find out let us know

ivolt:


My village dictates no such custom because it was never an issue
until we adopted the white man's culture.

Berlyn1:
I am Just here to read comments. ...ignore me

Bahddo:
then don't let anyone pay or receive any bride price or whatever, for you. Else, you are being sold and bought, whether you like it or not.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't worry about that I gave one poster a detailed explanation that brideprice is not accepted in my family so no problem no one is purchasing me.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't worry about that I gave one poster a detailed explanation that brideprice is not accepted in my family so no problem no one is purchasing me.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't worry about that I gave one poster a detailed explanation that brideprice is not accepted in my family so no problem no one is purchasing me.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't worry about that I gave one poster a detailed explanation that brideprice is not accepted in my family so no problem no one is purchasing me.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Everybody has a choice.As for me my surname stays the highest I can do is to add his if he wants it.But that surname that goes well with my name is going nowhere it stays even after marriage.

DJperdurabo:


Have you seen this movie "The Antichrist"?

Not the 2009 movie but the 1974 movie. Do watch it and you'd understand why I asked you to.

BeansAndBread:
I think this is caused because we've over adopted the Western Culture. I'll speak for Islam only; Islamically a woman bears her father's name even after marriage. So you'll find in many strict Islamic countries women despite after marriage still bear names like Zainab bint Mu'awiyah(Zainab daughter of Mu'awiyah).

So we need to do away with the Western Culture and adopt the Islamic one I know some people will pounce on me but that's the hard reality, we're still under the clutches of colonialism.

kokomilala:
@ladyhyppolyta88, you women are up in arms against God's established culture.

If a woman drops her father's name, that doesn't make her a slave neither does make her less human.

You women are going your own way, leading your life apart from God. The rate of women killing their husbands has increased exponentially in the last couple of years, because you're challenging a supposed unjust status quo.

Danrizzle:
I would like a situation where women can keep a parent's name even after marriage. The name changing tradition after marriage is sexist.

BeansAndBread:
My mum doesn't bear my dad's name

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't worry about that I gave one poster a detailed explanation that brideprice is not accepted in my family so no problem no one is purchasing me.