'family is family' so they said... Sometimes it is not always that way. In some families, when a member dies some secretly celebrate. This is common with extended family. No matter what, kids should be loved and regarded. The common mistake people make is taking kids for granted. No matter how large or small the family is, kids should be treated like humans. They will never forget what you did even when you thought they were kids. They may see you as loving, nice, caring or wicked and it grows with them. It all depends on you.