emorse:

I totally agree with jaidey. The OP said she's had her male friends for about 15 years. Her fiance is only feeling insecure which is quite normal. She only needs to reassure him and all will be well (if he's reasonable enough to understand).

pro01:

^^
lol. Nice response. Dem no dey hear word.

@ Post.

The concept of 'male friends' has always been very funny and rightly so (especially when you have a serious bf or husband). It's like saying that a goat can be friends with a yam, or a monkey with a banana. The one would ravenously devour the other at the first opportunity - whether it takes ten minutes or ten years is irrelevant, it is only waiting to happen.

The truth is that ALL so-called male friends (me inclusive) would slam-dunk their jimmies into the girl's honeypot at the slightest opportunity, forget all the 'just friends, just friend' bull.s**t. Besides there is no doubt that you may reveal stuff about your man or your relationship issues to the so-called close male friends; believe me they may take advantage of that info and slyly hint that you deserve more - all in the attempt to seduce you in the most subtle way. Before you know it you'd gradually 'notice' that your friend is more generous, more attentive/caring, and has a bigger 'bulge' than your boyfriend who has "been annoying of late". Next thing one thing leads to another and your hapless boyfriend is cuckolded. In any case, what would a girl be discussing about with a 'male friend' behind closed doors sef? About Mutallab? Or the earthquake in Haiti? Don't make me laugh abeg.

Whatever happened to friends of your own gender? It's funny when I see some deluded boyfriends acting 'secure' about the fact that their babes keep 'close' male friends. I've been in the latter category a few times and I did the silly boyfriends no favours at all (if you catch the drift).

Any girl who wants to quit singlehood must put its ways behind and tell herself the common-sensical truth. Fooling around with 'male friends' (like me) would most definitely cause your boyfriend/husband grief. . .that is if he ever finds out the real deal. And when he boots you out I definitely won't replace him in your life (I like the milk free, thanks. Why maintain the whole cow?).

AntKenny:

I understand where all of you are coming from especially @pro01.

Im not trying to be unreasonable or stubborn.

, my boyfriend is naturally possessive and I dont mind that because as far as im concerned no guy could compete with him.

But I think he is really feeling insecure, for no good reason. Most of my male friends are either engaged or in long lasting relationships.

I going to talk to him and see how that goes.

pro01:

Any girl who wants to quit singlehood must put its ways behind and tell herself the common-sensical truth. Fooling around with 'male friends' (like me) would most definitely cause your boyfriend/husband grief. . .that is if he ever finds out the real deal. And when he boots you out I definitely won't replace him in your life (I like the milk free, thanks. Why maintain the whole cow?).

AntKenny:

I have been dating this guy for a year and a half now and I think this has a future.

I have alot of male close friends that I've have know for over 15yrs, now my boyfriend is insisting that I cut them off purely because the are male. Is that a good enough reason??

Its not fair, who do i choose? What if I cut my friends off, and tomorrow the guy breaks up with me,

Why do guys have to behave like this?



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bleh if he wants that, he's not sure of you or himself Cheesy

Nothing he says will make me lose my male friends jare. He has to manage Grin
He should be more worried about Johnny and Eric

sexdoctor:

@@@ lice
what if you are on the opp side of the game,

most ladies tend not to jealous but they her once that get their heart pierce the most

love to know my lady friends and lay down my principle. period

Seriously. . .its iice. . .you know i i c e And here i thought i was losing my sight to old age

Your question doesn't make sense But i'll give it a shot

They hurt the most once they get their heart pierced? Erhhh i thought that was a human thing to do.  Or are women an alien specie we weren't taught about in school?

As for being on the opposite end. . .lol it's no biggie coz he does have a lot of female friends.  I give him props for being able to put up with half of them. Nonsensical issues and all that

InesQor:

For your own good, don't cut them off.

Rather, make it obvious to your guy that he's much more valuable to you, and keep everything transparent.

After all, 15-year-Long-term friends can be a threat to your relationship, too; as well as they can be very reliable guides into the male psyche.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
its called INSECURITY and lack of TRUST!
Pro01 is right to say that if any man was given the chance, they would smash it BUT the catch is to trust that your gal is strong enough/dedicated enough and she respects herself.
if the guy think thats she isnt, then he should probably NOT date that gal and go look for that gal with absolutely no male friend(good luck), or the donkey that will accept such demands.

i will also say that telling a gal to loose all her male friends is in no way going to make that woman cheat-proof. it will only make the insecure bf feel better but we all know that if a woman WANTS to cheat, she can do it with just about anyone and therefore the posters bf should tie her to the bed post before going to work so that she has no contact with ANY man (watch out for the gardener, driver,gate man etc)!

poster is this how you see your "future"?!

pro01:

^^
lol. Nice response. Dem no dey hear word.

@ Post.

The concept of 'male friends' has always been very funny and rightly so (especially when you have a serious bf or husband). It's like saying that a goat can be friends with a yam, or a monkey with a banana. The one would ravenously devour the other at the first opportunity - whether it takes ten minutes or ten years is irrelevant, it is only waiting to happen.

The truth is that ALL so-called male friends (me inclusive) would slam-dunk their jimmies into the girl's honeypot at the slightest opportunity, forget all the 'just friends, just friend' bull.s**t. Besides there is no doubt that you may reveal stuff about your man or your relationship issues to the so-called close male friends; believe me they may take advantage of that info and slyly hint that you deserve more - all in the attempt to seduce you in the most subtle way. Before you know it you'd gradually 'notice' that your friend is more generous, more attentive/caring, and has a bigger 'bulge' than your boyfriend who has "been annoying of late". Next thing one thing leads to another and your hapless boyfriend is cuckolded. In any case, what would a girl be discussing about with a 'male friend' behind closed doors sef? About Mutallab? Or the earthquake in Haiti? Don't make me laugh abeg.

Whatever happened to friends of your own gender? It's funny when I see some deluded boyfriends acting 'secure' about the fact that their babes keep 'close' male friends. I've been in the latter category a few times and I did the silly boyfriends no favours at all (if you catch the drift).

Any girl who wants to quit singlehood must put its ways behind and tell herself the common-sensical truth. Fooling around with 'male friends' (like me) would most definitely cause your boyfriend/husband grief. . .that is if he ever finds out the real deal. And when he boots you out I definitely won't replace him in your life (I like the milk free, thanks. Why maintain the whole cow?).

AntKenny:

I understand where all of you are coming from especially @pro01.

Im not trying to be unreasonable or stubborn.

, my boyfriend is naturally possessive and I dont mind that because as far as im concerned no guy could compete with him.

But I think he is really feeling insecure, for no good reason. Most of my male friends are either engaged or in long lasting relationships.

I going to talk to him and see how that goes.