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Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by lasthero: 12:22pm On Mar 25, 2018
I am asking this question because i am currently in a Dilemma .

I have this girl called M.

M lives down the street in the Estate where i stay. The first time i met her was at the supermarket , we met again along the street weeks later and we became friends. one thing led to another, the friendship metamorphosed into feelings from each other and it got to the extent that we were so fond of each other and we do exchange visitations. i took the bold step and asked her out. she told me she liked me but wont be able to date me because she has a serious relationship which she wasn't ready to break with the guy.

i couldn't afford to step down as well and i begged her to give me a chance in her heart and with time, i will be able to prove myself to her that i am more worthy of being the man in her life. she accepted but she gave me a condition that i won't be able to reach her whenever her guy is around or whenever she is with her guy. i thought it was a small deal and i accepted. The relationship was smooth at the first 3 months as we had time to spend with each other.

Recently, Her guy got a job transfer to Lagos from Ibadan and it now happened that the three of us are now in lagos. nowadays, the guy is always around almost every weekend, most times, she also go to the guy's house to spend few days as well which she always informed me.


i am finding it hard to cope again, the thought of them having sex alone burdens my heart not to talk of the inability to call or reach her when she is with her guy.

i have tried several means to break the bond between them, i have made her known i wasn't ready to share but each time i do all these, her response is always like " i cant just break up with him without any offence. he has tried alot for me and i cant just leave him except i find fault in him which i am yet to find. and i told you point blank from the start that i have a relationship with him".


she loves me which i know, i also love her. but i am tired of been a shareholder,

i am tired of been an under-cover lover

i want to be the main guy.

it has really affected me psychologically that i am no longer productive in the office like i used to be.


i am 29 with a good job and planning to settle down soon with her.

how do i manage as a relationship share-holder?

cc lalasticlala
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Barzinime(m): 12:25pm On Mar 25, 2018
You are not feeling fine

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by lasthero: 12:29pm On Mar 25, 2018
Barzinime:
You are not feeling fine

offcourse yes. and thats why i posted for advice
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Nobody: 12:32pm On Mar 25, 2018
So, you are a 29yrs old sim-2 to one girl?

Yet you ask how you will cope?

Create another thread asking how you'll boost your low self-esteem. Once you fix that, you will look back at this and wonder what you were thinking.

I am 100% sure the other guy doesn't know about you, but you're so UNDERSTANDING a side-guy. Chai. See where zero self-respect landed you. You are living up to your name bro @ last hero.

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by gabinogem(m): 12:37pm On Mar 25, 2018
How will you feel, if you were in the other guy's shoe that ur girl is cheating on u cuz that's what this is...??

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by GeeString: 12:40pm On Mar 25, 2018
Lalasticlala, seun osewa, I know this goes against Nairaland policy but on behalf of Nairalanders I demand that this idiot be allowed to change his moniker...










































... to lastmugu.

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by MhizzAJ(f): 12:42pm On Mar 25, 2018
AntiBrutus:
So, you are a 29yrs old sim-2 to one girl?

Yet you ask how you will cope?

Create another thread asking how you'll boost your low self-esteem. Once you fix that, you will look back at this and wonder what you were thinking.

You are living up to your name bro @ last hero.
grin cheesy SIM-2 Chai!!!
grin

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Barzinime(m): 12:43pm On Mar 25, 2018
You want her to leave her bf for you and you think its going to be a happily ever after story for you?
lasthero:


offcourse yes. and thats why i posted for advice
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Cutehector(m): 12:44pm On Mar 25, 2018
Antibrutus is single, you can forget about the girl and ask her out... I am hundred percent sure she will say yes to your proposal.
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Nobody: 12:46pm On Mar 25, 2018
MhizzAJ:

grin cheesy SIM-2 Chai!!!
grin

Babe, did you read the post? What's happening to our young men? If I talk my mind now, they'll say I have started.
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by MhizzAJ(f): 12:49pm On Mar 25, 2018
AntiBrutus:


Babe, did you read the post? What's happening to our young men? If I talk my mind now, they'll say I have started.

I read it babe but i will not say anything cheesy
He's answering his name lasthero...
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Nobody: 1:06pm On Mar 25, 2018
Take this advise with a pinch of salt.

There are 3 ways to deal with issues, The right way, The wrong way and the rare way.

1. Back it up, Back off and back down your feelings and look for another girl, she's taken. ( The right way)
2. I wouldn't suggest the wrong way.
3 . This is the rare way......Get her pregnant! and if she keep the baby, you win.

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by sparklezeee: 1:06pm On Mar 25, 2018
I wish the brain is an app... I would have said ........ the app
Not everyone will have the app though.
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Nobody: 1:15pm On Mar 25, 2018
AntiBrutus:


Babe, did you read the post? What's happening to our young men? If I talk my mind now, they'll say I have started.


Go through the guys profile. He's a focused guy trying to go for masters in the US.

This is just Sunday Sunday trolling.

Dude who has been out of school for over 5 years and who get enough para to sue school for transcript will not have time to be doing side nigga for some chick


Even his English is more coherent
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by sweetgoodnews: 1:32pm On Mar 25, 2018
I always blame guys who claims they are smart. Please guys if u truly love a girl, and she tells you she is in a serious relationship, please kindly leave her alone. If she agrees to date u while she is having a man already in her life, she does not mean well for a man. This simply means if a third guy shows up she will gladly jump into it. Let's have some sense guys. How can u date a girl whom you know she is occupied. What do u think of her. And what will she think of u?

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Espada10: 2:31pm On Mar 25, 2018
kai!!!

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Cadec007(m): 2:57pm On Mar 25, 2018
gabinogem:
How will you feel, if you were in the other guy's shoe that ur girl is cheating on u cuz that's what this is...??
my brother i was about asking the same Q, this is not a male attitude at all it is feminine.....its very crazy lasthero....backoff or how would u explain asking another person to break a relationship just for ur own interest,haba!!

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Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Cadec007(m): 2:59pm On Mar 25, 2018
Espada10:
kai!!!
he deserves beating seriously!

Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Cadec007(m): 3:01pm On Mar 25, 2018
sweetgoodnews:
I always blame guys who claims they are smart. Please guys if u truly love a girl, and she tells you she is in a serious relationship, please kindly leave her alone. If she agrees to date u while she is having a man already in her life, she does not mean well for a man. This simply means if a third guy shows up she will gladly jump into it. Let's have some sense guys. How can u date a girl whom you know she is occupied. What do u think of her. And what will she think of u?
u nailed it take and relax

Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Nobody: 5:13pm On Mar 25, 2018
oyb:



Go through the guys profile. He's a focused guy trying to go for masters in the US.

This is just Sunday Sunday trolling.

Dude who has been out of school for over 5 years and who get enough para to sue school for transcript will not have time to be doing side nigga for some chick.


Even his English is more coherent

Does it always work like that, Sir?
The matters of the heart can be complicated o.

I agree with you though, dude might be trolling. I'm yet to go through his profile, I really do hope he is trolling.
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Deshannel(m): 6:00pm On Mar 25, 2018
It's simple, prepare to loose her the same way you got her if she eventually leaves her boyfriend for you.
And don't forget ; Karma always remembers.
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Nobody: 6:06pm On Mar 25, 2018
Side guy begging to be the main guy cheesy cheesy cheesy... Hilarious indeed.
Re: Guys, How Do You Cope As A Shareholder In A Relationship? by Kobicove(m): 8:53am On Mar 26, 2018
You're a side guy...move on or wait patiently to be upgraded!

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