Richy4:
I don't understand the part u said the feelings was dead... What's there to do salvage again qin a relationship when the feelings were dead...

Did she say that out of anger or was it the simple truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me God?

thorpido:
Did you show her your paypacket?
Maybe she believes you have more money.You need to communicate more.

hanked:



Theirs no pay package, he's into contracts, the sure package comes from annual rent. tried all form of communications all to know avail.

hanked:




Cannot say if uttered out of anger but that's a strong and heart breaking statement. her behaviours now showed she meant it.

LordKO:
@OP

You're dealing with a self-centered woman - that's one of the offshoots of conceitedness, and a major hallmark of conceited people. She can only give gratitude to you or feel satisfied when your act of beneficence in particular and conscientious decision in general favours her, why you become a stingy/uncaring/self-centered person to her eyes whenever you made a conscientious decision that isn't favourable to her. To remain in her good book entails you being servile - volitionally or otherwise - to her (loyalty can't earn you understanding from her). If you give in to her shenanigans at this juncture without having her to change for good, be ready for emotional and psychological abuses in the near future - that's if she hasn't started meting them out towards you already. For now count yourself lucky if she's no moral vice too, because if she does, sorry will become your name.

Well, personally, I wouldn't advise you to call her parents instead I'll advise that you solve the problem once and for all - calling her parents will mean given in to her shenanigans and that will only worsen things in the long run. It'll result to a situation whereby she'll always blame you for her own irrationality and expects you to also beg her at all times in such occurrences.

Solution: firstly, you must always uphold the principle of coming into equity with clean hands. Always give in your best at all times but never lose guard to her. To achieve this you need to tell yourself truth that your peace comes first before her wish - to her, it's either your dominion or your dignity (this means your sanity is at risk). If you can implement this perfectly well, I tell you that she'll volitionally get off from her high horse in a no too distant time to re-embrace oneness with you - but this will only happen if she's truly committed to the union and has an atom of genuine love for you. However, if the headache becomes permanent, you do what anybody that operates on principle will do.

For now, remain thoughtful towards her I say, but forget oneness or trying to force it to exist, because it's literally impossible to achieve oneness in absence of mutual conscientiousness. But of course, independence doesn't mean absence of thoughtfulness.


I'm so grateful for this your contributions, that's exactly what the situation is, will apply some principles to solve this once and for all

Richy4:


I don't really care if money was the issue.. what I care about is your safety.. u might be eating one day and choke due to the fact that the food or water went to the wrong channel... she might just stand there and watch while u struggle.. because that's what people with zero feelings does.. I might be reading too much meanings into such careless talk but... hmmmm..

Just let her clarify such awful statement so that you know where u stand with her.. U can't stay with someone with zero emotion for u man

hanked:
When a wife refuses to see reasons with the husband , after so much explanations about the situation of things, despite the facts that the husband provides the basic needs of the family except the luxury ones, she still insist that the husband is being stingy, that the house will not be peaceful for him , and the feelings she had for him are dead. Is this the right time to call on the inlaws to call their daughter to order?