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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DavidEsq(m): 8:36am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33:"Do not let urself be conquered by the evil, but keep conquering the evil with the good". Romans 12:21. My brother, the same ish that happened to u is happening to me ryt now, but guess wat? After all their arrangements, the tin backfired and now dem dey cal me. I didn't feel angry at all. Why? The above scripture and 1 John 2:17 which says "The world is passing away and so is its desire....". That position of 1st sonship has always been and those who held it have passed on. The same thing (death) that happened to everyone else happened to them. So wats special about it, if it wld pass away? Nada. Besides, who made u the first Son? 1 Corinthians 4:7 answers it: "For who makes u different from another? Indeed wat do do have that u did not receive? If in fact, u did receive it, why do u boast as though u did not receive it"? Dis is not suggesting that u are boastful about ur position. Hell no! Bro just help pls. I'm doing so too. So there is two of us in d same kinda toilet, sh1tting the same kinda sh1t. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 8:38am On Apr 07, 2018 |
DavidEsq: This would have been great counsel, but unfortunately, I am not a Christian. I am a traditionalist, and in keeping with the ethos of my belief, I am on the right course. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by engrelvis(m): 8:40am On Apr 07, 2018 |
I dnt know y people attach so much importance to first son in dis part of d world.it now make dem behave like alpha n omega .it has spoilt alot of things in Nigeria.op ,if u like u meditate or nt yr sister life will still go on .u r nt her God.am a first son tough n my siblings v done annoying tins to me but hey is no big deal.life geos on men. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 8:44am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Useless fellow...better stop with all that pettiness and pitch in where you're needed...6yrs and you're still recalling ancient history mtcheeeew |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DavidEsq(m): 8:48am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33:U don't need to be. It's just like saying u have to be a Muslim to know the value of washing ur feet. Science today has realised the evil in breeding two different sorts of animals: their offspring cannot reproduce. The bible in Leviticus 19:19 already spoke against it. So wld u say this bible advice has found no use outside the boundary of Christians? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by airlord2020: 8:51am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Help your sister and move on because it is the right thing to do. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 8:52am On Apr 07, 2018 |
DavidEsq: Really can't understand why you feel the need to belt down your christianity into my throat. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by evavista: 8:53am On Apr 07, 2018 |
IAmAmbrose:its not an Ibadan adage and the correct statement is 'to err is human, to forgive is divine' 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by soonest(f): 8:57am On Apr 07, 2018 |
micflo28: This is funny! Which small wedding when the sister and the husband's marriage are on the verge of collapsing. He should intervene and afterwards they should come and make amends and fulfil the custom of the land, even if it's with a bottle of wine. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DavidEsq(m): 9:00am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33:I'm not doing that bro. I'm I'm at all. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DavidEsq(m): 9:01am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33:I'm not doing that bro. I'm I'm at all. Just that rather than defend ur position with reason, u now seem to be going emotional, which has basis in reasoning. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Dcholeric: 9:01am On Apr 07, 2018 |
a great percentage of women are the same ...to them it's all about money. Oga do what your heart tells you . If you were still a nobody, they wouldn't have bothered to call you. like someone said...you no be Jesus. if you must help ...then you deserve all the explanations they can come up with why you weren't informed before the marriage and you deserve an apology from everyone involved. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by engrelvis(m): 9:02am On Apr 07, 2018 |
GogobiriLalas:dnt mind Mr first son .d thing is entering his head as like most first son in our country.Gosh! Some can b so annoying . |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DavidEsq(m): 9:03am On Apr 07, 2018 |
evavista:Too bad u wr too serious and straight-faced to see the humour. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by OpanachiOzohve: 9:16am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33:My brother please flee! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by soonest(f): 9:16am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33: Obviously your mind is made up, then keep to your belief. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 9:25am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33:Dont Do Shiit For Them... You Are Even a Good person To Send Them Money... The Marriage Was Done Without Your Consent, please Stay Out Of It... This They Must Bear The Consequences Of Their Wicked Acts to You 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by adedayoadeoye(f): 9:28am On Apr 07, 2018 |
i no u stil av soft spot 4 ur family.i want u 2 seriously take ur time b4 u mediate den ask ur sister one on one y she did dat 2 u as ur blood.4get about been askd ur mum cos she wont give u d right anwer u actually need dat mother 4 u cos nt all of dem love their children equaly.talkin 4rm exprience cos i am a victim of type right now |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Originalsly: 9:38am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Hmmm....if I were in your shoes.... knowing nothing about the guy... how can you mediate?...putting them back together may be for the worse. I guess greed was the reason you weren't informed about the wedding. Maybe the guy was clearly not good enough but had money. Why would they have you in to chase away the guy along with the bride price? ...and here you are...wondering why they are silent on that issue. Money is the root of all evil. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Pinkyposh(f): 9:55am On Apr 07, 2018 |
evavista: It is correctly written as "to err is human but to forgive is divine"........ "Not to ere" 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Coldfeets: 10:10am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Pdizzle: Yeah, let him enjoy his |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by BennyMaiNasara(m): 10:36am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Two wrongs don't make a right. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Dcholeric: 10:48am On Apr 07, 2018 |
Coldfeets:of course ...that's why he needs to do the right thing by correcting the wrong and selfish attitude of both his mom, sister and elders . mediating without any significant discussion and correction to that devilish attitude is the very wrong thing he should stay clear off... people that will still ditch him as soon as things go bad...they need to understand... even God punish sinners. his mom and his sister are liable for a grievous evil against him and he deserves an explanation, an apology and an oat of faithfulness... if I were him I will concentrate on my wife and children , in a situation such as devilish as this . the only people he can count on in his old age or in hard times are his wife and children . 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Dcholeric: 10:53am On Apr 07, 2018 |
PDJT:Op please give this Christ the contacts fast... no time. Na em be saviour of the world. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by esere826: 10:57am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33: The bolded is the problem You can meditate for your sister if you wish, but they suddenly remembering that you are the elder is stupid of them. ..and you should let them know this. If they want to want rectify this, then the family knows what to do, not pretending that nothing ever happened |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Jamiualabi12(m): 11:00am On Apr 07, 2018 |
pls don't hesitate to help, you might be the one God really need to settle the dispute. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by MrCEO69(m): 11:19am On Apr 07, 2018 |
KOPT33: I think what you need it an explanation to why they neglected you. This is your anger. you should ask them why, cos from ur story u havnt asked them why, they are hiding that area and u are till hurt by it, u better go and find out why to be totally free with ur mind bro. then the process of total forgiveness or the inverse can take place. then u can tell them ur condition like doing the right thing as u wanted. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by 1234IKECHhukwu: 11:27am On Apr 07, 2018 |
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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Artistree: 11:38am On Apr 07, 2018 |
GoldenJAT:God bless you for this, insofar as he wasn't informed when the marriage was contracted, no jupiter should make him interfere... I would do same if I were in his shoes. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 11:58am On Apr 07, 2018 |
TheLordIsGr8: You made a valid point, though you're progressing in error my brother. One his consent is not needed since there is an elder that can represent the family. During her sister's marriage rites (in respect to igbo traditions), her sister pointed to someone their in-laws should communicate with and that person is not the young man who was in diaspora then (now remember that if her sister has pointed to him, he will be sought after and brought back). From all indications, there's already a Crack in the family and we're all here to contribute our quota in mending the Crack, that's why the opp pasted the information for us to contribute. So what am I saying, in Igboland, since their dad is late, there is someone they used to replace their dad, and our opp is not the person, so her sister's marriage is valid in all ramifications. As you argued that her 'daughter' is not married, in this issue, that matter did not arrise at all, let him have some patience, when he begets a daughter, he can travel to panya and asked the daughter not to get married till he comes back. But still, in igbo traditions, her daughter will get married before he comes back, why, maka na be anyi, oburo otu onye nwe nwa. Peace unto you. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 12:33pm On Apr 07, 2018 |
Acidosis: I love what you pointed out in the emboldened. It appears his mum made herself the head of that family at the demise of her husband when God actually graced her with a first son. It pained the OP so much, he cried. Just imagine. So things should be cleared right from the mum's angle. A woman that should have been all out, guiding and helping her first son to lead and organize her late husband's household, rather turned out to be the one that despised and ridiculed him (her own son o), while his sister simply followed her lead. Some women sha. Who knows whether she did same to her husband while alive. Interestingly, the OP didn't suggest she is ready to mend her ways. But for the sake of his late dad's reputation, the OP should please urgently mediate and attend to his pains later. |
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