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What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Troubledmind: 10:14pm On Apr 10, 2018
I'm Frederick (pseudonym) i come from a family where raising your hands against your parent is a taboo, my mum has been with my dad for 21 years, she's a second wife, the first wife is living elsewhere, they got divorced before my mum came, now my dad disrespect my mum everytime, he barks at her for nothing, even things that shouldn't cause trouble he'll pick offense, he beats her in our presence, back then when I was young and helpless I'll just watch and cry but now I'm grown, i can beat him up anytime now because I told him the last time that if he touches my mum again I'll kill him, i regret telling him that but i was enraged, this poor woman endured this for 21yrs, currently I'm not at home, i got a call from my kid sis telling me he has started again, since my last warning he was quiet, now he's back to his old self, the worst thing is, he has other children, he'll always call my siblings and tell them bad things about me and mum, they don't talk to her or me(my elder bro and sis) dont talk to me or mum, I'm the second child from mum and the ninth child from dad, he's always battering mum and causing a rift between me and my siblings.

He pays thier school fees including my old bro who's almost thirty and my immediate younger sis but he refused to pay mine, the only siblings that talk to me is the last born and the youngest girl, the rest sided my dad

Please what do i do, i dont want to be someone who beat up my dad

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Troubledmind: 10:28pm On Apr 10, 2018
Lalasticlala help a bro

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mikejj(m): 10:29pm On Apr 10, 2018
grin grin is ur dad from osun state??

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mhisbliss(f): 10:38pm On Apr 10, 2018
Of all the section on nairaland you choosed to post this on romance section, where the likes of the two above can be found grin werey people.

Back to the matter, This is obviously an abusive marriage, i wonder why she said yes to a divorcee in the first place and even bearing it for 21good years,

Fighting him wont stop anything, you risk getting killed, you might kill him too, then people wont care what he did, they'll be like, look its that guy who killed his dad, you'll goto jail and your life is ruined, causing your poor mum more pains.

Just hustle hard, make the greens, get your mum a decent rented apartment and find her something to be doing, maybe a trade or sue your jerk of a father to court and compel him to sign an undertaking, that way the law will fight for you

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by habsydiamond(m): 10:39pm On Apr 10, 2018
This is a serious case ooo....it won't be like this forever...just make sure u stick to Ur mum...so that she won't end up in an early grave....once u are able to protect her....every other things will come in place with time...

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 10:43pm On Apr 10, 2018
mhisbliss:
Fighting him wont stop anything, you risk getting killed, you might kill him too, then people wont care what he did, they'll be like, look its that guy who killed his dad, you'll goto jail and your life is ruined, causing your poor mum more pains.

Just hustle hard, make the greens, get your mum a decent rented apartment and find her something to be doing, maybe a trade or sue your jerk of a father to court and compel him to sign an undertaking, that way the law will fight for you





Op, This is the best advice anyone can give you at this moment... I would have added more but thanks to my darling Barcelona for making my night a miserable one.

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mhisbliss(f): 10:50pm On Apr 10, 2018
JasonScolari:
Your mum is the second wife? grin She deserve every bit of it.


Damn!!! She's wicked to share another woman's property. grin





No hard feelings.
Not you too naw, didn't you read where he said they divorced before the mum got there? No one deserves an abusive marriage, even if you're the 11th wife

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by ifex370(m): 10:52pm On Apr 10, 2018
OneCorner:
no hard feelings but,
i think your family is cursed.

ur mummy probably used juju to marry ur daddy.
so she deserves every beating cool


WTF mehn... grin grin grin grin



Why do you have to be so mean grin grin grin grin

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Apr 10, 2018
mhisbliss:
Not you too naw, didn't you read where he said they divorced before the mum got there? No one deserves an abusive marriage, even if you're the 11th wife
Nope. embarassed My apologies to the Op

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mhisbliss(f): 11:02pm On Apr 10, 2018
JasonScolari:
Nope. embarassed My apologies to the Op
Thanks

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 11:04pm On Apr 10, 2018
mhisbliss:
Thanks
You welcome... My apologies to you as well.

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mhisbliss(f): 11:10pm On Apr 10, 2018
JasonScolari:
You welcome... My apologies to you as well.
No need for that, i just feel sorry he's going through that you've no idea the emotional trauma he's passing through, this should be on fp by now though, but its not BBN

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Apr 10, 2018
mhisbliss:
No need for that, i just feel sorry he's going through that you've no idea the emotional trauma he's passing through, this should be on fp by now though, but its not BBN
Lol, I saw lala viewing the thread but I guess he was not satisfied since the Op is not talking about BamBam the toilet Ambassador.

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mhisbliss(f): 11:25pm On Apr 10, 2018
JasonScolari:
Lol, I saw lala viewing the thread but I guess he was not satisfied since the Op is not talking about BamBam the toilet Ambassador.



How can that be more important than this? Thats how my educational thread didn't make fp, i want the old NL back seriously, i frequent quora mostly this days

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 11:32pm On Apr 10, 2018
mhisbliss:
How can that be more important than this? Thats how my educational thread didn't make fp, i want the old NL back seriously, i frequent quora mostly this days
Shame on them... Surprisingly, one of the female mod spends her 24hrs at the BBN thread and always push those rubbish to FP.. **spits**


Quora?

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by mhisbliss(f): 11:42pm On Apr 10, 2018
JasonScolari:
Shame on them... Surprisingly, one of the female mod spends her 24hrs at the BBN thread and always push those rubbish to FP.. **spits**


Quora?
Ya i see her numerous comments there, sometimes you cant help but wonder where we went wrong grin

Ya quora, lots of smart people there and more coordinated

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 11:58pm On Apr 10, 2018
Hustle and make money, build a house and move your mum out of that home before your dad kills her. I admire your resilience, I couldn't have held on this long if in your shoes.

Whoever wants to beat up my mum should first dig a grave for himself because I'm gonna put a bullet through his head.

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by LotannaAnaekwe: 10:26am On Apr 11, 2018
Family of weak men and complete sell outs. undecided
Your father dey beat your mother you you never break him leg since? Wait till he kills her. Onukwu!

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by vivie01(f): 7:24pm On Apr 11, 2018
Be challenged by this unfortunate act @OP, struggle hard and be determined to succeed in life, legitimately though.
By this will you have power to take proper action and rent an apartment for your mum, away from your dad.
Your mum has endured his nagging for 21yrs, it's just little it remained.
Never nurture the idea of beating up your dad or better still, never raise your hand against your dad.
You dont want to invoke a generational curse on your lineage.
Be a good friend and support to your mum. Encourage her whenever she's down, persuade her to find a way of dealing with your dad's outrages and assuring her to be optimistic that all will be well soonest.

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Sarang(f): 10:29pm On Apr 11, 2018
Tell him to stop and mean it..

Arrest him if he doesn't.

Please see my signature

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by solasoulmusic(f): 10:29pm On Apr 11, 2018
Funny enough you do nothing you be still and let God
Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by NwaAmaikpe: 10:30pm On Apr 11, 2018
shocked


No matter what,
Your father should be your role model.

Because if he didn't cum, you won't have come.

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by YhungPablo(m): 10:30pm On Apr 11, 2018
Rip to the dead. embarassed
Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Apr 11, 2018
I pray for them
Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by YhungPablo(m): 10:31pm On Apr 11, 2018
mikejj:
grin grin is ur dad from osun state??
and what's that suppose to me? undecided

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Nobody: 10:31pm On Apr 11, 2018
Sarang:
Tell him to stop and mean it..
Arrest him if he doesn't.
Please see my signature
iffa hia

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Sarang(f): 10:32pm On Apr 11, 2018
praiseneofingz:
iffa hia

you will hear nah when his mother dies

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Lexusgs430: 10:33pm On Apr 11, 2018
I dey come
Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by uchman48(m): 10:33pm On Apr 11, 2018
is that one a father?

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Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by EloquentMedia: 10:34pm On Apr 11, 2018
pray
Re: What Do You Do To A Father Who Batters And HumiliatesYour Mum In Front Of You? by Lexusgs430: 10:35pm On Apr 11, 2018
Troubledmind:
I'm Frederick (pseudonym) i come from a family where raising your hands against your parent is a taboo, my mum has been with my dad for 21 years, she's a second wife, the first wife is living elsewhere, they got divorced before my mum came, now my dad disrespect my mum everytime, he barks at her for nothing, even things that shouldn't cause trouble he'll pick offense, he beats her in our presence, back then when I was young and helpless I'll just watch and cry but now I'm grown, i can beat him up anytime now because I told him the last time that if he touches my mum again I'll kill him, i regret telling him that but i was enraged, this poor woman endured this for 21yrs, currently I'm not at home, i got a call from my kid sis telling me he has started again, since my last warning he was quiet, now he's back to his old self, the worst thing is, he has other children, he'll always call my siblings and tell them bad things about me and mum, they don't talk to her or me(my elder bro and sis) dont talk to me or mum, I'm the second child from mum and the ninth child from dad, he's always battering mum and causing a rift between me and my siblings.

He pays thier school fees including my old bro who's almost thirty and my immediate younger sis but he refused to pay mine, the only siblings that talk to me is the last born and the youngest girl, the rest sided my dad

Please what do i do, i dont want to be someone who beat up my dad


What is your mother's position on this domestic violence situation?

Is your mother financially independent?

Are you all solely dependent on your dad for financial support? Can you cope without his financial support?

What has your Mum done about this domestic/emotional abuse situation?

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