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How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by LoreDnz: 8:15am On Apr 18, 2018
met him in church one Sunday morning. He sat next to me and I couldn’t help it but recognize the kind of gentleman he was. He was soft spoken and had this shyness on her face anytime he tried to talk to me. During the service, I realized he was finding it uneasy to sing along with the church because he didn’t come along with a hymn book. I shared mine. We both sang from the same hymn book and got closer as the service progressed.

After the last grace was said by the priest and the church dispersed, he turned to me and said thank you. I smiled and asked his name. “I’m Martin,” he said. “Nice meeting you Martin” I responded. But before I could turn around and leave, he told me; “Actually, this is my first time being here.” Amid smiles he continued. “and it’s great finding a friend at my first time in church. Do you mind if I called you sometimes?”

We exchanged contacts and left each other’s presence. Truth be told, I was going through the hardest times of my life. The man I’ve dated for about two years just called it quit and I was very devastated. I was nursing my wounds when Martin came along. He kept crossing my mind all week but I resolved not to call him until he does. He never called until we met in church again the next Sunday. Inwardly, I felt guilty for thinking about him the way I did all week. That’s girlish. But we had another good service together, singing from the same hymn book and making fun under our breath.

After the service, he called when he got home. We started chatting on Whatsapp and grew closer together as the days pass. I shared my story of broken relationships with him and he was kind enough to offer soothing words. He didn’t judge me. He didn’t condemn my actions or sought to give directions as to how I should have handled things. He gained my trust that way and I opened up more. He told me a little bit about himself. Nothing of note though, but I was happy he was overcoming his shyness. We grew closer and closer until finally, after about six months later, he made it obvious that he wanted us to date.

He didn’t propose to me. I don’t remember him telling me he loved me or wanted to be with me. He loved to act than to use words. We spoke more about it and decided to be in a relationship. He already knew my fears and easily accepted the conditions I laid down for the relationship. I told him; “I don’t want sex now. At least, if it should happen, it should happen after marriage, that is if you have any intention to marry me.” He only nodded and smiled. That day in his room, I remember we had our first kiss.

It was awesome! A lot of things started running through my head. Hey, I wasn’t a nun. I’ve had sex before and kisses this intense usually lead to sex. I remember grabbing him intensely like my whole life depended on him. I was shaking. I wanted something more than the kiss but I held on. He was gentle. The farthest he could go was to hold my head in between his palms, look me in the eyes and kissed intensely. I couldn’t breathe. I gathered the little strength in me and pulled away. I was panting like I’ve been running around for hours. The next words that came out were; “No more kisses until marriage. I mean it.”

For the next two years, we didn’t kiss and we never had sex. The farthest we went was to hold hands, lean on each other and occasionally cuddle. Martin was a good boy and I loved him dearly. We decided to get married after two years of being together. When we started counseling, our pastor wanted to be sure if we’ve had sex before. We had all the pride in us when we answered no. I don’t know if he believed us but we were telling the truth and didn’t care if he did. He only told us to be careful since it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in. We knew our strength. We were sure we could scale above all temptations.

Our marriage arrangement was to have the traditional wedding and then do the church wedding in six months later. We started having troubles. The urge to have sex became greater. After all, we were going to marry so what stops us from having sex? In my mind, I wanted our first sex to be special. I wanted to blow his mind off during our first sex and what better moment to do it than to wait for the honeymoon? this thought kept me going. Two weeks before the traditional marriage, we spent most nights together in the same room and on the same bed. We had a lot of errands and arrangements to do and it was better we stayed together. But sex had a way of creeping into our minds.

I remember one night it turned into a serious scuffle. Martin wanted it. I’ve never seen him so aggressive. He was pushing and struggling with me to allow him to have s*x. To him, we were already married and didn’t see the reason to still cover the cookie. I implored. I fought him. At some point, I wanted to scream. What the pastor said was ringing loud in my ears; “it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in.” Amid threats of screaming and loud prayers, I won and slept in peace. That wasn’t the last. We kept having series of minor fights because of s*x.

Days to the traditional wedding was tough. We could go all day without talking to each other. He was angry and I was angry. S*x was killing the beautiful thing we had together. But we soldiered on. Finally, we did the traditional wedding. The pastor was there to pray and bless the union. During his sermon, he complimented us for staying chaste all this while and told us to still be strong and keep it till after the church wedding. I could see my husband restless and with a subtle frown.

The night after the traditional wedding we had a fight. Our first fight as husband and wife happened on a night we ought to be happy together. What brought the fight? SEX! Not That I didn’t want to have sex, I wanted to but the time wasn’t right. So I told him; “Didn’t you hear what the pastor said? This is not the real marriage so we can’t have sex. Hold it together. We are only six months away.” After saying this, my new name was launched; “Madam-We-Can’t-Have-Sex, I hear you but tomorrow, I’ll have s*x somewhere else.” Did you hear what he just called me? Madam-We-Can’t-Have-S*x? At this point, I didn’t care who he would have sex with if only.. Continue reading..

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Demmtek(m): 8:35am On Apr 18, 2018
met him in church one Sunday morning. He sat next to me and I couldn’t help it but recognize the kind of gentleman he was. He was soft spoken and had this shyness on HIS face anytime he tried to talk to me

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Nobody: 8:42am On Apr 18, 2018
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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by pryme(m): 8:56am On Apr 18, 2018
LoreDnz:
met him in church one Sunday morning. He sat next to me and I couldn’t help it but recognize the kind of gentleman he was. He was soft spoken and had this shyness on her face anytime he tried to talk to me. During the service, I realized he was finding it uneasy to sing along with the church because he didn’t come along with a hymn book. I shared mine. We both sang from the same hymn book and got closer as the service progressed.

After the last grace was said by the priest and the church dispersed, he turned to me and said thank you. I smiled and asked his name. “I’m Martin,” he said. “Nice meeting you Martin” I responded. But before I could turn around and leave, he told me; “Actually, this is my first time being here.” Amid smiles he continued. “and it’s great finding a friend at my first time in church. Do you mind if I called you sometimes?”

We exchanged contacts and left each other’s presence. Truth be told, I was going through the hardest times of my life. The man I’ve dated for about two years just called it quit and I was very devastated. I was nursing my wounds when Martin came along. He kept crossing my mind all week but I resolved not to call him until he does. He never called until we met in church again the next Sunday. Inwardly, I felt guilty for thinking about him the way I did all week. That’s girlish. But we had another good service together, singing from the same hymn book and making fun under our breath.

After the service, he called when he got home. We started chatting on Whatsapp and grew closer together as the days pass. I shared my story of broken relationships with him and he was kind enough to offer soothing words. He didn’t judge me. He didn’t condemn my actions or sought to give directions as to how I should have handled things. He gained my trust that way and I opened up more. He told me a little bit about himself. Nothing of note though, but I was happy he was overcoming his shyness. We grew closer and closer until finally, after about six months later, he made it obvious that he wanted us to date.

He didn’t propose to me. I don’t remember him telling me he loved me or wanted to be with me. He loved to act than to use words. We spoke more about it and decided to be in a relationship. He already knew my fears and easily accepted the conditions I laid down for the relationship. I told him; “I don’t want sex now. At least, if it should happen, it should happen after marriage, that is if you have any intention to marry me.” He only nodded and smiled. That day in his room, I remember we had our first kiss.

It was awesome! A lot of things started running through my head. Hey, I wasn’t a nun. I’ve had sex before and kisses this intense usually lead to sex. I remember grabbing him intensely like my whole life depended on him. I was shaking. I wanted something more than the kiss but I held on. He was gentle. The farthest he could go was to hold my head in between his palms, look me in the eyes and kissed intensely. I couldn’t breathe. I gathered the little strength in me and pulled away. I was panting like I’ve been running around for hours. The next words that came out were; “No more kisses until marriage. I mean it.”

For the next two years, we didn’t kiss and we never had sex. The farthest we went was to hold hands, lean on each other and occasionally cuddle. Martin was a good boy and I loved him dearly. We decided to get married after two years of being together. When we started counseling, our pastor wanted to be sure if we’ve had sex before. We had all the pride in us when we answered no. I don’t know if he believed us but we were telling the truth and didn’t care if he did. He only told us to be careful since it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in. We knew our strength. We were sure we could scale above all temptations.

Our marriage arrangement was to have the traditional wedding and then do the church wedding in six months later. We started having troubles. The urge to have sex became greater. After all, we were going to marry so what stops us from having sex? In my mind, I wanted our first sex to be special. I wanted to blow his mind off during our first sex and what better moment to do it than to wait for the honeymoon? this thought kept me going. Two weeks before the traditional marriage, we spent most nights together in the same room and on the same bed. We had a lot of errands and arrangements to do and it was better we stayed together. But sex had a way of creeping into our minds.

I remember one night it turned into a serious scuffle. Martin wanted it. I’ve never seen him so aggressive. He was pushing and struggling with me to allow him to have s*x. To him, we were already married and didn’t see the reason to still cover the cookie. I implored. I fought him. At some point, I wanted to scream. What the pastor said was ringing loud in my ears; “it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in.” Amid threats of screaming and loud prayers, I won and slept in peace. That wasn’t the last. We kept having series of minor fights because of s*x.

Days to the traditional wedding was tough. We could go all day without talking to each other. He was angry and I was angry. S*x was killing the beautiful thing we had together. But we soldiered on. Finally, we did the traditional wedding. The pastor was there to pray and bless the union. During his sermon, he complimented us for staying chaste all this while and told us to still be strong and keep it till after the church wedding. I could see my husband restless and with a subtle frown.

The night after the traditional wedding we had a fight. Our first fight as husband and wife happened on a night we ought to be happy together. What brought the fight? SEX! Not That I didn’t want to have sex, I wanted to but the time wasn’t right. So I told him; “Didn’t you hear what the pastor said? This is not the real marriage so we can’t have sex. Hold it together. We are only six months away.” After saying this, my new name was launched; “Madam-We-Can’t-Have-Sex, I hear you but tomorrow, I’ll have s*x somewhere else.” Did you hear what he just called me? Madam-We-Can’t-Have-S*x? At this point, I didn’t care who he would have sex with if only.. Continue reading..

I don't see anything wrong with this story, you asked for it.
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Nobody: 9:17am On Apr 18, 2018
At this point, I didn’t care who he would have sex with if only that would make him stay off me till our honeymoon.

For a week, we lived in the same room but talked less to each other. He was always angry with me. What a way to start a married life. I was determined. To me, that was the right thing to do. The church frowns on sex before marriage, not that I also frown on it, I had a different motivation. I wanted the first sex to be unforgettable. I was saving my best for last and for no one but him. So why was he rushing?
Then one night things got worse. Martin came home with a friend. He was too drunk he couldn’t have made it home without the help of his friend. We had spent two arduous months together. I was sad for him. “Is he going through all that because of sex?” I asked myself. I left him in the coach till he woke up at dawn and came to sleep next to me. He was smelling like a rotten fish. I couldn’t stand it so I woke up, picked a pillow and started walking away to sleep in the coach. He pulled me over and tried forcing himself on me. We’ve been through this tussle over and over again and I always won. I was used to it. This time, something was different. He was stronger and determined.


We struggled and fought for about fifteen minutes. He seemed to get stronger by the minutes while I was losing steam. He managed to tear off my pant and held my two hands apart with his two hands. We were both left with our legs to struggle with. I got tired and realized I couldn’t fight any longer. I kept my calm. He sensed the victory and quickly dashed over to have me. That was when I raised my right knee and unfortunately, my knee caught him in the balls. He fell over and screamed out loud. He suddenly got frozen. I’ve never been scared in my life. I thought I had killed him. I tried calming him down but he kept whining in pains. Neighbors who heard him screaming started knocking on our door. I rushed to put on a dress and opened up the door. It was very embarrassing seeing neighbors in my room trying to help him regain his calm. After a lot of going up and down, he regained his calm. We were left alone.

The next morning, he packed what he had in the house and left. I didn’t ask him any question. I feared he might hit me. I left to my parent. I kept playing out the incidence in my mind over and over again. I kept asking myself; “Did I take this no sex thing too far.” I believe I did. He never picked my calls for three days. My parent and I went to meet him and his parent to try and resolve the issue but he didn’t listen to a word of what we had to say. All he said was he wanted a divorce. Two weeks later, his parent and other family members came over to dissolve the marriage.
That was it. My marriage lasted for only two and half months. What breaks my heart is the fact that I gave sex to those who didn’t deserve it. They had sex and left anyway. This one—Martin did everything right but I allowed fear to take over my senses. Recently, I heard from another pastor saying that traditional marriage is also marriage and sex is allowed after traditional marriage. If that was true, how stupid could I be? I was married and I didn’t even know it?


Three and half years after our break-up, I attended a wedding—Martin’s wedding with another lady I knew so well. I’m here, still single after six years of our breakup. Guess what, I had a boyfriend. We had sex but the relationship didn’t go well so we broke up. Back to single again.
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by doyinbaby(f): 9:29am On Apr 18, 2018
After traditional marriage sex is permitted in the sight of God......any pastor that tell you not to have sex after traditional marriage is a marriage breaker......

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Fmartin(m): 9:34am On Apr 18, 2018
good fiction.... cheesy

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by fr3do(m): 10:40am On Apr 18, 2018
I know say na lie sha
But if you don't intend to have sex, stay apart from each other, the bible tells us to flee from evil and its appearances.

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by BrutusOj(m): 11:20am On Apr 18, 2018
Fiction or not..we Africans gat to know that the blessings of our parents during traditional wedding is enough in the site of God. No pastor or priest has authority abi power to bless your union more than your parents.

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Uwaomaokey(m): 11:22am On Apr 18, 2018
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by stevenakp(m): 11:22am On Apr 18, 2018
doyinbaby:
After traditional marriage sex is permitted in the sight of God......any pastor that tell you not to have sex after traditional marriage is a marriage breaker......

you can pass your messages without picking on pastors.

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by pweshboi(m): 12:36pm On Apr 18, 2018
The fictional story was good and intriguing though... But how many Nigerian girls can do this?

Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Fmartin(m): 12:56pm On Apr 18, 2018
Uwaomaokey:

Martin is that you? grin
hehel. Pesin no fit get secret again ni? cheesy
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by HenryDion(m): 12:58pm On Apr 18, 2018
Nice fiction.. I enjoyed it. But Martin should have stayed.. He wasn't a gentle man after all.

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by AutoChick4U(f): 1:01pm On Apr 18, 2018
Great lies.

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by simafem(m): 1:11pm On Apr 18, 2018
grin
fr3do:
I know say na lie sha
But if you don't intend to have sex, stay apart from each other, the bible tells us to flee from evil and its appearances.
grin grin
fr3do:
I know say na lie sha
But if you don't intend to have sex, stay apart from each other, the bible tells us to flee from evil and its appearances.
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by fr3do(m): 1:14pm On Apr 18, 2018
simafem:
grin
grin grin
Engineer!
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Maychang(f): 1:33pm On Apr 18, 2018
This story sha...

* Dated 2 years- No Sex

*Traditional wedding came up and u moved in with him claiming you dont want sex, he shld wait for 6months again.

Madam... U Are WICKED. ..

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by IdeyFindWife: 1:57pm On Apr 18, 2018
doyinbaby:
After traditional marriage sex is permitted in the sight of God......any pastor that tell you not to have sex after traditional marriage is a marriage breaker......
When toddlers attempt adult tasks, curiously hilarious sturvs happen.

How couldn't they have known Trad was the main deal? Were they living in a vacuum?

Good super story script sha
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by mgdimagaladima(m): 2:07pm On Apr 18, 2018
U are not a virgin and u no agree to have sex with ur husband .... if to say u are a virgin that case is different


let me advice u: go to ur village and beg them to leave u alone cos ur village people are at world

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Nobody: 2:32pm On Apr 18, 2018
Nice fiction story. Anyway traditional marriage is d main marriage not even white wedding so u got misled by ur pastor.
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by fireback: 2:32pm On Apr 18, 2018
IdeyFindWife:

How couldn't they have known Trad was the main deal? Were they living in a vacuum?

Good super story script sha
note that, some Christians worship their pastors more than GOD.
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by doyinbaby(f): 2:53pm On Apr 18, 2018
IdeyFindWife:

When toddlers attempt adult tasks, curiously hilarious sturvs happen.

How couldn't they have known Trad was the main deal? Were they living in a vacuum?

Good super story script sha
if the story is true Na.....wah oh
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Ytodil004: 3:21pm On Apr 18, 2018
Story that touch.......
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by IdeyFindWife: 3:37pm On Apr 18, 2018
doyinbaby:
if the story is true Na.....wah oh

fireback:

note that, some Christians worship their pastors more than GOD.

This is the multimillion dollar question I always ask myself.

Who picks the tabs and how does God feel about all the people who have been misled by wrong teachings? Who's gonna pay for all that?

A man wants to please God his life, enters church, doesn't know much and they start miseducating him about life, reality, society, eternity, divinity, civility etc all at once; who are we to hold if that man gets up out of Church to go and start screwing up?

Sometimes you think you know but ya don't. Everybody jumping so many clapping but all you got in the congregation most times are a lotta blank-minds and empty souls, God help his Church.
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by izaray(f): 3:39pm On Apr 18, 2018
You self went too far. You even went as far as kicking his balls, do you wanna kill somebody ni

And you are not even a virgin to start with embarassed. Carry ur cross jor

Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by Hhenryy: 3:53pm On Apr 18, 2018
LoreDnz:
met him in church one Sunday morning. He sat next to me and I couldn’t help it but recognize the kind of gentleman he was. He was soft spoken and had this shyness on her face anytime he tried to talk to me. During the service, I realized he was finding it uneasy to sing along with the church because he didn’t come along with a hymn book. I shared mine. We both sang from the same hymn book and got closer as the service progressed.

After the last grace was said by the priest and the church dispersed, he turned to me and said thank you. I smiled and asked his name. “I’m Martin,” he said. “Nice meeting you Martin” I responded. But before I could turn around and leave, he told me; “Actually, this is my first time being here.” Amid smiles he continued. “and it’s great finding a friend at my first time in church. Do you mind if I called you sometimes?”

We exchanged contacts and left each other’s presence. Truth be told, I was going through the hardest times of my life. The man I’ve dated for about two years just called it quit and I was very devastated. I was nursing my wounds when Martin came along. He kept crossing my mind all week but I resolved not to call him until he does. He never called until we met in church again the next Sunday. Inwardly, I felt guilty for thinking about him the way I did all week. That’s girlish. But we had another good service together, singing from the same hymn book and making fun under our breath.

After the service, he called when he got home. We started chatting on Whatsapp and grew closer together as the days pass. I shared my story of broken relationships with him and he was kind enough to offer soothing words. He didn’t judge me. He didn’t condemn my actions or sought to give directions as to how I should have handled things. He gained my trust that way and I opened up more. He told me a little bit about himself. Nothing of note though, but I was happy he was overcoming his shyness. We grew closer and closer until finally, after about six months later, he made it obvious that he wanted us to date.

He didn’t propose to me. I don’t remember him telling me he loved me or wanted to be with me. He loved to act than to use words. We spoke more about it and decided to be in a relationship. He already knew my fears and easily accepted the conditions I laid down for the relationship. I told him; “I don’t want sex now. At least, if it should happen, it should happen after marriage, that is if you have any intention to marry me.” He only nodded and smiled. That day in his room, I remember we had our first kiss.

It was awesome! A lot of things started running through my head. Hey, I wasn’t a nun. I’ve had sex before and kisses this intense usually lead to sex. I remember grabbing him intensely like my whole life depended on him. I was shaking. I wanted something more than the kiss but I held on. He was gentle. The farthest he could go was to hold my head in between his palms, look me in the eyes and kissed intensely. I couldn’t breathe. I gathered the little strength in me and pulled away. I was panting like I’ve been running around for hours. The next words that came out were; “No more kisses until marriage. I mean it.”

For the next two years, we didn’t kiss and we never had sex. The farthest we went was to hold hands, lean on each other and occasionally cuddle. Martin was a good boy and I loved him dearly. We decided to get married after two years of being together. When we started counseling, our pastor wanted to be sure if we’ve had sex before. We had all the pride in us when we answered no. I don’t know if he believed us but we were telling the truth and didn’t care if he did. He only told us to be careful since it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in. We knew our strength. We were sure we could scale above all temptations.

Our marriage arrangement was to have the traditional wedding and then do the church wedding in six months later. We started having troubles. The urge to have sex became greater. After all, we were going to marry so what stops us from having sex? In my mind, I wanted our first sex to be special. I wanted to blow his mind off during our first sex and what better moment to do it than to wait for the honeymoon? this thought kept me going. Two weeks before the traditional marriage, we spent most nights together in the same room and on the same bed. We had a lot of errands and arrangements to do and it was better we stayed together. But sex had a way of creeping into our minds.

I remember one night it turned into a serious scuffle. Martin wanted it. I’ve never seen him so aggressive. He was pushing and struggling with me to allow him to have s*x. To him, we were already married and didn’t see the reason to still cover the cookie. I implored. I fought him. At some point, I wanted to scream. What the pastor said was ringing loud in my ears; “it’s at this stage that all manner of temptations creep in.” Amid threats of screaming and loud prayers, I won and slept in peace. That wasn’t the last. We kept having series of minor fights because of s*x.

Days to the traditional wedding was tough. We could go all day without talking to each other. He was angry and I was angry. S*x was killing the beautiful thing we had together. But we soldiered on. Finally, we did the traditional wedding. The pastor was there to pray and bless the union. During his sermon, he complimented us for staying chaste all this while and told us to still be strong and keep it till after the church wedding. I could see my husband restless and with a subtle frown.

The night after the traditional wedding we had a fight. Our first fight as husband and wife happened on a night we ought to be happy together. What brought the fight? SEX! Not That I didn’t want to have sex, I wanted to but the time wasn’t right. So I told him; “Didn’t you hear what the pastor said? This is not the real marriage so we can’t have sex. Hold it together. We are only six months away.” After saying this, my new name was launched; “Madam-We-Can’t-Have-Sex, I hear you but tomorrow, I’ll have s*x somewhere else.” Did you hear what he just called me? Madam-We-Can’t-Have-S*x? At this point, I didn’t care who he would have sex with if only.. Continue reading..


Story story, too long.

Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by summerflame(m): 3:55pm On Apr 18, 2018
I told my gf that I can't pay for a car either new or used without test driving it, she agreed and we do have series of hot sex, I never cheated on her since then, though we live far apart, she lives in badagry and I reside in Ibadan... The norm is this, I ain't a virgin and u ain't one, why putting me on a tight condition?.... I can't do no sex till after marriage unless I'm permitted to cheat before marriage... For your info, I ain't a pervert but nature can't be cheated... As food is for mouth is sex to body
Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by OfficialDad: 4:23pm On Apr 18, 2018
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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by chuksonia(m): 4:52pm On Apr 18, 2018
Nnaabros:
At this point, I didn’t care who he would have sex with if only that would make him stay off me till our honeymoon.

For a week, we lived in the same room but talked less to each other. He was always angry with me. What a way to start a married life. I was determined. To me, that was the right thing to do. The church frowns on sex before marriage, not that I also frown on it, I had a different motivation. I wanted the first sex to be unforgettable. I was saving my best for last and for no one but him. So why was he rushing?
Then one night things got worse. Martin came home with a friend. He was too drunk he couldn’t have made it home without the help of his friend. We had spent two arduous months together. I was sad for him. “Is he going through all that because of sex?” I asked myself. I left him in the coach till he woke up at dawn and came to sleep next to me. He was smelling like a rotten fish. I couldn’t stand it so I woke up, picked a pillow and started walking away to sleep in the coach. He pulled me over and tried forcing himself on me. We’ve been through this tussle over and over again and I always won. I was used to it. This time, something was different. He was stronger and determined.


We struggled and fought for about fifteen minutes. He seemed to get stronger by the minutes while I was losing steam. He managed to tear off my pant and held my two hands apart with his two hands. We were both left with our legs to struggle with. I got tired and realized I couldn’t fight any longer. I kept my calm. He sensed the victory and quickly dashed over to have me. That was when I raised my right knee and unfortunately, my knee caught him in the balls. He fell over and screamed out loud. He suddenly got frozen. I’ve never been scared in my life. I thought I had killed him. I tried calming him down but he kept whining in pains. Neighbors who heard him screaming started knocking on our door. I rushed to put on a dress and opened up the door. It was very embarrassing seeing neighbors in my room trying to help him regain his calm. After a lot of going up and down, he regained his calm. We were left alone.

The next morning, he packed what he had in the house and left. I didn’t ask him any question. I feared he might hit me. I left to my parent. I kept playing out the incidence in my mind over and over again. I kept asking myself; “Did I take this no sex thing too far.” I believe I did. He never picked my calls for three days. My parent and I went to meet him and his parent to try and resolve the issue but he didn’t listen to a word of what we had to say. All he said was he wanted a divorce. Two weeks later, his parent and other family members came over to dissolve the marriage.
That was it. My marriage lasted for only two and half months. What breaks my heart is the fact that I gave sex to those who didn’t deserve it. They had sex and left anyway. This one—Martin did everything right but I allowed fear to take over my senses. Recently, I heard from another pastor saying that traditional marriage is also marriage and sex is allowed after traditional marriage. If that was true, how stupid could I be? I was married and I didn’t even know it?


Three and half years after our break-up, I attended a wedding—Martin’s wedding with another lady I knew so well. I’m here, still single after six years of our breakup. Guess what, I had a boyfriend. We had sex but the relationship didn’t go well so we broke up. Back to single again.


so even after I've had the traditional marriage with u, u still chose to refuse me the koko, ladies can be wicked maybe you'll go and give it to your pastor ah, she even killed his balls as killed ma fvcking balls ma god that guy Is really I good guy !!! that's the line ma dear and u just crossed it

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Re: How “no Sex Before Marriage” Destroyed My Marriage, 6yrs after I'm still single by drey076(m): 6:37pm On Apr 18, 2018
izaray:
You self went too far. You even went as far as kicking his balls, do you wanna kill somebody ni

And you are not even a virgin to start with embarassed. Carry ur cross jor
My thought also
Another guy Don chop her Puna well well, she comes dey suffer brother Martin's even after traditional wedding
Make she carry her cross

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