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Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by OmoAlata1(f): 9:53pm On May 15, 2018 |
I will love to mentor you. You need strong positive women in your life. Please go focus on building your career and empowering yourself. Find a man who will love you for you and accept you for you. A good man will make you a better version of yourself, he will not try to rob you of your identity and strip you of your self worth. Any man who tells you that you must be someone else before he can accept you , please RUN. Date but your number one priority right now should be your career and empowering yourself. Don’t ever quit your job for any man ever again. BukkyDan: 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by ststyreal(f): 11:16pm On May 15, 2018 |
BukkyDan:Y did you resigned in the first place. He is choking you just tell him you need a space biko. This is not how relationship should be. You are met to enjoy a relationship and not the other way round. Just my opinion though! |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by victorian(f): 11:36pm On May 15, 2018 |
Break off from that guy, he's the devil incarnate. I can never be in a relationship where I will be crying every night and begging 24hours cos I didn't pick his call. I don't need such stressful man in my life. Relationship is not meant to be endured in suffering. Don't allow this your boyfriend destroy you, cause u are actually towing that lane already. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Acidosis(m): 7:54am On May 16, 2018 |
BukkyDan: First, I apologize for being too hard with my comment (na so I dey do on the Internet) Second, I think you're a good girl and obviously deserves better. Your first relationship shouldn't be this toxic, if you tarry for too long, he's going to twist your psychology to the extent you'll start seeing bad as normal. The no-sex rule isn't out of place. In fact, sex with that man will bring out the worse in terms of trust and insecurity. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by thorpido(m): 8:30am On May 16, 2018 |
BukkyDan, You're dating an insecure and controlling guy.It's right there in your face that he's not the best for you.Some girls have gone ahead only to find themselves in terrible situations. You deserve better especially because it's your first relationship.Don't force it. Relationships are meant to be enjoyed and DON'T EVER leave yourself in a relationship where you have NO SAY! Concentrate on getting a job and developing a career for yourself.A man that is right for you works along with you,not stop your own progress for his interest. I think you should slowly wind down from this relationship(it might be difficult for you to just cut him off).Stop answering his calls all the time.DON'T apologise when he starts to rant.Deliberately start to create space between you two.Don't fall for his emotional manipulations. Cheers. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Mogenerous(f): 8:37am On May 16, 2018 |
The first red flag is you succumbing to pressure from him and not actually that you really want to be in a relationship. Trust me, if you love him enough, you won't have to be pressured to date him at the first place. Two, you resigned to be with him. I want to ask, are you guys married yet? What if it takes a while before you get another job? How long have you guys been committed that made you sacrifice something that big. Three, it's written all on the wall, you guys will have to work extra hard to make this work. He had trust issues, that's not something you should deal with. The fact that he chased all your male friends away because of insecurity speaks volumes. He might never be able to trust you no matter how much you try. Four, he doesn't give, run my dear, if not you will end up settling for something you won't be happy about. You will have to carry a lot of burden all by yourself. It will be too heavy on you and as time goes on, there will be too much pressure for you to even cope. One thing I learnt is a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage and every relationship is a blessing of its own because even if it doesn't end well, you get to learn one or two. You'd make mistakes you won't have to make again. The decision is yours to make but evaluate your relationship. Does the good outweigh the bad or otherwise? Does it make you happy. If happiness is gone from a cause, it no longer worth so much fight no more. Especially if it's just you fighting for it. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Mogenerous(f): 8:44am On May 16, 2018 |
Acidosis: This is so wrong. It's her first, mistakes are meant to be made. That's how we prevail in life. Tell me Mr/Miss perfect if you have never made a decision you regret later on. Please, let her make her own mistakes now in order for her to grow. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by JoannaSedley(f): 8:47am On May 16, 2018 |
The resignation part in this Buhari era broke me.
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Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Nobody: 10:40am On May 16, 2018 |
chii8: No job in the country, Imagine people that died during the immigration job 2 years back. This one dey leave job because of Prick !!! Anyway what's my business |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Nobody: 10:41am On May 16, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: Hi Boo Boo, would you resign just for me..Love can conquer all |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by JoannaSedley(f): 10:47am On May 16, 2018 |
cruchenutii:yeah right boo. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Nobody: 10:51am On May 16, 2018 |
tabithababy: Asin ehhhh, d guy toast your brain komot sha! My dear find the nearest exit in that relationship and find it fast! As a guy, I still take pictures with some girls I have relations with and am not necessarily dating. I still take some of them out etc but your so called ‘bf’ has done none of the things that would help you guys as a couple bond and relax; even if it’s just once sef. Be careful though, breaking up might not be easy, he might be possessive, too possessive. Bottom line is, breaking up won’t be easy but that’s the best route now. I’m a guy and I can comfortably tell you you’re being owned. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Nobody: 10:56am On May 16, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: lol habba, don't you believe in love? Nigerian ladies na wa o |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Eketem: 2:44pm On May 16, 2018 |
Unfortunately you won't listen to sane advise, you will marry him and come back a few years later with tales of woes then he may have added domestic violence to the drama. This is abuse it has nothing to do with submission. Madam fixer, many women have gone into marriages hoping to fix damaged men and are lamenting all over |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by Nobody: 3:19pm On May 16, 2018 |
BukkyDan: If these are true then i think you should leave him. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by greatcrown: 5:49pm On May 16, 2018 |
Dating a man for almost four years inspite of the fact that you have known him for years and yet the relationship seem to be retrogressing. Your best bet is to dump him and move far away from him since he seems to know how to control your emotion. If you don't move away from him other men will not come. |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by sisisioge: 6:18pm On May 16, 2018 |
Hmmm... I suspect Mr. Jay is light years older than you,right? Older guys and this control freak. He probably has another he shows the world, you are his side calm. Just leave already! By the way,I don't mean all o |
Re: Please Help A Confused Lady Out. by goldwaters(f): 4:21pm On May 17, 2018 |
you shouldn't have resigned but the deed is already done. A man who truly loves you will want to see you grow not sacrifice your future for him. Asking you to resign when he doesn't have an alternative is a major red flag from my point of view.. Deep red o... |
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