This “Bae Allowance” of a thing is seeming not to fade away, and it’s gradually becoming a sort of barge of dishonor latched on women as being vampiress money-sucking creatures who hold men for no other value asides the material and cash gifts they can afford to bestow on them, or are willing to.

Really, I doubt women or situations set-out to become (a) trade, with the man exchanging money, gifts for the sex both the man and woman enjoyed.

You see, when a person(man or woman) is attracted to another( I don’t mean on a platonic level), sexual feelings make-up part of the attraction. Anyone who is arguing otherwise is being untrue to themselves.

That is why it is called “chemistry”, and chemistry is never one-sided, though its mutuality may be elicited. This “elicitation of mutuality” may take time, involve enticement, persuasion and convincing. Whatever it takes, just make the other feel the same way.

Remember I already said sexual feelings compose part of attraction. So if you focus on getting someone to like(love) you, somewhere down the line, maybe sooner, later, or much(much) later, the other person would invariably develop sexual desires for you(too).

Sometimes people (men) are not willing to let things run this course. They want the sexual bond sooner than later, talk less of much(much) later, and would make inducements to elicit it and/or sustain it.

In the same vein, when you are attracted to someone, you are (more) generous, kind-hearted and open to them. Men and women alike. In plain words, you would freely give them without reservation. Even when not exerted( when they don’t ask), people freely gift their love interest.

Once you attain a certain threshold of loving someone, everything becomes easy; the giving and the taking. That is why a penniless man can still find love and enjoy all the pleasure(s) within without spending the fortune he does not have. And that is why all women are not prostitutes who lay their backs on the ground for the highest bidder.

In essence, give it time, a woman would long for intimacy with a man she likes and a man will be willing to buy a woman he loves heaven and earth(as long as he can afford it).

The complications that give rise to the Bae allowance thingy is when either one party narrows down their attraction for the other to sexual desires or materialistic gain, and then focus their quest on achieving that promptly, giving all it may take to accomplish the mission.

Some men are all sexually attracted to women they chase, nothing else, and some women only love the big pockets of the men in their life. Remove any of these from the relationship, then all the attraction is gone.

Another thing is that it’s norm for men to go for women who are younger than they are. Many years, decades younger. By this, men enter relationships with women who when they, the men, were the same age as the younger women are now, they hadn’t achieved much themselves, material wise, and were dependent on others at that time. Maybe the young girl is still a student, apprentice or a graduate without employment, or newly employed and yet to gain her feet on the ground. A stage the older male had passed in the past given that he is other. And was not any more buoyant than the girl at that stage of his life.

Remember I have already talked about generosity (willingness to give and share) being part loving someone. So being in the young(er) girl’s life, the man (may) out of the generosity cater for some of her needs.

The older women who already earn a means of livelihood are usually feared to be “too independent”. That is almost funny. Dependence or independence does not mean someone who lives off another or who does not live off another, rather it represents someone who has the incapacity or the capacity to live off themselves. And the former should not be a bad thing. It should not negate a woman for whatever reason. Either for the protection of the ego of a man or for the fear of her dominance.

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You must be living in the 19/18th century... who gives bae "girlfriend allowance " in this century?